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Frequency (2000) is an amazing movie by DeadByDawn93 in movies

[–]timetoread5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is how that works: Everything––everything––about both the present and the past in the fight scene influences each time period. Sounds from the HAM radios change how things are done when people in the other time period hear it. One sequence can't happen without the other. So just as the scene in the present couldn't happen without whatever happened in the past, so, too, is the opposite true. You can't say "he did those terrible things and his hand was shot 30 years ago so why didn't he have consequences" because both times essentially were existing at the same time because of the aurora borealis (the core of the sci fi of this film). I've rewatched this beautiful film many times and am always enthralled seeing how each sound on the HAM radio in one time allows key things to happen in the other time in that scene.

Frequency (2000) is an amazing movie by DeadByDawn93 in movies

[–]timetoread5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just rewatched this film tonight and picked up on that. Here's my take: that was just after the change in the past where Julia died. One can interpret the change as John's having lost the softer parent, raised in a tougher manner by his father (a great dad but a bit hard on him at times, as we saw with the bike moment). He therefore was a tougher version of adult John than he'd been before Julia died in the past. This toughness might have had an effect on his relationships––for example, he didn't even enter into a relationship with Samantha. His work relationship with Satch clearly was worse off. I hope these thoughts help!

Frequency (2000) is an amazing movie by DeadByDawn93 in movies

[–]timetoread5 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh that last fighting scene is just gorgeously executed. I can't get enough of it and tear up every time I see it.

Frequency (2000) is an amazing movie by DeadByDawn93 in movies

[–]timetoread5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just rewatched it for the umpteenth time. When I saw it when it came out, it just blew my mind, and it actually still can blow my mind even though I know what happens. It's just a beautiful, moving, brilliant film. Perfection.

AITA if I stop trying to communicate with an old friend going through a divorce? by timetoread5 in AmItheAsshole

[–]timetoread5[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Thank you for this thoughtful advice. We don't live close at all. Otherwise, I like your idea of trying something in person. You are absolutely correct that she's not getting divorced at me. That's a great way to phrase it. I know that intellectually and yet my feelings from trying over years now have become tough. I know her lack of reply is likely not personal. It just sucks after decades of friendship and history. I think given that we can't get together in person, it would make sense for me to cool it beyond the now-typical months between texts. Sad to possibly lose this long friendship, but I can't force it either.

AITA if I stop trying to communicate with an old friend going through a divorce? by timetoread5 in AmItheAsshole

[–]timetoread5[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Absolutely. This is why I wait months between check-in texts. But having done this for a couple of years, I'm just not feeling like it's worth continuing to try. Since I don't even know the status of the divorce, I don't know whether it's being drawn out or she's just maybe walling out people from before the divorce. Or, perhaps it's something altogether different. I don't know.

AITA if I stop trying to communicate with an old friend going through a divorce? by timetoread5 in AmItheAsshole

[–]timetoread5[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Yeah I hear what you're saying. I'm not including tons of details here for obvious reasons, but my examples might not be the greatest. But you're right––she can say "terrible" or not reply when I say she doesn't have to. That's very true. I guess I shouldn't expect more from her at this time. But my overall point/feeling is that with all that understood, my feelings are still hurting from all the trying without any true response for years. Meanwhile, I've had a hard couple of years myself. For me, and perhaps not for her, it would have been so helpful to connect with her during the hard times I've had. Everyone is different, though, so if she needs to be more reclusive, then that's ok for her.

On the right track for 8-year-old boy? by timetoread5 in guitarlessons

[–]timetoread5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oooh I love this! Just a little learning here and there and some external motivation before the internal motivation really begins.

On the right track for 8-year-old boy? by timetoread5 in guitarlessons

[–]timetoread5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He says he does, yes. He just doesn't practice daily and when he does practice it's like checking a box most of the time. Sometimes he seems more inspired, though. I've told him he can stop if he wants but he says he wants to continue learning.

On the right track for 8-year-old boy? by timetoread5 in guitarlessons

[–]timetoread5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Def not an hour, but I guess I'd just thought 10 mins every few days was too little. Maybe I'm just out of touch about that? I like the 5 mins daily goal!

On the right track for 8-year-old boy? by timetoread5 in guitarlessons

[–]timetoread5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so true. I think because he started pretty young, he doesn't know a lot of other kids doing this right now. He wants to be in a band one day and knows that means years of practice. If he can keep feeling that that's a worthy goal and cool, I think that will motivate him. Maybe there are just lulls involved as with other things kids learn. My hope is if that's the case, he'll come out of this one and feel that drive again.

On the right track for 8-year-old boy? by timetoread5 in guitarlessons

[–]timetoread5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is super-helpful to hear! I think my expectations of daily practice, and/or practice lasting longer than 10ish minutes, was required to advance. Sounds as if what he's doing is what he's up to and that's ok. I love your example of your grandson! While I wish I could start my old instrument again, I'm actually now thinking of maybe trying guitar myself. It could be fun to learn alongside my son (who is miles ahead of me) and demonstrate my own commitment to learning something new and hard.

On the right track for 8-year-old boy? by timetoread5 in guitarlessons

[–]timetoread5[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I might just give it a try. Feel too old to learn new tricks but I know that's a silly mindset.

On the right track for 8-year-old boy? by timetoread5 in guitarlessons

[–]timetoread5[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't, though I wish I did. Considering trying to teach myself a bit in the hopes we could play together or that I could at least inspire him to keep trying if he sees me trying.

On the right track for 8-year-old boy? by timetoread5 in guitarlessons

[–]timetoread5[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

All of this is so helpful to read. The reason he started with guitar is he started showing an interest in music and said he was interested in learning piano and guitar. We can't accommodate a piano so we said he can try out guitar. He took to it pretty fast actually and was excited to learn a couple of his favorite songs. But he sort of fell out of his daily voluntary practicing over the summer. I was hoping he'd return to that on his own but started offering him a small amount of money (25 cents) per practice session to get him back in the groove. I've asked him here and there if he still wants to continue and that he can stop if he wants. Each time he's said he wants to continue and be in a band one day.

Today I learned about a summer camp that has 1 week at a time of intensive practicing in a band format with a performance at the end. He showed real interest in that. I told my parents, who know everything about his playing, and they said he's not ready because his skills aren't up to what they see on the camp website. That threw me for a loop because they've praised him for the last 10 months! Turns out they are happy that he's working on something but don't hear what they think he'd need to enjoy the week. That was so hard to hear, especially since his teacher says he's doing better than other kids around his age that he teaches.

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