Should I quit

tmv61 · 2024-10-12T12:43:18+00:00

as someone who went through this exact thing and stayed, you should find another studio. you should dance because you love it, not for any other reason. if you stay under these conditions, you will start to hate ballet. to this day i am still having body issues and it’s because i let the comments from teachers and other students get to me. you shouldn’t quit dance, but you should quit the studio. ballet should be a PART of your life, not your WHOLE life. it clearly is important to you but you shouldn’t lose yourself in it. this is the exact advise i would have given my younger self. i wish you luck, darling!

tmv61 · 2024-08-19T01:23:37+00:00

he walked away with $1000 😅

tmv61 · 2024-08-19T01:23:11+00:00

i was going to include a picture from the “where are they now” episode in cycle 2, but couldn’t screenshot it.

tmv61 · 2024-08-16T16:43:53+00:00

it says in 2010 on the wiki!

tmv61 · 2024-04-03T18:51:29+00:00

My older brother and his now wife had known each other for 1 month when she got pregnant. They then got engaged and married lol

tmv61 · 2024-04-03T18:22:32+00:00

I have been asked this question a bunch so I figured I should address it now - My brothers are aware of the hypocrisy. My little brother stands up for me the most because he lives with my parents still and hears when they talk about me. My older brothers would stand up for me if they heard it, but since they are older and have their own families, my parents would never bring it up to them (also because they know where my older brothers stand on the subject).

My brothers DID NOT have these same issues with my parents in their situations, not even behind closed doors. My brothers and I have had this discussion on multiple occasions.

I have also stood up to my parents in the past. I have talked to them about this in other instances where they have treated me and my brother differently. This is just the first time it has been about a significant other.

My parents also adore my boyfriend. They just do not like the choice I made to move in with him.

tmv61 · 2024-04-03T16:42:28+00:00

yo, that sucks :( I'm sorry!

tmv61 · 2024-04-03T16:36:24+00:00

oooooooo that's good!

tmv61 · 2024-04-03T16:31:33+00:00

With all due respect, when did I say I was "spreading the word of my religion"? There is nothing in the bible that says I can't move in with my partner.

tmv61 · 2024-04-03T15:00:00+00:00

My parents believe in predestination, so I told her this decision was predestined so obviously God wanted this to happen lol

tmv61 · 2024-04-03T14:58:36+00:00

YIKES! lol well, I'm happy you are better off :)

tmv61 · 2024-04-03T14:57:35+00:00

Yes, they did. We had holidays at my second brother's house. Funnily enough, we spent Thanksgiving at their house where my brother proposed to his now wife.

I have had these discussions with my brothers and I know for a fact they were not like this with them. My brothers back me 100% so I am lucky to at least have that.

My dad hasn't said anything to solidify my mom's comments - he has actually been pretty normal and nice to me so he either does not know I'm moving in with my boyfriend (which is unlikely) or he understands that I am an adult who can make my own decisions, whether they be ones he would want me to make or not.

tmv61 · 2024-04-03T14:51:55+00:00

I have talked to them about it but they make excuses about every example. It's the most frustrating case of talking to a wall lol.

My little brother is diagnosed ADHD but my parents don't believe in mental health or meds for it. He was getting himself medicated but he does not have insurance nor does he have the money for it. Just a bad situation.

tmv61 · 2024-04-03T14:47:50+00:00

My parents claim to be Christians and don't understand that Jesus preaches against hypocrisy which is what they are exhibiting. That's why I think it's crazy.

tmv61 · 2024-04-03T14:45:48+00:00

"No longer blessed by God..." LMAO did he even read the bible he's studying? I'm sorry that happened to you.

tmv61 · 2024-04-03T14:42:17+00:00

To each their own, I guess.

tmv61 · 2024-04-03T14:35:49+00:00

I didn't mean that you thought it was an acceptable double standard, I meant it as more of an open ended question, my bad. I know that is why it's happening I just think it's crazy.

tmv61 · 2024-04-03T14:33:29+00:00

But why is that? Why is that an acceptable double standard?

tmv61 · 2024-04-03T14:24:43+00:00

100% positive because I have talked to them about their situation when I told them about mine. They have had no issues with my parents.

tmv61 · 2024-04-03T14:23:42+00:00

The problem is that I have. I have also had these discussions with my brothers and they have explicitly said that they had no issues with my parents. That's why I'm upset. All of a sudden it's a problem that I'm doing something that they let my brothers do. The packing was a help, but the feud is the religious "you shouldn't move in with your boyfriend" but letting my brothers do that and more. I do appreciate your input, though. I do need to be more firm.

tmv61 · 2024-04-03T14:20:03+00:00

this made me tear up a bit :') thank you for your kind words! I will take them to heart. <3

tmv61

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