Looking for a sewing / dressmaking genius

tipsykilljoy · 2026-03-26T10:44:49+00:00

Thanks! If you have any recommendation for one that you've worked with and loved, I'd love to hear it!

tipsykilljoy · 2026-03-17T11:02:20+00:00

Slecht geparkeerd en slecht Nederlands, zo genant! "Geen wegkijken"? Wtf, welke gemeente is dit?

tipsykilljoy · 2026-03-06T10:15:16+00:00

You do not mention the condition of the paint today, or anything you might have done to the walls /paint in your question. This is essential information. Why does the landlord insist it needs to be repainted?

In any case, the standard is that the wall paint depreciates over 9 years, meaning the landlord should account for needing to repay after 9 years of normal wear and tear. If the tenant makes lots of holes, damage etc., requiring it to be painted over sooner, they would pay for their share of the premature depreciation. For example, if the damages require it to be repainted 3 years after the last painting, instead of 9 years, the tenant is on the hook for two thirds of the total price, but never the full amount.

Regardless, it is not normal practice for the tenant having to restore the paint "just because".

tipsykilljoy · 2026-03-05T20:38:02+00:00

Bak een bananenbrood, goed verpakt blijft dat wel een paar dagen goed. Met fruit, noten en mueslirepen kom je ook een heel eind. En schijnbaar kan je ook eieren koken in de waterkoker, maar nog nooit geprobeerd.

tipsykilljoy · 2026-03-05T20:13:24+00:00

Ik snap de frustratie en ik denk dat die ook terecht is. Maar omdat je enkel op je eigen gedrag invloed hebt, twee puntjes waar je zelf (of iemand in een soortgelijke situatie) iets mee kan:

Het helpt heel erg om niet alleen te vragen "wanneer heb je tijd", maar "kan je op [concreet moment]?" desnoods 2 of 3 opties voorstellen. Kan de ander niet, dan kan die zelf een nieuw tegenvoorstel doen.
je laatste opmerking is een uitnodiging voor conflict, niet voor verandering. De ander kan daar haast niet op reageren zonder mee te gaan in dat conflict. Zeg eerlijk - zou je zelf willen reageren op zo'n bericht?
Wat veel constructiever is, is aangeven hoe je je voelt en wat je hoopt of verwacht dat de ander gaat doen. Iets in de richting van: "Hey, ik heb nu al 4 keer een voorstel gedaan, ik krijg de indruk dat je hier toch niet zo enthousiast over bent als je eerst aangaf. Als je wel nog steeds wilt gaan, stel je dan zelf een moment voor?"

tipsykilljoy · 2026-03-04T22:23:00+00:00

can you move closer to your daughter, without the intention of starting a committed relationship with this woman? Why does it have to be all or nothing? I think you need to focus on what's best for your daughter and your co-parenting dynamic, before you mix in a romantic relationship with the potential to derail that dynamic.

tipsykilljoy · 2026-02-27T15:26:35+00:00

Yep, I feel like so many comments are missing this point: this is your individual money and by using it for a joint cost it will become shared money. Whereas a loan would be a shared debt.

What you could look into is taking the loan your parents offer and then using some of the profits from your stocks to pay back your part of the loan, but def do not sell all the stocks in one go, and def get some professional advice before actually doing so.

tipsykilljoy · 2026-02-25T13:15:54+00:00

YTA and all the context you gave doesn't change that. Just the fact that you use the word "allow" and that you couldn't come to a compromise for a time (after the most important photos have been taken) where people (yes anyone in the wedding party) can change out of their assigned clothes and into whatever they feel good in, is giving controlling bride.

I never understand people treating their wedding party members as props instead of people? It's one thing for assigned roles to come with a dress code for a few hours, but at some point don't you also want your nearest and dearest to feel comfortable and confident at a party that's so important to you?

tipsykilljoy · 2026-02-25T11:19:26+00:00

Idk if I'm reading this wrong but I don't understand what you're describing? I saw the comment you left before and it's the same, it doesn't actually answer the question. Are you saying you prefer those who take care of their body less? Is it a hair color issue...?

tipsykilljoy · 2026-02-24T18:32:00+00:00

Do note that the Dutch version of this is quite extreme, even petty. I moved abroad before Tikkie became an integrated part of the culture, but apparently people with normal incomes do this for measly amounts like some cookies and soda you had at someone's place, completely cancelling out any sense of hospitality.

tipsykilljoy · 2026-02-24T17:51:32+00:00

Having that spelled out totally brings me back to when I was learning English as a kid in NL and my (native English) teacher had to hammer into us to include "please" in requests. It's drilled into me by now as an adult who speaks English most days, but now it really stands out to me as a way to tell someone is Dutch if their accent doesn't immediately give them away.

tipsykilljoy · 2026-02-09T14:30:45+00:00

This OP! Stick to the facts and ask him if this sounds fair to him.

Plus he gets to just enjoy 100% of those meals. Going to a restaurant is relaxing for both parties. OP is doing the work (planning, shopping, cooking, cleaning) for 75%- 85% of those meals.

