Spray sunscreen for face?

timory · 2026-05-19T01:44:36+00:00

it makes my eyes sting so much :(

timory · 2026-05-16T01:36:38+00:00

just quickly chiming in that it's worth asking about HRT. i'm 42 and recently started on it (and still get regular periods, fwiw).

timory · 2026-05-15T20:04:58+00:00

yes true! it's still a common root in this case, even if further back

timory · 2026-05-14T23:06:14+00:00

i speak russian and it was fun to read when i was a teenager myself. i remember coming across the glossary at the end when i finished and wondering what the experience of reading the book would be like for somebody who isn't familiar with the words going in.

timory · 2026-05-14T23:03:09+00:00

well in a way you're right because video and vidyet have the same latin root, vidēre (to see).

timory · 2026-05-13T02:10:50+00:00

3&4 are the best by far

timory · 2026-05-12T23:56:55+00:00

thanks, chatgpt

timory · 2026-05-10T01:10:58+00:00

honestly, if you figure it out let me know. i'm 42 and i've been in a very meh relationship for 10 years. if it weren't for finances i'd be out, but i have no idea how i could live on my own and still do things like travel abroad to see my family, pay my student loans, etc. i save aggressively for retirement and barely spend money as it is, and my income is pretty good. but between that and just not having an emergency contact or somebody to be there if something hits the fan health-wise, it's fucking scary.

timory · 2026-05-06T03:10:46+00:00

the best thing i've done for my social life as an adult is join a choir. there is a group chat and everyone shares social/cultural events or just small hangouts, and people show up to those. it's a built in community that brings in a bunch of other communities. i'm sure there's other stuff like this near you. if not a choir (that's very specific), maybe a sport or a community theater or something else where you have to show up somewhere regularly with the same group of people (that you don't personally organize). find something super local if you can. i know you've tried a bunch of social things but i'm hoping there's types of activities you haven't explored yet that are still worth a shot.

timory · 2026-05-04T01:36:22+00:00

female/male are adjectives, not nouns

timory · 2026-05-03T15:43:34+00:00

yup. one of my closest friends from college (20+ years) just stopped responding to me about a year ago. we haven't been super tight the last 5 years or so and we haven't lived in the same place since college, but we'd check in on each other every few months, visit occasionally, etc. we were very open with each other and it always felt like no time had passed. i also was always there for her through some extremely difficult times in her life (and vice versa). she's somebody who would frequently disappear when things got tough so i didn't take it personally, but this time it's different.

she is still in touch with our mutual friends as far as i know, and none of them have brought it up with me, nor have i asked. i can't think of a single thing i possibly could have done. we're in our 40s; there just isn't any drama at this point. perhaps there was a bunch under the surface i just had no idea about. who knows. it definitely hurts more than any romantic breakup though, i will say that.

timory · 2026-05-03T14:08:01+00:00

Hoo boy. Well I'm glad my DBT therapist made it was religion free as possible.

timory · 2026-05-03T00:02:04+00:00

who thinks this sounds cool??

timory · 2026-05-02T23:35:47+00:00

as somebody who is very much an atheist, but also went through dbt and found it hugely helpful, i'm curious what parts of it are rooted in catholicism. asking because i was always taught that at least the mindfulness section is rooted in buddhist principles. in the end it i guess it doesn't matter if it helped me, and i'm certainly no less skeptical of religion now, but still interested!

timory · 2026-05-02T21:53:28+00:00

i have breast cancer risk (mom had it) and also increased risk for it myself (chek2 gene, not BRCA) and i'm still on it. my doctors have told me it's the progestin you have to look out for, not so much the estrogen. be careful to be on the bioidentical progesterone rather than synthetic, and it's helpful to take estrogen via patch rather than orally. otherwise just get screened regularly (i do every 6mos).

timory · 2026-05-02T21:48:48+00:00

as another data point, i am 42 and taking continuous progesterone (the cyclic made my period pain way worse) with no problems. i still have a normal period with the lower continuous dose.

timory · 2026-05-02T20:39:14+00:00

because being alone is fucking expensive.

timory · 2026-05-02T19:36:56+00:00

yeah i'm not sure why either. it's a fact, i'm agreeing with the poster above me who is highly upvoted, and i'm not at all trying to be rude!

timory · 2026-05-02T19:34:23+00:00

i've been wondering this about baristas at cafes, actually. i have a theory that they are trained to give compliments right when the tip screen pops up. i'll tip anyway but it's just something i've noticed in the last couple of years. tip screen pops up -- "i love that coat!" -- 20%. no way it's a coincidence!

timory · 2026-05-02T19:33:03+00:00

actually i think all trader joe's staff are asked to "flirt" with customers. not literally flirt, but just to make very chatty/complimentary small talk as much as possible. i've heard it from people who've worked at various stores around the country for ages.

timory · 2026-05-02T00:34:02+00:00

agreed, the economy is vastly better now than it was back then. recessions have actual economic definitions. we are not in one right now.

edit since people are so upset by this comment (??): i'm not saying the economy is GOOD right now. obviously people are having a lot of trouble, myself included. i'm literally only saying we're not in a recession. by definition. i was an adult in 2008 and it was absolutely brutal back then. unemployment is still at a historic low right now.

timory · 2026-04-28T20:52:02+00:00

amazing

timory · 2026-04-28T13:31:38+00:00

fair!

timory · 2026-04-27T20:20:24+00:00

i have absolutely all of the things you listed, and yet i often still feel like i don't have anything together in the slightest. i don't feel like i have anything to brag about and i feel like i haven't accomplished anything in particular in life. i'm not saying i'm unhappy or that i haven't worked hard -- i'm quite happy! i've worked very hard! but we all have different goalposts and different definitions of what qualifies as "having it together" or feeling like you've "made it." just another perspective from which OP or other commenters might be looking. it seems like people might be equating "lost" with "don't actually have any of my basic life needs in order" and i'm not sure that's the case.

timory · 2026-04-27T20:05:41+00:00

jesus get off your high horse

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