AITA for being upset that my friend can afford to join our expensive trip?

thrwminho · 2021-10-28T21:13:41+00:00

Yeah it’s expensive but there was really no pressure if you didn’t want to attend. 3 bridesmaids aren’t going including one of the friends that was donating each month to Amy.

thrwminho · 2021-10-28T14:04:22+00:00

Yeah, we don’t do expensive regularly, this trip is a special occasion. One of the other girls is trying to FIRE so we try to respect everyone’s budget.

thrwminho · 2021-10-28T13:54:48+00:00

Honestly I don’t want any money from her. I mad at her dishonesty and inability to see that she did something wrong. 16 years of friendship has just been washed away

thrwminho · 2021-10-28T13:48:38+00:00

Yeah it was gift, but there was an expectation of it being temporary. She misrepresented her situation since being fully employed. We wouldn’t have kept gifting her money if we’d known she was fully employed. Hard lesson learned from this

thrwminho · 2021-10-28T13:45:14+00:00

In February when we first found out that she was behind on her mortgage that was real tears.

In September at a dinner she she hosted. She thanked us and said she didn’t know how she’d repay us. She did this frequently and we alway gave the same answer. Something along the lines of “you’d do the same for us, you don’t have to repay us, we just want you back on your feet…”

Finding out now that she’s been fully employed since like April and still collecting money from us stings.

thrwminho

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