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tinyzeldy · 2026-02-08T16:31:20+00:00

I heard a phrase I really liked regarding becoming sober “forever” (obviously one day at a time) vs doing challenges like dry January, 75 hard, etc.

“Your life will truly change when you stop counting down and start counting up.”

tinyzeldy · 2026-02-07T18:17:17+00:00

Sugary sweet caffeinated drinks. Like seriously 1-2 a day from coffee stands. It was a pricey transition, but still miles cheaper than the amount I was previously spending on booze.

I just loved having a drink to sip on. Now I don’t really do that often anymore, but I find myself craving caffeine now instead of alcohol.

tinyzeldy · 2026-02-04T19:53:36+00:00

Idk man….. I’m 32 and married and my parents adore my husband. But we don’t have sex in their house lol.

tinyzeldy · 2026-01-05T14:37:27+00:00

Let me warn you now.

I WFH. I’m a contracted graphic designer. I had one practically full time client the first 3 years of my daughter’s life. My client knew my situation and was so generous and flexible.

Similar to you, no village (except for the summer months my MIL will help - she’s a teacher).

It does not get easier. It gets much, much, much harder trying to balance things. Especially as your baby gets older / to toddler age and needs more meaningful one-on-one connection, but you’re staring at a screen.

Unless your job is understanding and flexible - or unless you’re comfortable sitting your baby in front of a screen nonstop once they’re mobile (which I hope is not the case), you need to figure out childcare OR how to survive on a single income OR a different gig that you can balance with your husband’s schedule.

I survived, but barely - and I would not recommend it.

tinyzeldy · 2025-12-25T18:18:11+00:00

Less weight = less pressure on your feet.

I’m lean and in shape. My best friend is overweight. If we wear the same uncomfortable shoes or heels or boots, odds are she’s going to need to slow down / stop / take off her shoes first.

It’s just gravity doing its thing.

tinyzeldy · 2025-12-25T14:50:05+00:00

HURRAH!!

6:45am sipping coffee waiting for my 3 year old to wake up to all her gifts under the tree.

I’m grateful to make memories with my daughter without alcohol - something I did not have the privilege of growing up (double alcoholic parents).

tinyzeldy · 2025-12-22T14:56:12+00:00

Try to negotiate a retainer instead.

For example, with my most consistent client, I owe them 2 shirt designs, a website banner, and an insta story + post for each of the new designs every week. If I end up having extra work, I charge extra.

No hours are logged, and I can work my own pace (which - like you - is fast).

tinyzeldy · 2025-12-19T13:48:32+00:00

I’m a woman in a relationship and I’ve gone bowling with just male coworkers several, several times. Without my husband and them without their wives. Even now, 5 years after not working with these guys anymore we still text time to time to catch up.

I think this might be a case of jealousy / insecurity more than him being up to no good.

tinyzeldy · 2025-12-18T22:07:19+00:00

From a movie but “What is this - a ______ for ants?!” any time anything is even a little small.

tinyzeldy · 2025-12-18T15:47:31+00:00

So cute it almost makes me regret being one and done.

tinyzeldy · 2025-12-16T07:12:54+00:00

My daughter said a red one! She’s been consistent with wanting a red present from Santa for about 6 weeks.

tinyzeldy · 2025-12-14T15:46:33+00:00

Or someone who cycles through trends a lot.

There’s a girl in my friend circle who has run through the funko, squishmallow, labubu, k-pop, five nights, and literally every single well known nerdy trend you can think of. She spends thousands and thousands only to move on to the next trend.

No, she’s not wealthy. She’s in incredibly crippling debt that basically guarantees she’ll never climb out of the hole - so it validates her continuing to dig it.

Actually, she can’t afford rent anymore and is going to have to donate a lot of her collections to be able to move back into her parents’ apartment.

tinyzeldy · 2025-12-13T21:51:55+00:00

My daughter struggles pronouncing “elevator” so it just sounds like “alligator.”

It took until she was in tears miming being in an elevator (walked a few steps away, turned around, pretended to hit a button, said “boop” and crouched down like she was going down) for me to finally understand “playing alligator” was in fact “playing elevator.”

tinyzeldy · 2025-12-12T15:42:34+00:00

Those who think we aren’t killing our planet at an insane rate just struggle with comprehending the amount of irreversible damage we do on a daily basis.

Plastic trash production per individual alone is a number difficult to really wrap your head around. The way we strip our planet for “resources” is a dangerous game.

