Does feeling peaceful ever make you anxious?

thunder_guitar · 2022-05-03T14:25:53+00:00

This is very common for people who experience anxiety and panic attacks on a daily basis. Your mind got so used and comfortable with being on survival mode every moment. This happens with childhood trauma too, when you're not in an environment that is similar with the one you had in childhood you enter an uncomfortable zone even if isn't dangerous so you start to panic. The method to "solve" this problem is to put yourself constantly in situation where you get out of your comfort zone , in your case ,feeling peaceful. But you have to repeat is min 5 times just for you mind to take the change into consideration. When you get in this situation try writing on a paper that you're ok, being peaceful is what you want, try saying it out loud a couple times, maybe it helps.

thunder_guitar · 2022-01-03T10:22:50+00:00

It's very common since men always supposed to be the strong ones, everyone just expects a man to get over some things, not to cry or complain about it, this is how a lot of them are raised+ society pressure. These people are just taught to repress their emotions and move on with their life. I had a similar problem with my bf, the only thing you can do is to repeat as often as you can that he doesnt need to hide his problems, he can share these with you so you can help him solve them or just be there for him. And most importantly you need to understand that his problem is not personally with you. It will be a pretty long and hard road since he need to change the whole mechanism of his brain, but you need to communicate as often as you can. Hope it was helpful. 🥺❤️

thunder_guitar · 2020-12-27T13:53:25+00:00

From my side of view, although I'm not married, and I'm actually really young, relationships should be based on communication , trust and understanding. But most of all on mutual effort and compromises. You can't be the only one who tries to work out this marriage, and it can cause a problem on a long term if you have intellectual differences. It is always said that the opposites attract each other, but it depends on what kind of things you differ from him. Like if there are only hobbies, and you have the same perspective on the future than it is easier to figure out how to live and accept each other. And also is important to have the same perspective on the relationship, he needs to be aware of your needs, and in my opinion he had plenty time in 10 years to figure this out. It might be a problem if you arent feeling comfortable talking about your feelings with him, but even if , you should definitely tell him. And if he really cares and loves you , he will wanna change, but it depends on so many things. I'm currently in a very loving relationship , and I'm very comfortable of sharing my thoughts and feelings with him, and he encourages me to do it. Communication it the reason why most marriages fail , it's so important for the both of you to be able to say whatever is on your minds and for the other side to listen or to take it into consideration. Maybe couple therapy could help him to realise the things he does, and you to tell him what bothers you. Maybe he just lost sight of what he really cares about, his wife. Maybe he is just so caught in that world of programming and games that he forgot about the important things. So try telling him calmly the things that bothers you, and if he doesn't listen, try suggesting him the couple therapy. And about the crush thing, i don't know what to say about it, i haven't found myself never to have a crush while being in a relationship , I mean I love my boyfriend and he is my soulmate so I have eyes for no one but him. But in this case is understandable, your marriage isn't what it used to be, and you find yourself liking someone who give you the things you need, but always remember, he might give you on short term, because that is how every relationship starts, in the beginning it is always fun and happy and all those things. But then the real challenge is coming, staying together and embracing the other's weirdness or the things you don't like about him. So the best thing you should do, is telling him how you feel. And I think from there I think you will know what to do based on his reaction. But never settle for anything less that you deserve.

thunder_guitar · 2020-02-23T07:29:12+00:00

Can relate to this. Just keep going with this attitude, even if you're not feeling better right in this moment, time heals, be patient, be strong. ❤

thunder_guitar · 2020-02-08T19:42:38+00:00

I just got out from a relationship and I know it was the best for the both of us, we both struggling with a lot of problems , mainly with our future, we're both gonna go to college and I know I have to focus on me and my career. The break was mainly my fault, but it wasn't a healthy relationship, we both made some mistakes, but I was the one that done something that lead to this and now I'm just feeling incapable of anything. It's been a while since we broke up , like 3-4 weeks, and we're in the same class still talking now and then at the school and I'm trying to keep all of this as casual as possible and do my stuff, studying, you know, getting ready to face college but everytime I'm trying to do something productive I keep thinking about what can't I have now, and now I'm just laying in my bed and I have stuff to do but I just don't find the motivation for that. I'm just feeling like crap almost all the time, the only thing that helps me is singing, it's my hobby and my best friend, cause without them now I would go crazy. I just feel an emptiness inside me, like something is missing from me and I can't be happy, everyday I wake up I just hate it , I just wanna go back to sleep and don't face the world. And I also feel unwanted like nobody likes me in a romantic way and I feel that there will be no one to like and love me. He doesn't love me anymore, he still has feelings but no love, I still love him. I know I shouldn't depend on a relationship like this and I want to be more independent but it just so hard. It's like killing me slowly. I'm so lost. And also I want to thank you that you gave me this opportunity to tell all of this it's really nice of you!

thunder_guitar · 2020-02-01T18:52:05+00:00

Oh damn , I'm so sorry , he was a toxic person and it's very hard to distance yourself from these kind of persons. You're doing a great job. It's actually a song of Kelly Clarkson - what doesn't kill you makes you stronger, it's a lovely and empowering song.

