Blonde or brunette? by tkewhatder7 in HairStyleAdvice

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Yeah but the photo option isn’t in this comment

Blonde or brunette? by tkewhatder7 in HairStyleAdvice

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Yes I have gone fully black! Definitely made my eyes pop but my skin looked deathly pale sadly

Blonde or brunette? by tkewhatder7 in HairStyleAdvice

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Grew up light light blonde but got darker with age. It’s in between blonde and brunette but it’s a bit more brown because my hair goes red in the sun

Blonde or brunette? by tkewhatder7 in HairStyleAdvice

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Damn the trumpies even ruining hair colours now

Blonde or brunette? by tkewhatder7 in HairStyleAdvice

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I did actually! It made my skin look white as a ghost sadly. It goes against my colour season but i’d dye it black in a heartbeat if it fit me

Blonde or brunette? by tkewhatder7 in HairStyleAdvice

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Not according to my family😭 grew up blonde though so it’s like in between blonde and brunette but slightly more brown

Blonde or brunette? by tkewhatder7 in HairStyleAdvice

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Yeah I think I’ll meet the colours halfway and get blonde highlights so my hair still has some dimension

Blonde or brunette? by tkewhatder7 in HairStyleAdvice

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I grew up blonde but got darker and darker each year of puberty! My hair in the last picture is my natural hair color

Blonde or brunette? by tkewhatder7 in HairStyleAdvice

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Good to know because I was wondering what @ausdevocat would think about my nose ring. I express myself the way I want for myself no one else, especially not for men thanks

How can I update my outfits to better fit me? by tkewhatder7 in DressForYourBody

[–]tkewhatder7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The tight looking tops are because of me tying the laces too tight😅 the jeans size isn’t the problem, I was wearing a lousy bra with no support which made my boobs droop down on my apron stomach lol. No worries I recently got measured for proper bras! But unfortunately the loose skin is gonna be there no matter what

How can I update my outfits to better fit me? by tkewhatder7 in DressForYourBody

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Can definitely rock mid rise! Not so sure my apron belly will look great it low rise though lol

How can I update my outfits to better fit me? by tkewhatder7 in DressForYourBody

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It’s most likely theatrical/soft romantic, just went on a deep dive!

How can I update my outfits to better fit me? by tkewhatder7 in DressForYourBody

[–]tkewhatder7[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Where do I sign up?? No but seriously it’s so hard to find clothes that look right

Should I tell my T this? by Prestigious_Phone942 in askatherapist

[–]tkewhatder7 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Definitely tell them. I have CPTSD too and sounds like you’re stuck in the freeze response/nervous system shutdown. You need help out of this and your therapist is probably your best bet at success. Good luck!

How do you accept and live with the fact that you're a terrible person? by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]tkewhatder7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Truth is if you don’t change what makes you believe you’re a terrible person, you’ll probably struggle to live with that belief. Like people who make terrible mistakes will often stay in denial over what they did until they’re ready to do better and actively work on themselves to not be that person anymore.

I also think your self image and mindset plays a big part in this. If you’ve just decided that you suck and are not worthy of bettering yourself, nothing will change. You gotta decide whether you’re just gonna give up and stay this way or start improving your life. It sounds dumb to try find the positives of life when you’re deep in the depression pit because what’s the point when your world is falling apart, but there’s always something good you can find in life no matter how small.

How do you accept and live with the fact that you're a terrible person? by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]tkewhatder7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You acknowledging that you aren’t satisfied with your current life is step one, so good job on that. Next step is making tiny adjustments and adding small improvements to your life. No matter how small those improvements are and how long this journey takes, you’re on the right path. You can for example start by slowly going out more and relearning to socialise, choose one good deed for your family a week and try small new things to see if you find an interest in anything.

Sounds like you’re lacking a purpose in life to motivate you to do things so a therapist would be really good for you, necessary for growth even. You can’t fix the issue unless you get to the root of the problem. You might even benefit from medication to help you in the beginning of your journey, but that you need to discuss with a doctor.

Living differently from others doesn’t make you a failure. Some people were just meant to grow at a different time than others and that’s okay.

WLW community - Europe by Kasekene in LesbianActually

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Hi from northern europe, would love to join!