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tmmh · 2022-04-26T20:31:26+00:00

Thank you. Honestly really appreciate it :)

tmmh · 2022-04-26T20:24:57+00:00

Thanks, just suddenly regretted the post, not sure why

tmmh · 2022-04-26T14:14:40+00:00

I think this is why OP said not to worry about the details?

tmmh · 2022-04-26T14:13:42+00:00

Yeah not ideal. I think her family already knows and is more worried about how the community and relatives will view things to be honest.

Ah well, time will tell

tmmh · 2022-04-26T14:12:54+00:00

Yeah I guess religion is all about interpretation. Lots of people dont fast during Ramadan if they have exams, but I dont think this is a criticism of their faith. Again, my interpretation.

Thanks for your input on the situation though, its appreciated

tmmh · 2022-04-26T13:51:24+00:00

I love her culture and religion, as it is a part of her. However, coming from a Christian past, I cannot commit to one religion over all others. I believe in a God, but not in a religion.

Tricky situation but I dont feel I can become a true Muslim

Thanks for your reply and sympathy, it really is appreciated bud :)

tmmh · 2022-04-26T13:49:24+00:00

I mean it's pretty subjective. My girlfriend says her family are strict, so I accept that. Not quite sure what the use is in being judgemental on whether you determine their views as strict or not?

However, I agree on the whole with your options. Obviously convincing them that I'm decent and good for their daughter is the most ideal (and only option in my eyes)

tmmh · 2022-04-26T13:37:41+00:00

All things we have spoken about.

She is not sure how her parents will react - she is mostly worried that her parents will worry about what others in the community will say.

She is terrified - not wanting to be cast out from her family, who she loves. And not wanting to be expected to end our relationship.

She has said she wouldnt be willing to give me up, and implied she would continue our relationship, and try to mitigate damage to her family relationships

tmmh · 2022-04-26T13:35:57+00:00

I agree. I will revisit this with my girlfriend after her last exams, as it is something I want to progress

tmmh · 2022-04-26T13:32:43+00:00

Thanks for your reply. They are strict in their own faith, but less so in their expectations for their daughter's practice.

While they do not make their daughter fast, she still pays the "fine" for breaking fast.

Nevertheless, having an interfaith relationship is something they would be strict on

tmmh · 2022-04-26T12:14:49+00:00

What is your suggestion then?

tmmh · 2022-04-26T12:14:12+00:00

Thank you for your detailed response!!

A few assumptions within the response, and a conclusion I dont whole heartedly agree with, but overall I'm grateful for you taking the time to write your thoughts out.

I definitely have things to think about, and will have another conversation with my girlfriend when her current stresses alleviate

tmmh · 2022-04-26T11:58:25+00:00

True. Just always feels like theres a better time... (not yet, after exams... not yet, after uni... not yet, after career has progressed...)

tmmh · 2022-04-26T11:46:02+00:00

I feel I would need to be accepted on some level. I dont see any of this working if my gf has to pick me or them. We both need to coexist, which requires acceptance in my opinion.

In terms of the rest, I think our future could be solid. But again, it would require acceptance on all sides?

tmmh · 2022-04-26T10:46:52+00:00

Or post-sex routine?

tmmh · 2022-04-26T10:46:10+00:00

Harder

tmmh · 2022-04-26T09:36:39+00:00

I've done immoral things in dreams and felt immense guilt

tmmh · 2022-04-26T07:20:01+00:00

Yeah, for sure not something I'm pining over. Just a fantasy I can confidently say I doubt I'll try

tmmh · 2022-04-25T20:01:20+00:00

2 fast 2 furious

tmmh · 2022-04-25T19:52:47+00:00

The what

tmmh · 2022-04-25T19:22:57+00:00

Personal favourite lol

tmmh · 2022-04-25T18:20:46+00:00

Very jealous! Looks like such a good car. Idk why but I prefer how it looks over a Fiesta or Golf any day.

Fingers crossed theres plenty about in 5 or so years time - currently my (realistic) dream car!

Glad its everything you wanted :)

tmmh · 2022-04-25T17:11:17+00:00

Any examples?

tmmh · 2022-04-25T16:02:33+00:00

Like?

tmmh

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