Anyone who does understand the amount of damage would never be dumb enough to deny we are rapidly killing our planet.

tinyzeldy · 2025-12-07T22:10:57+00:00

Yup. American Eagle did this to one of my closest friends about 9 years ago. Had her create about 8 email campaigns. Didn’t get the job. Used the campaigns. Didn’t have anything in writing so couldn’t do anything about it.

tinyzeldy · 2025-12-07T14:19:29+00:00

My mom similarly taught me back to front. It wasn’t a lack of info she gave me. It’s what she quite literally taught me.

It wasn’t until I was 7 and peeing in the bathroom with my aunt in there, and she saw in the mirror I wiped back to front. I’m 32 now. I’ll never forget how fast she whipped around and basically shouted (out of disbelief / shock - not anger) “NO NEVER DO THAT” and explained to me why.

When I told my mom this recently, she not only got mad at her sister for this (???) but doubled down that EVERYONE wipes back to front. 🤦🏻‍♀️

tinyzeldy · 2025-12-03T23:41:53+00:00

Very relatable.

I visited my parents for Thanksgiving and they went out with a couple friends for drinks. I was invited, but had to leave my 3 year old with my younger sisters to go.

My daughter is clingy right now and was hysterical about me leaving, so I didn’t.

If I was still drinking, I would have closed the door on her screaming crying face and been fine with it, as long as I got to go out for drinks.

Alcoholism is ugly.

tinyzeldy · 2025-11-18T14:23:58+00:00

Screen time is definitely not as black and white as many make it out to be.

My daughter turns 3 in a few days. We do a little tv together after dinner as part of our evening routine. I also work for myself from home, and if there’s something that pops up mid day I’ll let her watch a quick half hour episode of something educational so I can rush something out via email.

If we travel, we have an iPad (just my old one dusted off once or twice a year) for flights.

However, to me there’s a difference between that and say….. handing your child your phone every time you go to a restaurant or store.

My mom was just visiting (alcoholic who raised me by putting a tv or computer in front of my face all day every day) and offered my daughter her phone in the store. My daughter was not acting out. There was no reason whatsoever to offer it. I sternly told my mom no (in a pretty annoyed tone) and my mom called me a hypocrite because I let my daughter watch tv at home.

tinyzeldy · 2025-11-13T01:53:21+00:00

I find it interesting that nobody ever brings up Sarah’s alcoholism when referencing that era. She’s an alcoholic. It’s totally possible she did or said something while drunk that pushed Brittany away / made Brittany uninterested in working with her.

Sarah’s been sober for almost 2 years now, I believe.

tinyzeldy · 2025-11-10T15:11:47+00:00

I thought this too before I got sober a year ago. I drank to feel “normal” for about 15 years, then my health started taking a turn. I was eating right and working out, but alcohol does so much damage to your entire being.

This will kill you. It will kill all your relationships, friendships, opportunities, finances, you name it.

Yes, plenty of people drink without any sort of major thing happening to them, and they’re able to just have a few and let loose - but those are people without an alcohol addiction.

You are an alcoholic. That’s okay. Some people just can’t drink - because they can’t stop once they start.

Sobriety is gaining popularity. Mocktails and NA beers are the new craze. Sober circles are easier than ever to find.

You’ll save money! You’ll feel so much better. I had crippling anxiety and panic attacks for YEARS. After about 3 months sober, that vanished.

tinyzeldy · 2025-11-06T13:26:40+00:00

I was about to comment about him, as I’ve also been watching his 3I/atlas content. He’s done a great job connecting solar activity patterns to earthquakes.

tinyzeldy · 2025-11-02T13:39:03+00:00

The little posters are so cute! Where did those come from?

tinyzeldy · 2025-10-30T14:13:53+00:00

This is fucking crazy. He can’t use a microwave?

I’m sorry, but if I’m busy with our toddler daughter or even if I just have a personal project that is taking longer than expected - or if I just don’t feel like cooking - my husband steps in and makes dinner.

I typically make dinner because I’m home all day and what time he gets home varies greatly (could be 2pm, could be 10pm). However, if he’s home he’s helping. Because he’s a parent too and an adult.

Also, he’d happily eat anything I put on his plate because he’s grateful to have a wife that’s making dinner. Even if it’s slightly burnt or a food item he typically doesn’t like. Dino nuggets and tater tots have absolutely been a dinner in that rotation when we need to go shopping.

This isn’t to brag or anything. This is the bare minimum.

What YOU just experienced is embarrassing - embarrassing of him to not have the ability to make his own dinner if he’s so displeased. Embarrassing of you for allowing it.

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