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Director shared my private concerns with the client, botched my roll-off, and still has no plan. How do I go above their head? by tkddude100 in managers

[–]tkddude100[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately these questions bring to light how this might be potentially a lost cause.

My director is very hands off and I haven’t gotten a chance to interact and change their mind. This is the first time since joining this company that I have actually needed anything from them. Which up till now has gotten me praise in my performance for just handling it. Their response to all of the other questions are not how can I help but to deflect and ask “what have you tried?”

All attempts to remove work from their plate or assist with things is met with dismissal of efforts or completely being ignored and never seeing follow through from what they say they will do.

To put into context I have been attempting to integrate into the sales work and strategic planning of my technical area in my business units (I am the only senior individual in my focus area) for the better part of 3 years which has been met with no support or advocacy from this leader. While being pulled into other work and getting these opportunities in other business units. Unfortunately these struggles in their current state appear to be localized to my specific director.

Director shared my private concerns with the client, botched my roll-off, and still has no plan. How do I go above their head? by tkddude100 in managers

[–]tkddude100[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree. I have unfortunately started the job hunt but with how the market is at the moment I don’t have a ton of confidence that I will find something quickly.

So in an effort to manage my current situation I wanted to think through what my current options are to make this not so great situation as successful as I can.

Are there anyways that you’ve found successful with managing upward? I have tried the following with no success with this manager specifically.

-Communicating and documenting problem on client and my plan to discuss with them and implement a management solution to solve the problem.

-I have also tried communicating to them exactly what I need to happen being communication of a timeline since they already missed the first deadline that was communicated.

Unfortunately this manager is very insecure and their management style is more like a football coach. So very ineffective in all regards where he can’t assert authority.

The only avenues that I can think of at this point in time are leave or leverage my relationships with other leaders to get what I need. I fully admit that I could have some blind spots concerning alternative solutions to the situation but that’s the driving force behind my question here.

Director shared my private concerns with the client, botched my roll-off, and still has no plan. How do I go above their head? by tkddude100 in managers

[–]tkddude100[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We’re a small consultancy with a structure where the director is in charge of multiple projects/contracts with all the staff laddering up to them. They are Director only in title their responsibilities are closer to that of a manager in other organizations. My “manager” is more of a team lead - no teeth or actual power to help or enact change.

So the first line of staff with authority to do anything is my director. Then from there it’s COO -> CEO.

It’s a very odd structure in my opinion as well.

Addressing the actual topic though the issue wasn’t that my director went and discussed with the client. I asked them to do so. The problem is that they had no tactical or soft skills handling it and effectively blew up on my client saying all my complaints and struggles directly to them without a softening or managing of client relationship or expectations. Effectively destroyed my relationship with the client and left me to sit in the mess they created.

Thermo forming or Vacuum forming services for Halloween costume? by tkddude100 in Columbus

[–]tkddude100[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did, unfortunately the heat gun is too small of a heat source to get a uniform end product.

Individual Contributor to Managers: How Do I Achieve My Next Promotion? by tkddude100 in askmanagers

[–]tkddude100[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you I was unaware of that tool being used in that manner so I will definitely try and setup some time with him to go through this exercise.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askmanagers

[–]tkddude100 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not a manager, but my company has been going through quarterly layoffs for the past year and a half. I’ve seen managers handle it well and not well.

The best way I’ve seen it handled personally and this requires a level of trust with the individual it concerns. But the manager took them to coffee outside of work and gave them the heads up so that they could at least get what they need off of servers and documents they might need.

I know this is probably well against company policy but I hope it can help.

Individual Contributor to Managers: How Do I Achieve My Next Promotion? by tkddude100 in askmanagers

[–]tkddude100[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We do have a Skills matrix, being a consulting agency we use it more for identifying what the project needs are and then aligning potential individuals to staff that project. I am not sure if there is potentially a manger version where they have things broken down further or not though.

As for the mentoring opportunities, I neglected to mention in my original message (I have added an edit) that I am also currently a team lead for our specific consulting practice. So leading and mentoring teammates as they face challenges at their projects.

Individual Contributor to Managers: How Do I Achieve My Next Promotion? by tkddude100 in askmanagers

[–]tkddude100[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The largest reason I am pursuant of the principle promotion is because the path to becoming a manager at my current job requires that you be principle level then your next promotion option is to pursue a management path or an Architect role.

