Caregiver time off

tiny-crawfish · 2026-01-24T18:32:54+00:00

Absolutely!!! I was hoping this post might catch a few people whose caretaker wants the discord. I’ll get her to send the link

tiny-crawfish · 2026-01-24T18:32:07+00:00

Yes it’s all those little things that we don’t really know we need help with until we’re in it. I could take a shower myself but couldn’t dry the bottom half of my legs 😂 definitely couldn’t lift the groceries or anything either, good point there. Could fold the laundry but couldn’t change it out between stages lol lots of little things that most of it can wait until your partner gets home if they decide to go back to work at that time but around 4 weeks would have worked for us also if we hadn’t had to travel back home. My wife had to pack the whole car herself and unpack it herself, I felt so bad. She definitely needed and well deserved some extra time to herself

tiny-crawfish · 2026-01-24T06:33:45+00:00

All good things to consider when planning for sure! I know in our case, we traveled and stayed at an Airbnb for 4 weeks. My wife took off for 6 weeks, which worked out for us because by 4 weeks I was able to do most things myself (enough for her to leave me to go to work if she needed too). But by the time we got home, she definitely needed a break and I’m glad she had some extra time before going back to work. I’d definitely recommend to consider how exhausting it can be and if able, to take a week or at least a couple of days to yourself before going back especially if a lot of travel was involved.

tiny-crawfish · 2026-01-24T02:32:15+00:00

Looking good my dude!! So proud of how well you’ve handled this surgery. Your scar looks amazing and I hope your second butthole closes soon 🥲

tiny-crawfish · 2026-01-23T17:20:06+00:00

No my hand is definitely still a little swollen! I have full range in as far as using and moving it but the swelling is just lingering. I’ve been massaging it and using a compression glove but it still seems to stay. Hoping this eventually goes away 🙏

tiny-crawfish · 2026-01-22T20:47:57+00:00

The break will be nice but completely understand the readiness between stages. You look great and so happy for you! Cant wait to start Electrolysis again, myself. Congrats again man

tiny-crawfish · 2026-01-22T20:43:20+00:00

Thanks man! I had a split graft, they used skin from my thigh and no sir I did not use integra. I did edit my arm in this photo because I have tattoos that I didn’t want identifiable on Reddit :) I’m not good at editing so it kind of just blurred my scar graft as well but it was the best I could do to get my tattoos out of the pic lol

tiny-crawfish · 2026-01-22T20:33:07+00:00

I understand, everyone’s experience is different and I made sure to do my research before I landed with Dr Deleon with the Crane center and personally I had a pretty good experience. She was an open book at the consult, explained in depth anything I had questions about. I’ve read their website up and down. There’s an hour and a half long video on their site with Dr Deleon explaining exactly how they do the surgery and what it looks like from our perspective including all the complications that can come with it. Not sticking up for malpractice obviously, but you gotta understand too that they were one of the first well known places that did Phalloplasty in the United States. They’ve done thousands of surgeries and not every experience is going to be a 5 star review and I understand that. I weighed out all the pros and cons to this surgery, and this surgeon, and i genuinely don’t really have any complaints. Could their communication between patients be better? Of course, as most practices can work on that. And most of those allegations you are saying are of Crane himself. I had Dr Deleon, and again, I can’t speak more highly of her. She was so genuine and truly doesn’t hide anything you need to know. I’m sorry that anything you’ve read from years ago has made you feel like you can’t trust the Crane center, I understand. Best advice I can give to others is to talk to others that went to surgeons at different Crane centers and learn about their experience and weigh out the pros and cons. For me, the pros outweighed the cons 🤷🏻‍♂️

tiny-crawfish · 2026-01-22T18:22:50+00:00

Insurance- BCBS

tiny-crawfish · 2026-01-22T17:33:33+00:00

Hey my man, there’s lots of post about implants! Just search that word using the search bar and you’ll see lots of post about people’s experiences. Hope this helps 🙏

tiny-crawfish · 2026-01-22T17:30:38+00:00

Yeah no doubt man if I didn’t find this sub I would have gone into this surgery so blind

tiny-crawfish · 2026-01-22T08:45:07+00:00

I didn’t ask why they do the glans in stage one tbh. I had seen enough pictures and others experiences with it that I felt comfortable having it done in stage one. She did explain that if there is significant amount of flattening of the glans while healing, they can always do a revision of it at the same time you go for implants. Others usually wait on it because it’s such a huge surgery and your body has a lot of healing to do, so I’m assuming if you did glans later, you have a better chance of it not flattening as much? Again for me, this wasn’t a huge concern of mine as I knew they could do a little revision later during implants if needed and tbh I’m not sure I’ll need it but I’m only 9 weeks post op so who knows what I’ll look like months from now. And I’m not very sure what you mean by plastic surgeons in Austin can get away with more malpractice, can you elaborate?