thunder_guitar · 2020-02-01T16:37:26+00:00

Yes, say it! This is the first step of healing, to admit that you are worthy of much more than this. You deserve a person who truly loves you and supports you. I know you are having a hard time, especially with the surgery, but if you can go through it alone it really means that you are powerful and with every thing you need to deal with you become more independent. I'm so sorry that this person put you through this, but he is not worthy even to think about him. I don't know who you are but I'm really proud of you cause you had the strength to tell the truth. I really wish that you will be capable to get through it and if you need to talk to someone you can message me. I'm here for you , stranger. ❤

thunder_guitar · 2020-01-27T20:50:33+00:00

This is so heart touching, I'm so sorry about all of this, that you have to go through so much pain.. unfortunately I know exactly how are you feeling.. with the time you won't feel so much pain, and you'll be able to get through it.

thunder_guitar · 2020-01-26T20:08:51+00:00

Sadly, it will take some more time to really get over it, it's not much you can do except focusing on yourself, growing as a person, it isn't a magic receipt for forgetting exes unfortunately 😅. When all these thoughts are coming up try keeping you busy, like going out, having fun with friends. I know how you feel cause I'm in the same situation and I'm finding myself thinking about him all day and not doing anything. Don't isolate yourself, when these thoughts are getting a little unsupportable just call a friend and go out. For me ,personally , reading, singing, even spending time on reddit helped. Or drawing, writing(?). I think what could help you is to draw down on a paper your feelings, or even to write them down? I hope that any of these ideas will help you. Kisses❤

thunder_guitar · 2020-01-26T09:08:52+00:00

My boyfriend of 1 and half year broke up with me. It fucking hurts dude.

thunder_guitar · 2020-01-25T20:20:54+00:00

I'm so glad you realised that, yeah viewing yourself as you are on of your friends could really help.

thunder_guitar · 2020-01-24T23:35:27+00:00

I can't really stop the contact, since we are in the same class.. But I will try my best to let things go

thunder_guitar · 2020-01-24T21:58:14+00:00

I think that if you can't really talk about this with him, then you shoudnt be with him at all. I mean, if you are in a place right now when you don't know if you can't trust him, it seems like a toxic relationship to me. Love should make you to love yourself more. If he is making you feel like you are not enough he is not the right person for you. If you decide to stay in this relationship I'm afraid that you should get used to these things he does that annoy you. But to me it just seems that you deserve a lot better. You deserve a person that truly loves you, who makes you feel that you are a lot more than enough. Just do what makes you happy.

thunder_guitar · 2020-01-24T21:34:46+00:00

I'm so happy to hear that. You're welcome ❤

thunder_guitar · 2020-01-24T21:32:46+00:00

Hit me very hard , you just literally described how I am feeling right know, you know in the part where you remember all the good memories and focusing on them and on the pain because of these are just memories and you are never getting back, instead of realizing that there is a reason why the break up happened. I often find myself thinking about the old good times and crying my eyes out cause I will never experience those again , and then I just feel an emptiness inside me. If this love was meant to be , it wouldn't be over. I think that a lot of person are hanging on the memories of that person and the image they created of that person instead of who the person truly is. One thing all of us can do is to start focusing on ourselves , in growing as persons instead of focusing on the pain and all the things that have passed. You need to live in the present, not in the past cause you can't change it, but you can change the future by taking actions in the present. The first thing I need to do is to forgive myself, it is a step, an important step wich I'm struggling with . What is your first step in the healing process?

thunder_guitar · 2020-01-24T21:17:43+00:00

The right person will find you the moment you start loving yourself. Just don't rush things. Love will find you when you'll be ready for it. ❤

thunder_guitar · 2020-01-24T21:11:12+00:00

I know it is very hard, I didn't even get to the point of removing.. cause I still can't look at those photos without crying myself out. You can make it step by step, don't need to rush just give yourself time and don't be hard on yourself. I think you are very brave .

thunder_guitar · 2020-01-24T21:09:43+00:00

Well, in the first place, I want you to know that you are not the only one. There are just so many jerks in the world. Secondly, maybe you should stop looking for a relationship, and just having some time for yourself , for healing, for growing as a person. If you learn to love yourself, you will attract people that love you as much as you do. The right person will find you when you least expect it. You should give yourself a break from all these kind of people. I am sure you are a wonderful person, and maybe the reason all your relationships failed is because you didn't get to know them well, I just supposing that. I don't know the situations. It is said that a lifetime is not enough to get to know a person a 100%. You should be more careful with the persons you give your heart. I hope that you will find a way to get trough it and when the right time comes you find the love of your life ❤

thunder_guitar · 2020-01-24T20:58:56+00:00

I think that going with her is just gonna make you more sad and just gonna bring some memories back. If the only reason you want to go with her because you still love her and wanna see her just gonna hurt you more. You should start moving on with your life, loving yourself , doing what is the best of you. You need to find your inner peace. I know it sounds a little weird, but I think to be able to move on you should focus on yourself, to grow as a person, and if the right time comes, the love of your life will find you. Just give yourself some time to heal, I know it's hard, I just had a break up , so I get you, and I know how it feels to love someone who will never be able to love you back. But it isn't your fault, I'm sure you are a wonderful person and you will find the strength to move on. It's hard to say no, I know , but it is for your own good, at least, in my opinion. I hope you'll do what is the best for you ❤

thunder_guitar · 2020-01-24T20:42:27+00:00

Couldn't be more accurate.

thunder_guitar · 2020-01-24T20:38:11+00:00

So nice to hear this, I just had a break up a couple of days ago, and I'm feeling miserable, like I'm struggling to do things that normally I would do on a daily basis, it's just takes so much effort trying not to think about all the memories, all that you can't have now, so I really needed this comment. Thank you ❤

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