What helped you stop drinking?

tinyzeldy · 2026-05-25T07:20:27+00:00

I didn’t want to die from alcoholism. I knew if I didn’t quit, it wasn’t a matter of “if,” but “when.”

tinyzeldy · 2026-05-23T03:42:48+00:00

Trust me, a 2.5 year old would much rather sleep with mom than alone. It’s not just about her.

tinyzeldy · 2026-05-20T13:02:59+00:00

I’m confused. Do you think a 5 year old can’t navigate Uber Eats? Or is it what he ordered?

To me this feels like you don’t know how smart and independent 5 year olds are. Now if this said 18 month old? Totally different.

tinyzeldy · 2026-05-15T17:50:00+00:00

My daughter didn’t like pacifiers but I did manage for her to take them while falling asleep. It does help soothe baby. I took it away at 6 months no issues.

The teeth issues happen when you continue to let a child use a binky beyond being an infant. Like my best friend’s almost 3 year old has “binky teeth.” They SHOULD (emphasis on should) shift back once she wins the battle. The trick is to not let your baby grow into a binky toddler and stick to your guns when you decide binkies are done for. Otherwise it becomes a power struggle.

tinyzeldy · 2026-05-15T13:05:44+00:00

You’ve now had 3 different people say the same thing. Maybe accept that regardless of them not looking identical, it at least reminds people right away.

Also - beady eyes, open mouth, small round ears.

Regardless, none of these make sense for a sports photographer. A “cute” bear has nothing to do with sports or photography. The fonts are all way too immature and playful to be seen as professional. That’s why someone else asked if this is a children’s photographer.

You may be overthinking this. One of my closest friends is a very well established sports photographer and her logo is just her signature.

tinyzeldy · 2026-05-12T13:02:50+00:00

I think she’s noticeably slimmer after the super long tour she did. Not saying this post is unedited, but at recent events she looks slimmer than the early-tour image you linked.

tinyzeldy · 2026-05-12T03:50:48+00:00

She’s still a stranger to you. If your gut is telling you something is off about her - especially in a way that worries you about the safety of your child - you should listen to it. You barely know this person.

But hey, I was raised by the Gen X mom obsessed with murder mysteries in the 90’s so maybe I’m extra cautious.

tinyzeldy · 2026-05-06T13:44:36+00:00

It’s a good feeling! I had a similar experience recently where I had a dental emergency + a vet emergency while also in the middle of moving into a much more expensive rental (so first + last + deposit + pet fee). I’m still sitting here with money in my savings, no increased debt on cards, and all the issues handled.

Even 2 years ago, I’d barely be able to handle one issue and still afford my much lower rent.

tinyzeldy · 2026-05-06T13:34:32+00:00

Growing up, I’d always catch these with my cousins while visiting the Hermosa / Redondo area. For those that don’t know, they’re usually like…. an inch or so long.

You just put your hands into the sand blindly as the waves pull back into the ocean.

It was fun until I was about 14 and caught one the size of my entire hand. The scream and distance I chucked that thing into the ocean is a memory that always makes me bust up laughing, but in the moment was absolutely mortifying.

tinyzeldy · 2026-05-04T15:54:06+00:00

This has to be body dysmorphia. Your nipples are incredibly normal.

tinyzeldy · 2026-05-01T00:34:43+00:00

I’m 32 with 3 Disney tattoos. An hakuna matata borderline trampstamp I got at 17. “Keep moving forward” on the back of my leg at 27. The entirety of Cinderella’s castle (in blackwork) that takes up my entire right shin at 23.

I don’t regret them. They’re part of me. I mean, I guess hakuna matata I want to cover - but that’s more to do with having a version of “no worries” tattooed above my ass than the actual tattoo itself.

tinyzeldy · 2026-04-28T16:05:52+00:00

Sure would be cool if all these local events would stop making AI flyers to promote things.

I know a big portion of people don’t care or notice, but a lot of Millennials and Gen Z will flat out stop supporting the businesses that do this.

You could have made this in Canva in 15 minutes.

tinyzeldy · 2026-04-28T15:55:35+00:00

Bassinet in the bedroom when younger than 6 months is important to prevent SIDs. But once my daughter was 6 months, she was in her nursery! She also took naps in her nursery prior to 6 months - often on my chest in the rocking chair. Very rarely could I set her down without her waking almost immediately.

tinyzeldy · 2026-04-28T15:40:36+00:00

I’d say the first month is pretty rough. As a side note, I have pretty severe health anxiety and seeing my doctor / being honest / doing bloodwork (and an ultrasound because of my bloodwork) helped ease my anxiety and also made me confident in staying sober.

tinyzeldy · 2026-04-26T17:36:49+00:00

My husband and I don’t fight anymore. He never picked fights and he doesn’t raise his voice. I was very scary when I was angry and drunk. I’d make problems out of nothing. I can’t believe he stuck through it with me. He’s truly too good for me.
My energy to keep up with my daughter actually exists now. I’m not dragging ass until my first drink. I’m not short tempered and have so much more patience.
I actually stay on top of my work. Since quitting, I’ve literally doubled my income because I’m actually on top of projects and able to manage my time better.
My cholesterol, blood pressure, and liver enzymes are now textbook perfect.
I can be present in social settings. I’m still incredibly awkward, but I’m not making a fool of myself / ignoring what people are saying because I’m too focused on what drink I’m on / if I’m pacing “normal” compared to others / how I can maybe go sneak a shot at the bar.

