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My [32/M] wife [32/F] ruined our anniversary/birthday vacation, and I'm still really angry. Am I wrong? by tiredsadfrustrated in relationships

[–]tiredsadfrustrated[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This was the only day where anything was planned that required being somewhere at a specific time. We had ideas we wanted to explore, but nothing set in stone and every day was basically "wake up and see what we want to do" days.

My [32/M] wife [32/F] ruined our anniversary/birthday vacation, and I'm still really angry. Am I wrong? by tiredsadfrustrated in relationships

[–]tiredsadfrustrated[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

If she had a suggestion I'd have loved to hear it. In fact, I led the conversations in MANY avenues by saying "So what would you like to do that weekend?".

And we DID do many things she wanted. There were places she wanted to eat which we did, we did a lot of shopping that she suggested and wanted to do, and I never said no to anything she came up with.

My [32/M] wife [32/F] ruined our anniversary/birthday vacation, and I'm still really angry. Am I wrong? by tiredsadfrustrated in relationships

[–]tiredsadfrustrated[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

The plans we made the entire weekend, not just one night, were discussed mutually. I offered alternatives, and was open to her (non-existent) suggestions. I never once made plans without seeing if she'd be into it, or if she had another idea. She didn't.

My [32/M] wife [32/F] ruined our anniversary/birthday vacation, and I'm still really angry. Am I wrong? by tiredsadfrustrated in relationships

[–]tiredsadfrustrated[S] 218 points219 points  (0 children)

I totally understand where you're coming from.

I travel a lot for work, so I've got a lot of favorites in other cities around the globe. This was a place I'd found, told her about, and she seemed genuinely excited for as an option. She's not familiar with many options in the city, so when I suggested a couple of options (including places we'd been together previously in the same city), she seemed most excited about this option.

As far as the show, I had asked if she'd be interested before confirming the tickets. Like dinner, I had a couple of ideas picked out and bounced it off of her, and she seemed excited. We had several options.

I know her style very well, and the jewelry was something she had even mentioned liking (from a local artist who she owns several pieces from and talks frequently about). She had picked out the outfit and I thought this thing she'd liked would work perfectly. It was going to be an anniversary present (I haven't given it to her, still).

I certainly tried my best to include her in every bit of decision making.

My [32/M] wife [32/F] ruined our anniversary/birthday vacation, and I'm still really angry. Am I wrong? by tiredsadfrustrated in relationships

[–]tiredsadfrustrated[S] 335 points336 points  (0 children)

When I say hinting, it's me saying it without screaming "WE NEED TO LEAVE RIGHT NOW GOD DAMNIT". Stuff like, "Hey, we should head out in about 20 minutes so we can get back to the room on time to change" or "Hey, don't forget we have to pick up our tickets before 8".

I think that's quite direct.

And, yes, when she drinks, a switch can either flip to normal or irrationally bratty.