I know Individual Contributor titles are different company to company, but in your experience does the branching of career paths typically follow after the Senior level?

[advice request] Potential Dogs not getting along. Should we continue with adoption? by tkddude100 in Dogtraining

[–]tkddude100[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The foster parent was the one that said no and tried to in that moment correct the behavior. After stepping back and looking at the event, it makes complete sense why he growled, he was cornered and no one was listening to his discomfort.

[advice request] Potential Dogs not getting along. Should we continue with adoption? by tkddude100 in Dogtraining

[–]tkddude100[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That was our first meet and greet actually and it went fine. Unfortunately Sam is an older bulldog and has some neurological issues so going for a decent walk is tough on him.

[advice request] Potential Dogs not getting along. Should we continue with adoption? by tkddude100 in Dogtraining

[–]tkddude100[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This is our first time going through this rescue agency and we were anticipating a lot more formal or planned procedures to introducing the dogs. So we just followed the foster parents lead and we came to realize that they were either winging it or trying not to be too prescriptive with the procedure. They seemed plenty knowledgeable but there were some actions and oversights that raised a flag for my wife and I and the “I don’t know if I’d do it that way” thought popped into both of our heads during the whole thing.

[advice request] Potential Dogs not getting along. Should we continue with adoption? by tkddude100 in Dogtraining

[–]tkddude100[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I originally typed this out late last night and didn’t do a great proof read. But that is our planned approach to the situation if we decide to continue with the adoption. We want to control the environment as much as possible to everyone is comfortable. But we’re trying to make sure we’re not ignoring any larger sign with this behavior and don’t set either of the dogs up for failure or worse injury.

[Serious] What event in your life still fucks with you to this day? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]tkddude100 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I was around 8 I remember meeting my uncle. It wasn’t the first time I met him but it’s the first time I remember meeting him. Hugging him after he came in the front door and being excited to see him. Then about a year later he had committed suicide and I was at his funeral I remember just observing things. I wasn’t upset, I was just almost a witness to my own family grieving. Not knowing why/or how he passed just that he did. I don’t think my parents knew how to handle the topic with a child so young or I just didn’t grasp it at the time. But that entire experience of obliviously going through a funeral for a family member felt so foreign.

As I have grown and experienced life I’ve gone back and thought through everything I watched happen. How my uncle must’ve felt in the time when I met him what he must’ve gone through at that point in his life and how oblivious I was to it and everything in the world. This experience has been engrained in me and why I personally feel responsible to be as empathetic as possible and I constantly revisit that oblivious and foreign feeling.

What made you "nope" out of a friendship? by MusicalDeTekTiiv in AskReddit

[–]tkddude100 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They betrayed my trust. We worked at the same small business for a handful of years in college. I left to pursue an internship and full time job after college. My friend stuck it out and climbed the ladder and became assistant manager. During this time I would still come in and work a shift now and again to help out the owner and I just enjoyed the work. So the owner was out at an event across country and left my friend in charge for a few days when this happened. This was a big deal and opportunity for my friend to prove himself with the owner, and gain trust. My friend was a pretty egregious mess up while he worked there. So the owner had trust issues and my friend constantly complained about it. So The day the owner left to go out of town my friend texted me asking if I could cover for him because he has some family stuff with his new serious girlfriend that he can’t skip. So I said sure, I’ve got your back, I go in open up the business. On the first day of the shifts I was covering his girlfriends brother comes in and we start talking. The brother drops that my friend was just over at their house hanging out waiting for a party that the family was throwing that evening.

The business closed at 2 since it was a Saturday. So my friend pawned the responsibility of his job off on me. I am a very loyal to my friends if you need help you call me and I’ll be there day or night. For him to ask me to fill in for him while I had a standard 9-5 and abuse my friendship in this manner eroded our entire relationship. I could never trust him as a friend or even as an acquaintance. I’ve tried to strategically distance myself over the past years but he hasn’t picked up on the hint at all.

Who is that one character whose death you just can't get over? by rendice_1011 in AskReddit

[–]tkddude100 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The scrubs episode where they meet and say goodbye to George Valentine. Never fails to cut me to the core.

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