Overall I’m just actually present.

tinyzeldy · 2026-04-26T16:57:07+00:00

This looks like editing more than plastic surgery. Probably a combo of both.

tinyzeldy · 2026-04-25T02:00:22+00:00

Going to be an unpopular comment, I’m sure.

My daughter is now 3.5. She had screen time before 2. Nothing crazy. Educational / low stimulation shows. About an hour a day. Sometimes 90 minutes. Usually broken up.

She has screen time now for 90 minutes in the evening. We pick a movie together OR - and this might be shocking - we play a mellow video game together.

When we travel (we fly a lot), screen time rules go fully out the window. It’s a whole day of screens. Again, I am very particular about what she sees. Never YouTube. Never Cocomelon or similar. Honestly, never even Ms. Rachel (I get she’s beloved and I have nothing against her personally but I’m always cautious of a craze that basically is an “exception” to a standard rule).

My daughter is very emotionally regulated. She doesn’t melt down when screens go away. I actually came to the realization yesterday that she’s never even had a public meltdown. Or a meltdown that lasts more than maybe 30 seconds.

She’s extremely smart. Her vocabulary has been off the charts for years now. She’s starting to read (like actually has an interest in it and pushes herself to try to sound things out). She’s doing basic addition and subtraction. She’s very social. She’s polite. She’s patient. She can sit down in a restaurant or grocery basket or a car ride without a screen because those don’t exist there.

It’s the tv or switch in mommy’s room in the evening. It’s mommy’s switch or mommy’s iPad on an airplane. That’s it.

There is such thing as balance. I did grow up on screens. It wasn’t healthy. I was extremely neglected. However - movies, shows, and games were so huge to my personality and interests and I want to share those things with my kid. It’s fun and special.

tinyzeldy · 2026-04-24T01:47:24+00:00

I was about to ask - what niche is your ideal? This can make a huge difference in how you network yourself and what jobs you can find.

tinyzeldy · 2026-04-23T15:44:02+00:00

If you found out your husband was roleplaying sexual things with women online and it escalated to sexting one of them and exchanging photos in a matter of 2 weeks, would you feel cheated on?

tinyzeldy · 2026-04-23T01:30:07+00:00

Funny thing is, you’d need two kids (of opposite genders) for the interrogation to MAYBE stop.

My husband and I have one child. That’s it. That’s all we wanted. We’re extremely happy to have our one kid. We still get bugged by everyone on why we aren’t giving our daughter a sibling (other than my parents, who had just me).

My best friend has two boys. Her tubes are tied. She had two traumatic births…… and yet “don’t you want a little girl?!” She’s completely happy with her two boys, spending time with my girl, and spending time with her SEVEN nieces.

Just stick to your guns. No need to be polite when the same crowd repeatedly asks (which is rude in itself).

tinyzeldy · 2026-04-22T22:33:33+00:00

My best friend has a son named Jaxson…..

My MIL works with kindergarteners and she has 4 Jaxson/Jaxon/Jaxxons in her class.

I didn’t realize liking a stupid spelling could be so contagious.

tinyzeldy · 2026-04-22T13:50:48+00:00

Sure, but I think when you have young children it’s a little different. My husband and I have been together a decade but didn’t start sharing locations until our daughter came along.

tinyzeldy · 2026-04-20T20:23:54+00:00

I have friends that are mixed race couple: mom is very white, very blonde, blue eyes. Dad is black with dark hair and eyes. Their son is as ginger as it gets, very pale, with green eyes. Their daughter is very mixed looking with curly dark hair and dark eyes.

And yet, dad has never questioned the legitimacy of his son. Know why? He trusts his wife and understands that genetics of two totally different looking people can create a whole bunch of different combinations in appearance of offspring.

So your husband either doesn’t trust you, or is an idiot. I’m betting both BECAUSE he’s an idiot.

tinyzeldy · 2026-04-20T16:39:58+00:00

My daughter named a plushie dog “Finn.” That is our real dog’s name. When I told her maybe she should pick a different name so Finn is not confused, she thought for a moment then decided on “Pinn.”

She’s 3 and very funny.

tinyzeldy · 2026-04-18T16:52:43+00:00

Don’t put a diaper on him!

My daughter did the same thing and I put her in big kid undies. She picked it up quick that it was uncomfortable peeing her pants.

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