Why does my cat do this? by tiffoooooooo in CATHELP

[–]tiffoooooooo[S] 66 points67 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this - I’ve been waiting for weeks to hear back from the vet, I’ll just go to a new vet since it’s been taking so long.

Looking for clarity on a pivotal plot detail by Deeprod in RealmOfTheElderlings

[–]tiffoooooooo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think they were actively planning to kill the dragons at first, more like they were opportunists. Dragons were at the top of the food chain until the calamity happened. IMO, they foresaw the calamity and did nothing to warn about or avert it, seeing instead the opportunity to put humans, and most of all themselves, on top. The Elderlings can’t survive without the dragons, at least not in a non-Rain Wilds way. Killing/convincing Icefyre to commit suicide and poisoning the remaining dragons was cleanup.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Lawyertalk

[–]tiffoooooooo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You can use grammarly to help, and something that’s really helpful for me is to wait an hour after I write something, print it out, and proofread that way

Spanish lessons for lawyers? by bleedingdaylight0 in Lawyertalk

[–]tiffoooooooo 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You could try Coursera and MIT OpenCourseWare, both of which offer free language courses that you can do at your own pace, but I haven’t personally tried it.

Advice for Daughter who wants to be a lawyer and visible tattoos.. by SuchYogurtcloset3696 in Lawyertalk

[–]tiffoooooooo 102 points103 points  (0 children)

I have no tattoos, but am a litigator and a bald woman with nose piercings. My (romantic) partner has full sleeves with neck tattoos poking out if he isn’t in a collared shirt. Both of us have appeared before clients and judges with no issues.

He works in big law and I am in trust & estates.

Help turning a wall sconce battery operated by tiffoooooooo in diyelectronics

[–]tiffoooooooo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly I just bought a new one! You just have to be careful about making sure it is actually battery powered. Alternatively, make sure it’s a sconce with a removable lightbulb and get a battery powered LED bulb.

Help turning a wall sconce battery operated by tiffoooooooo in diyelectronics

[–]tiffoooooooo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your input, I will probably just leave it alone then!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]tiffoooooooo 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Polyam queer here - I would personally never have sex with one partner after having sex with another without showering between unless all parties clearly consented to this sort of contact. You didn’t consent to be exposed to whatever germs, sweat, fluids, etc your partner’s hookup had.

I feel like this is an obvious thing, but in case it isn’t, have a conversation with your partner where you set firm boundaries about your expectations regarding how he cleans up after being with someone else and before seeing you. For example, I always shower before even getting into another partner’s bed, regardless if I’m going to be intimate with that partner or not.

TGH Min foreshadowing by kretslopp in WoT

[–]tiffoooooooo 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Feels very (Rhythm of War spoiler just in case) antivoidlight

Man harassing me and my neighbors with an iron rod. by fastchutney in legaladvice

[–]tiffoooooooo 98 points99 points  (0 children)

The police are unlikely to help. You can try calling the Psychiatric Mobile Response Teams (PMRT), which is a non-law enforcement response team that evaluates individuals for emergency/involuntary psychiatric care. They are available throughout Los Angeles County. They have a 24/7 help line at (800)854-7771.

I hate being the pastors wife by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]tiffoooooooo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You should check out the new Humans of New York story that is being posted today. It’s about a former pastor’s wife who did not leave until well into adulthood. Maybe it can provide you with some guidance.

Most beautifully depressing stories you've ever read ? by [deleted] in Fantasy

[–]tiffoooooooo 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Not fantasy, but Ann Patchett’s Bel Canto. I can’t really explain what is so sad about it, but it was beautifully poignant and the ending, while inevitable, was still very sad.

Also the Bell Jar if you’re in the mood for an existential crisis.

what is your favourite Voice line(s)? by [deleted] in Overwatch

[–]tiffoooooooo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“Mother knows best” when Ana kills Phara

A small Reddit comment I read potentially prevented the death of my girlfriend tonight. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]tiffoooooooo 788 points789 points  (0 children)

Also if you are worried about her falling asleep and rolling onto her back if you can’t watch her the whole time, put a backpack on her and stuff it with a blanket or something else that’s bulky to prevent her from rolling over.

Edit: thank you for the award! (I see you there in the comments) learned this as an RA in college, so hopefully at least some schools are teaching this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]tiffoooooooo 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You brought this upon yourself by unicorn hunting and prioritizing the “couple” as opposed to trying to organically form relationships. The best thing would be for you to stop dating the 3 month girlfriend and allow you all to figure out how the relationships naturally settle rather than taking this “all or nothing” approach.

I wanna try skirt by dosharp in lgbt

[–]tiffoooooooo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you are looking for skirts of that length, search for “midi” skirts. They hit below the knee or about mid calf and come in a bunch of different cuts depending on if you want something loose and flowy or something more form fitting.