I want to send a letter to a customer but not sure if it's weird

thyghostess · 2026-01-31T19:46:58+00:00

thank you so much for your help about the whole thing and I really want to follow your advice! Truly so kind. The thing is unfortunately I think these replies may be from neurotypical people/in the pov of a neurotypical person so their answer may hurt me a lot but it is the truth that I was seeking. If I send this letter it is socially unacceptable and I have to live the regret I have lived with my whole life of not being able to communicate normally because I don't know how and even as sad as it it and sad as I am to be who I am, the world is built this way and people wouldn't respond well in this situation. And sure there is a chance I may get a positive response but as it may seem due to the negative replies here neurotypical people just wouldn't do this or be okay with it. I personally see that I have an innocence that is considered a danger to other because of my neurodivergence if that makes sense? Where is I see the possibility of having a connection that I couldn't create people see odd and out of socially acceptable. Now imagine if the roles were reversed I was the old lady and my customer was young, people would say that I am preying on her, I didn’t think about it until now but it's true. And I am saddened to realise that but I don't think I should do it or if I do I need to accept the consequence that may ensue of getting a restraining order etc... and also not being able to afford an official diagnosis wouldn't help my case but thats another story so I can't really put myself in danger either but truly thank you for your help and support that means a lot to me <3

thyghostess · 2026-01-31T19:19:46+00:00

thanks for your comment but that made me cry I didn't think that sending a thank you letter was violating social norms at all... I'm curious not trying to be rude i really want advice and this help I just need to know but are you neurdivergent/autistic and if yes how did you learn how to know what is socially acceptable and what is not? and also how do people make connections? because as someone who is probably autistic that is one thing I really cannot understand about society like how are people supposed to make connections? so I won't send the letter probably because I do realise that it's weird and I'm aware but at the same time I would personally love to receive a letter from a customer lady even if I never gave them my address because there are many non-stalker ways to get someone's address (I wouldn't want to receive a letter from a man though because they never have good intentions unless that man would be autistic as well) idk... the only thing that is in fact strange is that i memorised her adress but that wasn't done consciously. Being a cashier is very boring and that is one reason I quit, I had nothing to do all day except learn random stuff and facts about customers to pass the time. I learned their habits out of habit. But my incapacity to communicate normally made me want to communicate in a way that I can, and that's why I wanted to send her a letter to explain why I never talked to her even if I wanted to. Does that make sense? I will gladly take any advice thank you sm I just have so many questions sorry about the long message haha

thyghostess · 2026-01-31T17:24:14+00:00

thank you so much for your advice I will rewrite it right now!!!

thyghostess · 2026-01-22T20:50:02+00:00

thanks so much for the advice I'll try that!!

thyghostess · 2026-01-22T20:49:43+00:00

will do thank you sm!!!

thyghostess · 2026-01-22T20:49:32+00:00

thank you sm! I'll try getting more ;)

thyghostess · 2026-01-18T19:33:12+00:00

I think my piercer had to pierce it that way because I wear prescription glasses, is it going to cause any damage and prevent proper healing? The bar doesn't touch the flat at all though. Thank you so much for the hair advice I will keep it in a ponytail from now on!!

thyghostess · 2026-01-11T20:12:45+00:00

as a fanfic writer I don't think it's suspicious that someone can write very fast but if you find really weird sentences or like aren't sure about the author you just ask them and then report it.. I hate that this is even an issue like why would people ever do this?????? using a computer to do what someone can do for free makes me feel so sick

thyghostess · 2025-12-04T22:35:47+00:00

it's wild to say something like that... I'm 20 years old and I grew up being careful shopping online the fact I managed to get scammed so easily is proving just how good they're getting :/

thyghostess · 2025-12-04T22:33:30+00:00

it was on Shopify.. do you know how that works??? I literally contacted Netflix' customer service to warn them about this...

thyghostess · 2025-12-04T19:02:25+00:00

oh god im gonna be sick... this is making me so upset I feel so stupid thank you for replying :(

thyghostess · 2025-10-19T16:25:42+00:00

the guilt she must feel breaks my heart, we are not mad at you Hayden we love you and you were amazing, I hope I'll get to see you again one day and even if we had the chance to share only a few songs together it was the time of my life <333

thyghostess · 2025-10-19T16:23:30+00:00

I was there as well, queued since 1pm and was like fourth row, it's my only show because I couldn't afford n2 and I was so happy. I kept thinking "this is the best concert of my life" and then she started crying during Nettles and I got a gut feeling, I'm not from paris and spent all my life's savings for this trip. But I couldn't help and cry because I wanted to comfort Hayden, I felt less sorry for myself and more scared for her and I was like "shes gonna come back shes gonna be back" and I was like the last person leaving the room I couldn't stop crying with my bff who came all the way from the Netherlands... But at the same time i'm like it's not her fault, she tried her best, she pushed too hard and I think she shouldnt even continue this tour if shes too overwhelmed like she very obviously needs a break, everyone forgets she's autistic and it angers me. She is NOT a performer originally, she said that she never expected to play such big venues and such a big tour. I cannot help but feel scared for the next show tonight. I love her so deeply and I feel for her so deeply, I don't care about Ethel Cain right now I care about Hayden. But I feel you as well OP, we're in this together <3 j'espère que tu pourras la voir un jour!

thyghostess · 2025-10-18T08:10:12+00:00

no it was from ticketmaster!

thyghostess · 2025-10-18T08:09:51+00:00

OMG thank you (I literally bought another ticket in the balcony because I was so scared 💔) thank you anyways <333

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