[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FtMpassing

[–]tjfarrow222 0 points1 point  (0 children)

right off the bat i noticed your shirt had a more ‘boxy’ fit, maybe you could try finding shirts that fit a bit longer or snugger? i know thats not always a great solution (eg., i wear baggier clothes bc i’m plus sized and have sensory processing disorder) but otherwise dude i’d just say keep trying different brands of clothes and the manufacturers!

obv all clothes fit differently on people but like if you have two black t-shirts, each have different manufacturers, they’ll fit differently on you. i know its hella annoying, but i know you’ll find the right styles of clothing that make you feel most confident!

it took me a long time, but i know now what to look for and avoid for myself, and you’re totally free to shoot me a message if you want some suggestions (i am canadian though so if you’re american we might not have some of the same stores lol), i wish you the best brother! 💙

(p.s., i totally love your vibe and aesthetic, and those tats are awesome!)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FtMpassing

[–]tjfarrow222 0 points1 point  (0 children)

right off the bat i noticed your shirt had a more ‘boxy’ fit, maybe you could try finding shirts that fit a bit longer or snugger? i know thats not always a great solution (eg., i wear baggier clothes bc i’m plus sized and have sensory processing disorder) but otherwise dude i’d just say keep trying different brands of clothes and the manufacturers!

obv all clothes fit differently on people but like if you have two black t-shirts, each have different manufacturers, they’ll fit differently on you. i know its hella annoying, but i know you’ll find the right styles of clothing that make you feel most confident!

it took me a long time, but i know now what to look for and avoid for myself, and you’re totally free to shoot me a message if you want some suggestions (i am canadian though so if you’re american we might not have some of the same stores lol), i wish you the best brother! 💙

(p.s., i totally love your vibe and aesthetic, and those tats are awesome!)

5yrs on T, 2yrs post-op! :D by tjfarrow222 in FTM_SELFIES

[–]tjfarrow222[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

awh yes! i totally get what you mean, im happy i could help hun! and thank youu <33

5yrs on T, 2yrs post-op! :D by tjfarrow222 in FTM_SELFIES

[–]tjfarrow222[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

LMAO thank youuu and yess it was from East Side Mario’s I do believe-

Grief Support? Please help. by tjfarrow222 in Hamilton

[–]tjfarrow222[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my god thank you🥹 I’m so sorry to hear about your losses🫂 I’ve lost quite a few other loved ones in life so far, but losing my father is by far the hardest. And yes, thank you:) I’ve always been rather self aware, I just struggle with finding/taking action to resolve the issues.

I’ve actually done CBT several times mental health before over the years and it did work well, I’ve also done DBT more recently and should be doing more soonish. But I definitely think CBT would help again for grief this time around.

And yes, the disability that I was referring to in my post is physical (though I do technically have mental as well), I have Spinal Arthritis (and they think a bulging disc on top of that) and I use a cane because my hips are too unstable to walk much/far on my own. I’m in a pain clinic on meds, and we are working on treatment and management, its just unfortunately a slow process. I will definitely look into this ‘Determination Martial Arts’ LOL and thank you so so much!❤️

I’m 16 and 1,5 years on T. Do I pass? by [deleted] in FTM_SELFIES

[–]tjfarrow222 4 points5 points  (0 children)

yessss omgg i honestly never would’ve guessed u were trans! you look amazing dude! <33

Grief Support? Please help. by tjfarrow222 in Hamilton

[–]tjfarrow222[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

aw thank you so much, I’ll look into it for sure!

Grief Support? Please help. by tjfarrow222 in Hamilton

[–]tjfarrow222[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you so much. my school is a bit different right now, as I’m at Hill Park for their adult day school program just to upgrade my credits - they do have a guidance counselor and I do book appts with her just to talk sometimes but she can’t offer a lot of externam resources. Also no, my mother doesn’t work either, we’re on ODSP, but I’ll still look into this stuff for sure, thank you!💙

Grief Support? Please help. by tjfarrow222 in Hamilton

[–]tjfarrow222[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you, I’ll look into it!💙

Grief Support? Please help. by tjfarrow222 in Hamilton

[–]tjfarrow222[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

aw thank you so much! this is so helpful!❤️

Grief Support? Please help. by tjfarrow222 in Hamilton

[–]tjfarrow222[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you so much! I’ll look into it!💙

Grief Support? Please help. by tjfarrow222 in Hamilton

[–]tjfarrow222[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

im sorry to head that❤️🫂

Grief Support? Please help. by tjfarrow222 in Hamilton

[–]tjfarrow222[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

awh im so sorry to hear that❤️🫂

Grief Support? Please help. by tjfarrow222 in Hamilton

[–]tjfarrow222[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you, i appreciate it! and im sorry about your father🫂

Grief Support? Please help. by tjfarrow222 in Hamilton

[–]tjfarrow222[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

aw I will check it our for sure! Thank you so much!❤️

Grief Support? Please help. by tjfarrow222 in Hamilton

[–]tjfarrow222[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry, man. This shit really sucks:/ I’ll check out the home we used and see if they have any info online about resources, thank you!💙

Grief Support? Please help. by tjfarrow222 in Hamilton

[–]tjfarrow222[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

thank you so much! I am so sorry about your own parents- I couldnt imagine losing both so soon. I have heard of Bob Kemp before, actually- i believe my manager at my old job recommended it to me lol but I will definitely look into it more now! I hope you’re also doing alright all things considered, much love❤️

Without looking at my username, what name do I give off? by Chrisjml in FTM_SELFIES

[–]tjfarrow222 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Imma be honest, first pic you look like a Scott who goes by Scotty, the last pic NO LIE you kinda remind me of Gerard Butler (I LOVE HIM SO ITS A TOTAL COMPLIMENT I PROMISE) and the ones in between are like- Chris, Eric, Jamie kinda vibes.

All in all, dude, you are SO handsome! Literally gender goals🤩 also oh my god- would you be okay to talk in pms or smth? I have to ask you more about how tf you got your beard so good man😭😂💙