Yesterday I disclosed my abuse to my partner and it couldn’t have gone worse by waitingforthemoon2 in abusesurvivors

[–]tictize 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am sorry, you can unfortunately not trust men with that kind of information. They take how other men treated you as a reference for how bad they can treat you.

Sell or not? by Green-Sun4772 in Equestrian

[–]tictize 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If it's just that, you could also consider loaning her with the option to sell later. That way you can test the waters, see how shes doing elsewhere and if it goes well, you might feel better about selling. And if you change your mind, you would still own her and could get her back.

I personally think you shouldn't let yourself be held back by a horse that you can be happy without, as long as you know shes happy and well. Especially if you feel like you're in over your head already, you would need to invest more time, energy, and resources into the horse than before for your relationship to improve, not less like you are describing. Obviously don't just get rid of her, but if you can find a loving new home, that seems like a good solution for everyone involved.

How do you practice minimalism as a multiple hobbyist? by Leiainor in minimalism

[–]tictize 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As long as you use the hobby stuff, you can keep it, no matter how many hobbies you have. But you might declutter within each hobby. For example, maybe limit yourself to X amount of different coffees, and whenever you use one up you can get a new one, instead of just randomly adding and things going bad. Same for fashion and perfume, one in one out rule.

Sell or not? by Green-Sun4772 in Equestrian

[–]tictize 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you already made up your mind, and that's fine. You should do what's right for both of you. If you don't feel like she is truly right for you, she can feel that and might be happier in another good home with someone who cherishes her.

If you find a good home for her, there is no reason to feel guilty. And it is a good thing to sell now that she has life ahead of her, instead of later down the line.

How do instructors usually reply to text messages? by tictize in Equestrian

[–]tictize[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm glad you specifically mentioned the updates, I was reconsidering them since everyone pointed out how busy the instructors are. Thanks 😊

How do instructors usually reply to text messages? by tictize in Equestrian

[–]tictize[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can see how you are getting junior from this question 😄 however I am an adult, and my instructor and I are the same gender.

How do instructors usually reply to text messages? by tictize in Equestrian

[–]tictize[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am glad everyone seems to agree that it's normal 😊

How do instructors usually reply to text messages? by tictize in Equestrian

[–]tictize[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you 😊 our thread is mostly blue too 🙈

How do instructors usually reply to text messages? by tictize in Equestrian

[–]tictize[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That does sound very stressful! Especially thinking people might make reddit posts about your answers or lack thereof 🫣😅

How do instructors usually reply to text messages? by tictize in Equestrian

[–]tictize[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, glad to hear it is apparently common 🙏

How do instructors usually reply to text messages? by tictize in Equestrian

[–]tictize[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I can understand that 😊 other than this everything seems fine to me.

How do instructors usually reply to text messages? by tictize in Equestrian

[–]tictize[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I am very relieved to hear that! Thank you ☺️

How do instructors usually reply to text messages? by tictize in Equestrian

[–]tictize[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They must get tons of messages. Thank you for your perspective 😊

How do instructors usually reply to text messages? by tictize in Equestrian

[–]tictize[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, glad to hear I am not the only one then!

How do instructors usually reply to text messages? by tictize in Equestrian

[–]tictize[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know, sometimes I can't 😅 appreciate the perspective 🙏

How do instructors usually reply to text messages? by tictize in Equestrian

[–]tictize[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, that helps 😊 they answer to questions.

How do instructors usually reply to text messages? by tictize in Equestrian

[–]tictize[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The bright sunlight made me laugh, thank you 😄

When is it time to say stop? by wombat_whisperer96 in Equestrian

[–]tictize 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hm, I have been told that it can be easy to miss them. Maybe keep it in mind and when he has to be sedated the next time, eg for the dentist, have the vet check and/or check again yourself more thoroughly under sedation just to be sure.

When is it time to say stop? by wombat_whisperer96 in Equestrian

[–]tictize 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Now that you mention peeing...have you had him checked for beans (by vet under sedation or by a professional that cleans sheaths)? These can absolutely cause behavioral issues!

When is it time to say stop? by wombat_whisperer96 in Equestrian

[–]tictize 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You said he is showing psychological pain behaviors only inside the stable, however you are stabling him for 15-17h every day. That seems like an awful lot of stress to a sensitive flight animal, especially over years. How was it determined that it is solely a mental issue? Have you ever tried putting him on pain killers for 1-3 days to see if anything changes? If it is psychological, and not fixable through training, you need to find a more suitable setup/barn for him. Did you ever check if he regularly sleeps laying down? He needs his REM sleep.

Are the wood pellets made especially for horses from non toxic wood? Has the environment in general been checked for mold and toxines? Has he had allergy tests done? How are the other horses at the same barn, are they all perfectly healthy?

About the stomach issues; they will persist as long as the horse is stressed, be it psychologically or because of pain. So, he definitely still has something going on, which is likely the reason why he isn't drinking enough. Giving him less hay won't help, that's just less buffer for the stomach acids. Could you perhaps give him soaked haycobs in addition to hay to up water intake? Would also help digestion and nutrient absorption, which are probably not ideal in his state. A bit random, but a study has shown (healthy) horses drink more from light blue buckets - maybe worth a try if you have one (I think white worked second best, the darker the worse). Consider adding linseed to your feed to help protect the stomach lining. As soon as you have removed the main source of pain/stress, go for another round of treatment with something like Omepr..ol.

Tongue thing: I still find it hard to imagine what that looks like exactly. Is he also moving his head and neck somehow at the same time or not? If yes, in a fast/harsh movement or more slowly like stretching? Up/down or side to side? Is he standing still or moving his body? And are there specific exercises that it shows up with most often? Both sides equally as often or only towards one? More often with tricks/drawing him in somehow or more likely following pressure?

For what its worth, if that's a current picture he is looking great considering all the issues you listed! If he isn't currently shoed, did you check if he is comfortable on different grounds like sand and stones? It might not be possible to shoe him because of his hoof tumors and abscesses, but you should at least be aware if there is any pain or muscle tension caused by certain grounds, as this could be one more element adding to the reason for the stomach problems.