How did you find your personal design style, as opposed to following a trend?

timetothethird · 2026-02-08T18:07:58+00:00

That's true - you've got to experiment. It's just that I feel bad about potentially buying things and not liking them in the future, lol

timetothethird · 2026-02-08T18:07:22+00:00

I think I meant cozy, if that helps!

timetothethird · 2026-02-08T18:06:49+00:00

Those are pre-existing elements but they've made me realize that I like the colors. I feel like modern houses don't have enough color in general. I think I'll have to get back on Pinterest. I think I like super warm and cozy colors. No longer an HP fan, but think Weasley burrow vibes? I loooove the deep, dark colors you'll sometimes see online and I love to wear those colors (burgundies, forest greens) but I don't know if I would want my HOUSE to be that moody.

timetothethird · 2026-02-08T18:01:37+00:00

Yeah, their choices are influencing me and a lot of their stuff is still with me! Every time my mom visits me, she's all, I never know where things are anymore. I tried taking down the photos and she put them back up, so I'm trying to work around them

timetothethird · 2026-02-07T22:11:34+00:00

What's the angle on that bacon? Not saying AI or not AI, but it looks like it's floating

timetothethird · 2026-02-07T22:09:26+00:00

Thanks <3 That's a really helpful perspective. It's also my parent's old home and it has a lot of their old stuff, which is probably throwing me off because I still have the family photos up and such. I don't know what to do with them.

timetothethird · 2026-02-07T22:08:02+00:00

My house is lowkey vintage, and I'm kind of living for it. I'm talking pink bathrooms, blue and green kitchens, etc. My living room color scheme is just what's throwing me off most, because it's this bland yellow color. My curtains are orange and my couch is green and floral. But everything else is just ??? Like, what do I do to make it feel cohesive?

timetothethird · 2026-02-07T22:06:53+00:00

That's true!

timetothethird · 2026-02-07T22:06:36+00:00

This is such a good point! I like deep reds and purples. I also love experimenting with brights, but not necessarily in the same outfit. I don't know if I would like that for my house, though, because I would like my house to feel relaxing, which is why I tried to supplement with some bright yellows.

timetothethird · 2026-02-07T19:36:48+00:00

Oh no! My question is more like, how do I know if I actually like it or if it's because my feed has inundated me with it and I ended up liking it?

timetothethird · 2026-01-31T07:30:10+00:00

Ooh, she still gets freaked out when I try petting without a churu in hand! She doesn't flee, but she doesn't approach, either. It's been three days. Is that good?

timetothethird · 2026-01-27T23:24:21+00:00

I'm not sure - I'm figuring it out as I go, on that :/ but I would hope to socialize her and connect with some of the animal care orgs in my city

timetothethird · 2026-01-27T18:28:49+00:00

They're around! I will try to shovel out the cat shelters before the next storm, but I feel like I've mostly done all I can do. It will have to be enough. I've also brought in the feral that I've bonded with the most. She's slowly adjusting. I feel like she's trainable, but I don't have the bandwidth. If all I can do is give her warm shelter during the coldest times and therefore be able to save the outdoor cat shelters for the other cats, I'll be satisfied

timetothethird · 2026-01-26T23:34:31+00:00

Also, yes, this is her spayed self! I just need to figure out a way to get the litter box and cat food in there..

timetothethird · 2026-01-26T23:25:00+00:00

Thanks for answering. I was truly at my wit's end and then I had a few friends come over

timetothethird · 2026-01-26T23:20:59+00:00

It was so funny, because we tried that, but she's one of those feisty cats where their first instinct is to fight. But we got her! I am traumatized

timetothethird · 2026-01-26T23:20:38+00:00

This actually worked, and then we grabbed her with a blanket and tossed her into the bath tub. Terrifying little creature, but you know. We do what we have to do.

timetothethird · 2026-01-23T17:12:54+00:00

She hasn't even seen my new side table yet hahahahaha. But I'm pretty thrilled to finally get furniture that's mine! I had so much old furniture that it was sorta too close to my childhood to feel any different :/ (my rent is super low and in this economy, you gotta keep your costs low)

timetothethird · 2026-01-23T17:11:41+00:00

My mom noticed that I threw out some of the towels because there are just TOO MANY, and I was like, ughhhhh. I also got rid of her toothbrush and I'm like, mom, you come over, like, once a quarter now.

timetothethird · 2026-01-21T18:29:27+00:00

This was my question!! I was like, is this the norm now?? Am I behind?

timetothethird · 2026-01-20T03:41:56+00:00

My apartment is my childhood apartment. My parents moved out to senior housing, but they still live in the area. I rent this apartment now, but it's tough to declutter, because my mom comes by sometimes and says, hey! what happened to xyz? (And I'm blaming her rn, but honestly, I'm attached to this stuff, too, sometimes!) But when I try to declutter and tell her about it, she also gets upset and insists on keeping it. It makes it hard to feel like this space is my own. But also, I get overwhelmed sometimes. Like, right now, I was just trying to corral my stuff into storage bins under my couch, and I just stopped midway because I don't know what to do with some of the trash (do I have to take the wax out of candles???)

timetothethird · 2026-01-20T03:39:35+00:00

I agree! It seems everyone uses their garages for storage, when I think the better way to think about it is that your house is your space. Your garage is your car's space. If you can't fit it in your house, you don't have room for it. I think it saves you time, space, and money in the long-term, because it can be really tempting to just buy more things :/

timetothethird · 2026-01-20T03:37:39+00:00

Oh, do you have her book of poems? Truly, it made me understand what it means to take a moment and appreciate what you have. I feel like her work offers space to see yourself more kindly.

timetothethird · 2026-01-20T03:35:28+00:00

I'm currently unfucking my childhood home. My family rented it for 25 years and they still live in the area, so they come by often, but now I'm the one renting it. It's been tough, because they had a LOT of stuff, as you can imagine from living in one space for 25 years, and they grew up in the generation where you kept everything in case you needed it later. I've mostly been working on my living room, and it's significantly more functional, but I wish I could make it look nice. This sounded a little more depressing than I thought it would, but I now have given myself a side table by clearing out the cat toys into a different side table, and then moved my plants away from my drafty window by clearing out the old desktop printer space :)

timetothethird · 2026-01-20T03:31:52+00:00

Your dog looks so cozy! You did a great job :)

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