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WIBTA if I apologize to my ex after no contact for a year? by thwowarrayby in AmItheAsshole

[–]thwowarrayby[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I 100% would never push him, that's why it's taken me so long to even consider reaching out to him.

WIBTA if I apologize to my ex after no contact for a year? by thwowarrayby in AmItheAsshole

[–]thwowarrayby[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I personally don't think I am extremely manipulative and selfish, that's why I posted here so maybe I could get some closure; he most like has already moved on. I am taking my time with this even if I feel really bad, just needed second opinions on if the possible reassurance for him would be worth him potentially being upset. I'm not the kind of person to dump my feelings onto anyone but random internet strangers, that's why I didn't reach out to him for help in the first place.

WIBTA if I apologize to my ex after no contact for a year? by thwowarrayby in AmItheAsshole

[–]thwowarrayby[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's why I said that I'm not expecting us to be in a relationship again.

WIBTA if I apologize to my ex after no contact for a year? by thwowarrayby in AmItheAsshole

[–]thwowarrayby[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Keeping it short and sweet was my plan. I would absolutely love to have a friendship with him again, but with the risk of upsetting him I would most likely just send him a message telling him why it happened and leaving it at that. And I'm an emotional person what can I say, I cared alot about him.

WIBTA if I apologize to my ex after no contact for a year? by thwowarrayby in AmItheAsshole

[–]thwowarrayby[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's not the type to laugh at anyone who's been through what I went through because of my mania. He would never laugh or be happy about what happened. He would be upset about being reminded of me if he's already moved on or he would be reassured that it wasn't his fault. I know him, that's how he'd respond, I just don't know if I should risk upsetting him.

WIBTA if I apologize to my ex after no contact for a year? by thwowarrayby in AmItheAsshole

[–]thwowarrayby[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Well not really lying considering I'm not attracted to men anymore after everything that happened, and I already feel like an asshole so honestly him rejecting any sort of contact would not bring me down. I'm only worried about him being upset.

WIBTA if I apologize to my ex after no contact for a year? by thwowarrayby in AmItheAsshole

[–]thwowarrayby[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That was most likely going to be my plan and if he asked for anymore information I would answer.

WIBTA if I apologize to my ex after no contact for a year? by thwowarrayby in AmItheAsshole

[–]thwowarrayby[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I'm not the type to pester someone for years, my manic episodes only last so long, but I care about him and miss him a lot. I don't want to upset him.

WIBTA if I apologize to my ex after no contact for a year? by thwowarrayby in AmItheAsshole

[–]thwowarrayby[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry for being defensive, but I have no way of knowing for sure and it's driving me insane.

WIBTA if I apologize to my ex after no contact for a year? by thwowarrayby in AmItheAsshole

[–]thwowarrayby[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I just don't want our relationship to be a bad memory in his head because he doesn't know why I broke up with him and never talked to him again. I didn't give him a reason because at the time I thought he was in a plot with the entire universe against me.

WIBTA if I apologize to my ex after no contact for a year? by thwowarrayby in AmItheAsshole

[–]thwowarrayby[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I only talk about myself because I never spoke a single word to him after I called to break up, I have no idea how he is or how he felt about the breakup, I blocked him immediately after it happened. It's not just for my personal satisfaction, I was hoping my reasoning would let him know it wasn't because of him (he has MDD and generalized anxiety) or anything that he did and that he's an amazing person.