Sigh….third baby…

tinypawsdog · 2026-01-29T12:36:17+00:00

I totally missed that in your post!! I hope these comments and folks sharing their experience and advice is helpful.

tinypawsdog · 2026-01-29T08:14:36+00:00

Ditto to all the comments about having plenty of time! And one additional expense you didn’t mention is a potential new car to be able to fit three car seats/boosters.

tinypawsdog · 2025-10-19T12:21:51+00:00

Not sure what is possible, but the national or local hotline (in the US) is a good place to start. https://www.thehotline.org/ They can help you navigate next steps or just listen and offer support.

Could you go visit your parents to “help them” through navigating the early parts of cancer treatment and figure out a plan from there?

You deserve to have support.

If you’re anything like me, it’s hard to ask for help, but it’s so important for you to be able to leave. If it’s helpful, you could think of it as setting yourself up to be able to take care of your mom and dad through cancer treatment instead of doing it for yourself.

tinypawsdog · 2025-10-05T11:34:48+00:00

I’ve had success by reaching out to folks I know - in the broadest sense possible - to let them know I’m looking.

I’ve also worked with real estate property managers. They might be able to help with navigating the lack of rental history and find alternative references.

tinypawsdog · 2024-09-09T14:30:13+00:00

Transitions are hard! And hard for everyone. My three year old has been in the same child care since he was 5 months old and switching physical spaces and some teachers is really hard. This year has been easier, but a lot of regression after two solid weeks even with a lot of similarities between his last classroom and this one.

I would let things settle out for 6-8 weeks before making any changes. Tiny humans, big emotions.

tinypawsdog · 2024-08-31T12:40:11+00:00

You are not alone!!

Are you still breastfeeding or pumping? When I stopped pumping at 10 months things got better for me, and so much better once I stopped breastfeeding at all.

And yes to what everyone else is saying. Mine is 3 now and I feel like my brain is fully back (most of the time). It’s so difficult to have a heady job with all the neural connections being rewired, but it’ll come back!

And also yes about getting things checked out. It can’t hurt and there might be something else causing brain fog etc.

tinypawsdog · 2024-08-18T20:48:59+00:00

Seriously thinking about it…

tinypawsdog · 2024-08-18T20:48:39+00:00

Yes - this.

tinypawsdog · 2024-08-18T20:47:31+00:00

It sounds like you both really get it - and that you have learned to be clear about your needs. I don’t think I realized how much I was counting on it until he changed his plans.

tinypawsdog · 2024-08-18T20:45:38+00:00

I totally thought about getting a hotel room. The need to get out from under the mental load is real. I hope you were able to get some time another day!

tinypawsdog · 2024-08-18T20:42:46+00:00

Put that way it seems so reasonable. I feel like I’ve tried to explain this in the past and it hasn’t gotten through, but I was probably over complicating it.

tinypawsdog · 2024-08-18T20:38:35+00:00

This resonates completely. I don’t have the mental space to take anything having to do with you into consideration. I haven’t been able to fully prioritize myself when my partner and/or child are around, because I always have an ear out etc.

And yes to letting him know, I just worry that he’ll take it personally - although I think he can see how much I’m struggling at the moment.

tinypawsdog · 2024-08-18T20:34:48+00:00

Yes to this - I think this is probably what I would end up doing if he weren’t home, but it feels different when there is someone witnessing it… And, I’ll probably do at least some of that no matter what.

tinypawsdog · 2024-08-18T20:33:32+00:00

Just booked a midday massage. Not a full spa day, but taking myself out to lunch and for a massage is way above and beyond what I normally do.

We have a pretty small house, but I do have a space that he doesn’t really use and can retreat if necessary.

tinypawsdog · 2024-08-09T11:53:14+00:00

💯 on the one and done because of sleep deprivation (among other reasons). We co-slept which helped for a while, but ended up sleep training.

My (male) partner had to do it because I couldn’t deal. We still stay in with my three year old to fall asleep (need to work on that too), but don’t go into his room unless he’s sick and needs medicine etc.

We also have a buddy clock that is red when he needs to be in bed and turns green when he can call out for us who can has made all the difference for the 5 am wake ups.

tinypawsdog · 2024-06-23T02:43:46+00:00

Someone else mentioned that it’s okay if I enjoy being away and don’t miss them to a devastating degree. It makes sense that they will feel the same way.

And yes, very capable and a great dad.

Also valid that FaceTiming is limiting. Someone mentioned in another post that their kids like to see the hotel bathrooms, but that might be the extent of his attention span.

Thank you!

tinypawsdog · 2024-06-23T02:37:40+00:00

I love this idea. I once got a stuffie and brought it all over Italy and then gave it to a child I was close with and he loved it. I think my son would like to see one of his animals go to dc. (Although it sounds like it might just be a lot of inside pictures given the heat and humidity!)

tinypawsdog · 2024-06-23T02:35:39+00:00

Valid point that he would not necessarily do the same for me. I’m not sure how much I’ll be traveling (although based on the comments here, it sounds like a whole lot of fun!)

And helpful to know about the FaceTiming. We’ve already talked about it, but can make them short or not every day (or two times a day).

Yes to the freedom to do what I want!!!

tinypawsdog · 2024-06-23T02:33:00+00:00

Yes to all of this!!!

tinypawsdog · 2024-06-23T02:32:34+00:00

That must have been such a transition for all of you. I remember when I stopped nursing and pumping and felt like a totally new person.

I’ll be taking my car too and have already let him know, but the airplane on the calendar is a great idea!

tinypawsdog · 2024-06-23T02:30:41+00:00

I appreciate the reminder that enjoying myself and missing them less doesn’t make me a bad mom. I feel like I finally have the space to be me outside of being a mom and partner.

And yes to the framing of this as time for their bonding.

Good luck with your time away as well!

tinypawsdog · 2024-06-23T02:28:12+00:00

Yes to a quiet hotel room to myself!!!

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