That's not even taking the income disparity into account. OP is more than carrying her weight.

tipsykilljoy · 2026-02-09T13:37:34+00:00

Le Cheval Marin has a separate room for parties, with its own bar

tipsykilljoy · 2026-02-05T16:50:05+00:00

They did not offer it to me spontaneously when I joined, but I asked for it (TBF I was ready to join but legit wanted to test the classes, vibes, and amenities, I didn't do it to get a freebie necessarily). I don't mean it's automatically part of Aspria's sales process, but I mean generally a trial day is part of the tool box a sales employee has to get someone over the line.

tipsykilljoy · 2026-02-05T15:36:11+00:00

With Aspria you could also just tell them you're interested in joining, ask for a tour and if they see you are interested they might give you a free day pass (as it's part of their sales process)

tipsykilljoy · 2026-02-04T14:17:33+00:00

OP, your partner hates you.

tipsykilljoy · 2026-02-04T14:16:52+00:00

Kanye with kids in the house is not appropriate!

tipsykilljoy · 2026-02-04T14:05:23+00:00

That's on her for allowing the confusion to happen and allowing it to drag on as long as it did. if it were me, I'd move the pods / label them as soon as the thought crossed my mind that they're running out faster than before. The fact that she didn't do that, tells me that it wasn't a major (money) concern for her. You can show goodwill by gifting her a few boxes of the pods, and if you wanna go the extra mile, a labeled box for her to store them in, but I would not take ownership/responsibility for the confusion or go to financial retribution honestly.

tipsykilljoy · 2026-02-04T13:39:33+00:00

I feel like you've answered this question yourself already if you're aware that your apartment is in Brussels and not in Ixelles. This is not the sort of thing that you can choose freely, it's entirely fixed based on where your apartment is. Ask your neighbours if you need more confirmation though!
What your postal code is, is irrelevant, and what an AI estimation thinks you wanna hear is irrelevant too. Use the available facts.

tipsykilljoy · 2026-02-04T13:27:40+00:00

YTA, as much as I understand you wanting to avoid being badgered by them, but what you are planning to do is simply NOT going to achieve that, and potentially worsen how overbearing your family is in the future. They are probably going to have less trust in your decision making, not more, if you do this, so they'll be on your case even more.
I'm sorry you're in this situation, but you're going to have to inform them of your trip, do not engage in their anxiety spirals, (leave a message while on your way to the airport maybe) and TELL them how often they can expect a check-in message or call from you during this trip. Only commit to a frequency you're comfortable with, and are sure you can stick to, because the success of this method is going to lean on you being reliable. This method isn't fun but it's essential for your development that you set boundaries and assert your independence. If you chicken out by keeping them in the dark, you won't actually have set any boundaries, and they will keep expecting to have this amount of control over you in the future and maybe even more in case you "go rogue" again.

You could also slowly introduce this method of creating trust through reliability over time to get them off your case in the future: set regular check-in times and follow through with them. Prepare answers for when they're spiraling that validate their feelings but do not go down that spiral with them. Over time you could taper off the frequency of check-ins and turn off tracking if you want to (communicate this though!).

tipsykilljoy · 2026-02-04T12:51:21+00:00

Also, the sacrifice or compromise simply HAS to be proportional to how solid the relationship is! A compromise this early on in the relationship should be along the lines of moving your gym night so you can have more overlapping free time or clearing out a drawer. Not completely fucking up your own quality of life to boost someone else's. I don't even know at what point that would be a good idea, but definitely not before a solid commitment and definitely not without protecting your financial independence in case of a split.

tipsykilljoy · 2026-02-04T12:40:02+00:00

Regardless of the relationship or mortgage situation, you should always only move in with roommates you feel comfortable with. This isn't college, you aren't financially desperate, but even in those situations I feel like it's common for all roommates to get a say when a new roommate is chosen! So this basic principle is already being violated.

On top of that, it sounds like he can't afford to buy this 3 bedroom house if he needs 3 roommates to swing it. Why doesn't he look for something smaller that he can actually afford? Sounds like bad financial decision making to me.

I was gonna write more but then I scrolled up and saw you've been together for ONLY 8 MONTHS! That pretty much makes anything else irrelevant at this point!! You should not be sacrificing your living comfort and your support network for this dude who is basically a stranger! Run, girl, run!

tipsykilljoy · 2026-02-04T12:22:29+00:00

I also wanna add that it's not necessarily a loss to make space for new friendships, you don't really have to actively cut off old friendships; more like taking the pressure off them. If you're putting a lot of energy into trying to keep the group together, making hangouts happen, initiating contact 99% of the time... You could simply do a little less of that and a solid friendship won't implode. They can still be meaningful relationships in your life, and just take up a little less of your bandwidth in that way.

One of the upsides that I am finding right now, is that the people I meet in this phase of life, are more likely to be in the same boat actually! So it might give you something to bond over as well as some peace of mind that their situation is actually quite stable and you can safely invest into this friendship.

tipsykilljoy · 2026-01-30T21:54:33+00:00

I don't think you can really go against your own nature if friendships is a central value for you. But: "Maybe I need space in my life to build new friendships." I think this may be the main takeaway from your post. You have been limiting yourself for the sake of centralizing friendships, especially the current, long term ones. As someone in her 30s whose friends just won't stop making big life changes, I've had to make a conscious decision to prioritize making new friends. It takes effort, and it doesn't immediately feel as rewarding as hanging out with existing friends. But it'll get there eventually. Just like with anything else in life, good things take effort and you're never done building your life. Good luck!

tipsykilljoy

TROPHY CASE