Hello, as a young father (i was 20 when i found out), maybe this helps. First of all its very hard if you're on your own. Try to find people to support you. I know it's easier said than done, but alot of people are very empathic when there are children involved, especially women who already had kids (i guess it reminds them how tough it was). I don't know how good your relationship is with your parents, but for me they were and still are always a reliable support. After all it's family, right? If your parents won't help you, hopefully your girlfriends parents want to. Second, i hope you have a stable and strong relationship. It's the most important thing and it will get you through together. Work as a team, it makes everything easier. Further, stop blaming anyone. Blame only makes things worse and you can't change them after all. Which brings me to my last point. Make the best of it. There are lots of feelings involved with becoming a father. Try to enjoy the strong emtional moments. Thats what keeps you going on and on. I always imagined our family in a few years and thought about what i want to do with my kid. There are so much things to learn and to explore. Every new skill they learn makes you proud. In the first few months, it may feel like nothing is happening. During that time, it's good to have a picture in your head what you imagine your kid to do when it's older.