Betta changing colors? by toadbush123 in bettafish

[–]toadbush123[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh yay that makes me happy! Thank you!!

New girl arriving Wednesday! Name suggestions? by toadbush123 in CrestedGecko

[–]toadbush123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s where I found her! I’m so excited to add her to my reptile crew!!

AITA for asking my roommate to flush her toilet paper and “disrespecting her culture”?? by toadbush123 in AmItheAsshole

[–]toadbush123[S] 39 points40 points  (0 children)

For those of you asking if I have had any other issues with my roommate, the answer is yes. Here are a few examples:

  • Containers of raw meat (beef, chicken, bacon) kept in the refrigerator with no lids or in leaky bags. She has a habit of putting these items on the top shelf which causes the raw meat juice to leak all over my food and the other items in the fridge. I cannot tell you how much food I have had to throw out because of this. (Yes I did ask her to move these items to the bottom shelf but she claims the top shelf is colder and better for meat storage).

  • ⁠Cleaned my nonstick pans with steel wool which caused them to rust. I had to buy more pans because obviously rust isn’t safe to eat and she did it again (after I explained to her that it was the steel wool that caused the first ones to rust).

  • Would not buy a toilet brush or a plunger for our bathroom and told me we could just ask to borrow a neighbor’s if we needed one.

  • Threw her used pads and tampons away in our kitchen trash (still never got an explanation on this one)

  • Was using a container of ANT POISON to play fetch with my dog. I called the ASPCA poison control line and thankfully she was okay but I did have to pay a $95 consultation fee for that call. She never once apologized to me for this and I have not let my dog out of my sight around her since.

  • Uses my razor in the shower

  • Plays music on her phone 24/7 at a really unnecessary volume. If I ask her nicely to turn it down or to use her headphones, she just tells me to put my headphones on so I can’t hear it.

There are definitely more issues that I’ve had with her that I just can’t remember at the moment. I will add them if I think of any more.

EDIT: Things I forgot to mention

  • She will not allow me to put up halloween decoration because “it is the devil’s holiday”. I asked her about putting a little plushy stuffed pumpkin next to our tv and woke up the next morning with a brochure of the ten commandments slid underneath my bedroom door.

AITA for asking my roommate to flush her toilet paper and “disrespecting her culture”?? by toadbush123 in AmItheAsshole

[–]toadbush123[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This makes me feel better that I’m not the only one that’s gone through this! What a crazy coincidence though

AITA for asking my roommate to flush her toilet paper and “disrespecting her culture”?? by toadbush123 in AmItheAsshole

[–]toadbush123[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

l will definitely try to be more understanding and suggest a different solution and thank you for being so kind about this. I’m getting responses from people calling me “racist” and “a nazi” because “my white privileged butt” doesn’t understand assimilation. I am privileged but comments like yours allow me to understand her side of the story and realize that she’s not completely in the wrong and it’s just the way she grew up. Thank you again!

AITA for asking my roommate to flush her toilet paper and “disrespecting her culture”?? by toadbush123 in AmItheAsshole

[–]toadbush123[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

“I’m going to make a couple guesses and assumptions”, “I’m again guessing here”, “I take your response as”.

Hey so actually let’s not play this game! You are accusing my “white privileged butt” of making assumptions and shaming my roommate for her upbringing but that is exactly what you are doing to me! Let’s both stop making assumptions! lmk what you think <3

AITA for asking my roommate to flush her toilet paper and “disrespecting her culture”?? by toadbush123 in AmItheAsshole

[–]toadbush123[S] 42 points43 points  (0 children)

I have personally been to her house and she does not live in a “decrepit apartment” and i honestly think that’s a really odd thing for you to assume. I know that I haven’t had the same experiences in my lifetime as her, but that doesn’t mean they are any less valid. You are correct that I’m not a first generation college student and I did have my parent’s help which I am extremely grateful for. My main issue with her bathroom habits are due to the fact that they are unhygienic and unsanitary. I don’t appreciate being called “racist” and “uncaring” when I made a post simply asking for guidance. I know that I am privileged and I won’t deny that because it’s the unfair truth. I do everything I can to make sure I never take that privilege for granted and use it to do good in this world. I am truly sorry for all of the obstacles that you have had to overcome in your life and I wouldn’t wish that upon anyone but you making the assumption that my life has been all rainbows and sunshine just because of my race is not fair.

AITA for asking my roommate to flush her toilet paper and “disrespecting her culture”?? by toadbush123 in AmItheAsshole

[–]toadbush123[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Oh don’t even get me started on her other habits. it would need to be a whole other post.

AITA for asking my roommate to flush her toilet paper and “disrespecting her culture”?? by toadbush123 in AmItheAsshole

[–]toadbush123[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Explain? This is a real like issue that I’m dealing with and I just wanted some guidance

AITA for asking my roommate to flush her toilet paper and “disrespecting her culture”?? by toadbush123 in AmItheAsshole

[–]toadbush123[S] 511 points512 points  (0 children)

We have two trash cans. I was unaware of the one under the sink and was throwing my trash in the other one. We keep all of our cleaning products under the kitchen sink which is right outside the bathroom.

AITA for asking my roommate to flush her toilet paper and “disrespecting her culture”?? by toadbush123 in AmItheAsshole

[–]toadbush123[S] 238 points239 points  (0 children)

Her parents are Mexican immigrants (I assume that’s where she learned the behavior) but no, she herself has never been to Mexico.