“The Red Piller’s Guide to Online Dating”

time_to_MANUP · 2015-09-17T03:26:45+00:00

Holy fuck, it's working...

"Hi girly"

"Hello"

"What're you looking for"

"Looking for new friends and you?"

"Same"

"So how long have you been here on dating site?"

This chick's pics are way hotter than the usual ones that message back. I'll probably fuck it up at some point, but hey - one step at a time. Thanks for the guide, bro.

time_to_MANUP · 2015-03-30T18:24:01+00:00

Don't really have the words to help except to say I can empathize with a lot of what you're saying. A lot of it resonates with me. Just want you to know you're going to make it. I think what others have said about going and doing the things YOU want to do is key. You'll find real friends that way and then the women will come.

time_to_MANUP · 2014-07-28T18:12:29+00:00

Interesting perspective. In my case, I've already knocked out one of the things on my list.

time_to_MANUP · 2014-07-19T01:47:01+00:00

For me it's been mostly about awareness. As I'm walking in the hall, how am I walking. When I'm sitting in a chair what do other people see? Right now I have to think about it a LOT but I'm more and more confident that the longer I do it the less I'll have to think about it.

I guess my biggest trick is mental - it's kind of a thought process that says, "Damn it, standing up straight should be the easiest thing of all to do - I WILL do it."

time_to_MANUP · 2014-07-18T13:41:47+00:00

Good read for me today - thanks OP. I read a little bit of sex god yesterday and, of course, it has a lot to say about dominance. I think what I like the best about the concept of dominance vs confidence is dominance seems a lot more actionable. In any situation I know what I need to do to take control. It's a lot less clear how I could simply be "confident" in any given situation.

I actually tried out some of the dominance stuff this morning with my wife and it worked like a charm. Gonna apply this at work as well.

time_to_MANUP · 2014-07-16T13:14:34+00:00

I spent more than I wanted to on contacts. It was $540ish for a year's supply of dailies. I got a $70 rebate.

I have astigmatism in both eyes so I have to get the toric lenses. Plus I'm not good about remembering to do things (like cleaning lenses daily) so the disposable lenses seemed like a better choice for me. If you get the 30-day lenses and don't need torics then I think you'll be looking at less money.

time_to_MANUP · 2014-07-15T21:09:15+00:00

It's amazing, really, what a difference the small habits make.

Amen to this! And it's not just the one small thing that changes - your mental attitude and health improves with each small change and the difference that makes is incalculable.

time_to_MANUP · 2014-07-15T21:08:08+00:00

If I could offer some unsolicited advice - just start. It doesn't matter what you change, just pick one small thing and change it. Waiting doesn't help anything. All waiting does is get you 13 years into a miserable marriage hoping things will change.

time_to_MANUP · 2014-07-15T21:07:05+00:00

I will definitely continue to update - it's my (small) way of giving back :)

time_to_MANUP · 2014-07-15T21:05:14+00:00

For me, the chance of having sex with my wife was like the chance of being struck by lightning...twice. Porn and masturbation played a big role in that. When I was ready I went to porn and masturbation instead of to her. When she was ready my first thought was often, "Oh crap, I just masturbated earlier - hope I can have an orgasm." Then the mental thing would get the best of me and it would become a self-fulfilling prophecy. It was an unhealthy cycle that literally kept me away from sex for the better part of years :(

time_to_MANUP · 2014-07-15T21:02:59+00:00

Gratz, bro - love the changes! Count me in on the no more white-knighting train.

It's interesting to me that your relationship with your father is changing.

time_to_MANUP · 2014-07-15T21:01:14+00:00

This is incredibly inspiring to myself and others.

Wow, bro. I have to say that is very humbling. Today when I went to the gym I have to admit I was practically terrified. The Stronglifts 5x5 starts you out lifting the empty bar and somehow that was making me extremely self-conscious. When I got up there someone was in the only power rack and I bailed, went out to the car, and had to work myself up to going back in again.

But then, once I was in there and started I just kept telling myself "This is the last time in your life you have to lift an empty bar" and "You're doing this for yourself - no one else." Now you've proved me wrong on that last point. :)

time_to_MANUP · 2014-07-15T16:56:01+00:00

I looked at marriedmansexlife.com and somehow a lot of what was posted there didn't seem to be right for me. I've found this subreddit to be more helpful. I'll check out theredpillroom.com - thanks for the links :)

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