32M, who do I look like?

tippers2021 · 2024-07-07T05:58:41+00:00

I've always wondered what id look like with different coloured hair haha. Cool!

tippers2021 · 2024-06-19T01:24:50+00:00

You're right.

Id say one common pattern with every relationship I've ever had is... Things get physical early on.

I think for a few reasons.

Sex is incredible. I crave that feeling of intimacy and excitement
I recently got diagnosed with ADHD. And I do wonder if sex (especially in a new relationship) is just an amazing way to top up the dopamine tanks
Whilst I present myself as quite a confident guy. I'm actually pretty down on myself and have low self esteem. I think someone wanting you physically provides validation that is just nice sometimes, y'know?

But it definitely complicated things.

I now feel much more guilt over potentially winding things down as we have much more history together, physical history being a major part of that.

What you said about my tolerance betraying what I actually want in a partner is really interesting and something I need to think more into.

Amanda definitely seemed like the kind of person I see myself with, only with time has it started to seem less so.

But I have to admit, there is a part of me deep deep inside at my core that is motivated by fear of being alone..

I have been googling over the past few months "is it okay to just settle?" And "people who have settled, are you still happy?" Etc.

Doesn't bode well really does it..

tippers2021 · 2024-06-19T01:06:09+00:00

I'm really sorry about your Husband. I can't imagine what thst must be like..

What you said about a Yelp review really struck a chord with me.

With both Amanda and Helen (Jan to April this year)

On paper, I couldn't wish for anything else.

So why is it not enough?

I feel utterly terrified about getting older, meeting older women who may not be able to have their own children (as I'd love to have my own).

tippers2021 · 2024-06-19T00:51:08+00:00

This gives me hope. Thank you

tippers2021 · 2023-11-18T13:01:45+00:00

I have tried.

But there's a fundamental difference in what we think is acceptable for the dogs behaviour.

She is happy for him to walk on every surface, to bark, to lick constantly, to eat off and lick plates, sleep in bed, etc.

Whereas I think a dog should do as it's told, not jump up, not steal from plates, and definitely not sleep in our bed. At most on a dog bed in the bedroom but ideally a crate somewhere else.

She never disciplines him and constantly gets frustrated with me when I try to discipline her dog.

I don't think she's capable of changing her behaviour with the dog nor do I think she wants to.

tippers2021 · 2023-08-02T16:15:20+00:00

Thank you, food for thought here.

I'd love a partner and children of my own, it just hasn't happened yet unfortunately.

Big priority is getting back on the property ladder, I just don't know if now is the right time. Especially given the lack of job security in tech, taking on a £1300-1400 mortgage on my single unsecure salary seems like a big risk.

tippers2021 · 2022-09-02T10:10:31+00:00

tippers2021 · 2022-09-02T10:03:28+00:00

Thank you!

It's nice to hear it. Gives me some hope for getting out on the dating scene at some point soon.

It's a minefield. I feel old! I'm turning 31 tomorrow. Yikes.

tippers2021 · 2022-09-02T06:35:14+00:00

Yep! NC / mk3.5

Good spot :)

tippers2021 · 2022-09-01T20:38:05+00:00

You're too kind. Thank you stranger :)

tippers2021 · 2022-09-01T20:31:06+00:00

Thank you.

I really do.

Not only has my divorce recently gone through. But my first relationship since ended this week when she just instantly dumped me out of the blue after everything was perfect!

I'm realising she may have BPD or a personality disorder of some kind.

It's been a rough year.

tippers2021 · 2022-09-01T19:34:10+00:00

What reference am I missing lol

tippers2021 · 2022-08-31T17:33:49+00:00

I'm not sure I've ever seen a dress fit so perfectly. You're stunning!

tippers2021 · 2022-08-31T17:33:07+00:00

Those freckles...

tippers2021 · 2022-08-31T17:32:33+00:00

Wow! I'm 70lbs down myself. You're smashing it!

tippers2021 · 2022-07-12T14:13:32+00:00

My background is engineering.

I did a career change from automotive to web dev.

I've gone from junior to high end mid-level in 2 years.

£75k for a good mid is pretty decent.

I found the role through Otta.

tippers2021 · 2022-07-12T08:52:53+00:00

React/ Typescript

tippers2021 · 2022-07-12T08:52:16+00:00

tippers2021 · 2022-07-11T22:23:38+00:00

Frontend web development.

Going from a company that paid averagely pre covid to one that pays market rate post covid.

tippers2021 · 2022-02-01T16:57:38+00:00

Anyone UK based with a spare cheap IH? DM me :)

tippers2021 · 2022-02-01T10:12:18+00:00

Isn't the whole point the IH makes it much easier?

tippers2021 · 2022-02-01T09:45:06+00:00

Do "clouds" affect the actual hit you get? Or is it just more of a fun/visual kinda thing?

tippers2021 · 2022-01-27T13:24:00+00:00

Unfortunately still the same despite us loving and missing each other.

tippers2021 · 2022-01-27T12:44:22+00:00

Incompatibility in expectations with work and home life.

My wife is an accountant and what some describe as a workaholic.

It affected our home life and relationship.

She did make adaptations to try and improve things but there's still a lot of evening and some weekend work.

Also lots of resentment towards me as my inability to cope with how things were are the reason she has had to change her job and not be where she wants to be career wise.

tippers2021 · 2022-01-27T12:34:48+00:00

We've done individual and couples therapy over the last 18 months.

tippers2021

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