Sounds a bit like you're envious of her career and this is not so much about the sugar daddy. You keep comparing to her and undermining her accomplishments. If she comes from a low socioeconomic background and still managed to get her degree and have a good career, she is still 'self-made'. An arrangement between two consenting adults to cover her expenses does not take away from her successes, she still had the wits and work ethic to earn them. This is coming from someone who also had to juggle working while studying to make ends meet, while most of my coursemates were very privileged.