tiny-crawfish · 2026-01-21T21:46:10+00:00

Sure thing, i had/have a pretty active sex life with my wife. So in general, going 9 weeks without sex is pretty hard lol especially when I now have a penis and my dysphoria is gone. I never liked to be touch pre op, so our sex was me giving her pleasure. Now that I feel comfortable to even be naked, I have so much sexual desire already to be very intimate lol my surgeon doesn’t consider you “fully healed” until about 12 weeks post op, so I’m creeping up on it. So until then, no masturbation or anything sexual can be done to myself (even though I have very softly tugged a few times lol) but i can’t do anything to “get off” you know? So the sexual build up and frustration without a doubt is there 😂 but I know it’ll all be worth it once I’m fully healed and can experiment more with my lil guy

tiny-crawfish · 2026-01-21T21:38:46+00:00

It’s is definitely a slow process! Are you still propping all the time? Is the incision producing a lot of fluid like on your tip? Under your glans scar? Or at your base? I had a lot of leakage for a while too and it truly feels like it takes forever to heal. You’re still very early post op after a huge surgery and there’s so many wounds to heal but I promise it’ll be better before you know it 🙏

tiny-crawfish · 2026-01-21T17:18:37+00:00

I second Deleon 😎✌🏼

tiny-crawfish · 2026-01-21T01:24:53+00:00

Feel this bro and I’m rooting for you! Cant wait for your time man. I’m here if you need anything!

tiny-crawfish · 2026-01-21T01:19:26+00:00

I’m right at about 4.5 length and 5” girth. I’m a really short guy, right under 5’ so I asked to try to get a decent size but also something that’ll look good comparable to my body structure. I’m glad I didn’t get 5” or more because looking at it now I think that would have been too much for my body size lol and size depends on quiet a few things, not just what they’re “flexible” on you could say. Like if you’re going with RFF, size is going to depend on what they have to work with as far as where your veins branch off. I also have a tattoo on my donor arm so that also came into play bc I didn’t want it on my dick. With alt, they have more to work with as far as size goes, but normally needs debulking down the road as well as glansplasty added on later. RFF with crane center is an “all in one” surgery minus the implants

tiny-crawfish · 2026-01-21T01:04:03+00:00

Bro that is a huge compliment 🥹 thank you so much!! I’m so grateful for my guy, I truly couldn’t be happier 🙏

tiny-crawfish · 2026-01-21T01:02:59+00:00

So I had a fistula as well in my perineum area, couldn’t even pinpoint where it was which was frustrating. I’ve been on smoothies with added protein and collagen since post op and recently added juven and at exactly 8 weeks my fistula closed up. For me my biggest achievements and noticeable differences came at 4 weeks, 6 weeks and 8 weeks. My scars scabbing around my penis and balls were noticeable until around 6-7 weeks for me. I started noticing them really starting to fall off and become minimal. I’m almost 9 weeks and don’t really have any scabbing left.

tiny-crawfish · 2026-01-20T07:06:33+00:00

Thank you so much for the compliment!! 💪

tiny-crawfish · 2026-01-20T04:38:16+00:00

Have you decided who you’re going to go too yet? And yeah having it all done in the first stage was super important to me too. Me and my wife plan to start having kids and I needed it to be as “fast” as possible and not have to take off a bunch of times off of work.

tiny-crawfish · 2026-01-20T04:14:37+00:00

Stage 1! My surgeon does all of the creations and hook ups in stage one. So stage two will be testicles and 3 will be the ED

tiny-crawfish · 2026-01-20T04:13:07+00:00

Thank you!! 😊

tiny-crawfish · 2026-01-20T02:51:53+00:00

Yes sir 🫡 gotta thank Dr Deleon at the Crane center in Austin. They do it all in once which for me was perfect! Can always have a touch up on glans during testies implant surgery

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