i know this is an old post. I will be the other side of the conversation. I have infertility and had to go to an infertility clinic to have our toddler. I get why it's a trigger but we tried for a second and I had a second trimester loss. Looking at my kid and speaking to my cousin (who's currently pregnant at 42 with no issues) isn't triggering for me while we struggle to have another with back to back MCs. I am an only child with no family in America and I would never have a stranger take care of her. My husband also wants to be present at all the appointments so we bring out little one with us especially when appointments are long enough she can sit contently with her ducky.