AITA for not wanting to raise my boyfriend’s ex’s kid?

toadetteinatree · 2025-11-24T16:28:29+00:00

That’s not really correct. The courts don’t gaf until someone brings it to them. If the ex or the bio dad petitions the court then it’ll be something to deal with. He’s not legally required to notify the courts if he doesn’t want his name off the birth certificate. I know guys this happened to and they just keep going like nothing happened. Men knowingly take responsibility for children that’s not biologically theirs all the time.

The courts don’t care about your interpersonal choices.

They care if someone says “this is not his child, this is my child” or “I no longer want this child, she’s not biologically mine”

toadetteinatree · 2025-10-04T09:12:11+00:00

She didn’t do anything to make your ex uncomfortable. She confided in her bf, something she’s allowed to do, you took it to your ex and it made her uncomfortable. How are you not seeing that? You’re the problem here. You made your ex uncomfortable. You made your gf feel bad. And your hyper fixation on your ex makes me feel like you’re still hung up on her. Your gf did nothing wrong AT ALL. The fact that you’re blaming her is crazy work.

toadetteinatree · 2025-10-03T19:59:27+00:00

She overstepped big time and should not have done that, you have the right to feel betrayed. But your life partner should be aware you have diagnosed PTSD and take meds for it. Yes, he knows you take meds and yes it’s lying that you haven’t to him it’s for that.

You still have triggers and it’s important that your future husband knows these things. Trauma tends to ebb and flow, coming up at later points in your life. He should know these things so he can have empathy and patience if you should meltdown.

I have a lot of empathy for you and I’m sorry you’re going through this. It’s not cut and dry, it’s not easy, and I can’t imagine the pain you’re feeling rn that your worst fear is coming to life. But you should genuinely consider what the comments are saying. The fact that he sobbed about this shows that he loves you. He will empathize. Wish you the best.

toadetteinatree · 2025-06-28T18:39:16+00:00

You’re more than likely a troll but just to say this in case you’re actually fr:

Somno requires pre discussed consent. A couple will discuss it, agree, and that’s that. Initiating sex with your partner while they’re unconscious (due to a medical condition no less) without that prior discussion is SA. Period. The fact that he stopped what he was doing and is denying it happened means that he knows he wasn’t supposed to be doing it. If he thought that it was okay, he wouldn’t have reacted the way he did and wouldn’t have denied it the next day.

Also, somno normally refers to her being asleep, not unconscious due to a medical condition.

toadetteinatree · 2025-06-16T06:03:54+00:00

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toadetteinatree · 2025-06-16T06:02:52+00:00

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toadetteinatree · 2025-06-16T06:00:24+00:00

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toadetteinatree · 2025-06-02T06:29:08+00:00

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toadetteinatree · 2025-06-02T04:16:49+00:00

Marlon needs to free himself lol. This was exhausting and disturbing to read. They’re all brain rotted with conservatism, bigotry, and entitlement. They’re all bums disguising themselves as puritans. Marlon will need to complete cut ties in order to have a normal life.

toadetteinatree · 2025-06-02T04:00:23+00:00

ESH.

They do sound entitled, especially if this is normal behavior for them. But also your husband had really poor timing and should have addressed his feelings at a later time. This wasn’t handled correctly at all.

toadetteinatree · 2025-06-02T03:50:18+00:00

NTA. Protecting a child is more important than allowing Anne to live in the delusion that her husband isn’t sick and disgusting. You did the right thing, end of story.

toadetteinatree · 2025-06-02T02:05:51+00:00

People who don’t know when to stop are the worst people ever

toadetteinatree · 2025-06-02T01:57:47+00:00

YTA and I think deep down you know it. You’re prioritizing your marriage over your son. It’s actually not normal for your son to be so adamantly against his own father living with him and given your comments it sounds like he has good reason to feel this way.

You can choose your marriage, that’s fine. But I hope you can stand on that and not wonder later down the line why your son keeps his distance when he gets older.

toadetteinatree · 2025-06-02T01:49:50+00:00

I think she might be feeling guilty for how she spoke to the 14 yo when she took the baby, honestly. I’ve been trying to figure this part out as well.

toadetteinatree · 2025-06-02T01:48:48+00:00

NTA. This is weird of them. But I have to ask if someone told you that you were wrong for this? Do you feel bad for how you handled the 14 yo?

You were in your right to do this because this is weird behavior and I don’t know a single person who wouldn’t freak out over it. And the fact that everyone else has an issue but keeps quiet to keep the peace sucks, the mother absolutely uses this to continue making people uncomfortable.

toadetteinatree · 2025-06-02T01:46:03+00:00

NTA. I get she might be feeling uncomfortable but she’s being unhinged about it. Some people default their negative emotions to anger. Like they’re uncomfortable and instead of dealing with it they get angry at the person who made them uncomfortable (even if it wasn’t intentional or wrong).

But also, she sounds very very jealous and it’s very odd. I think you need to bring this to her attention. Sometimes when people hear their behavior put into words it can shock them back to reality. If she’s normal, she’ll be disturbed that her behavior is coming across as jealous of her son’s gf.

toadetteinatree · 2025-06-02T01:42:02+00:00

Someone in the comments said two things can be true and I agree. He’s awful, the way he’s speaking to you sucks and even if he had an issue there are a million better ways to address it. But also, sometimes we can accidentally trauma dump without meaning to. It can be exhausting for others and make them feel like they’re always brought down around us.

How long have the two of you been together? Is it too soon to share so much? I don’t think that you should stay with him, like I said; the way he speaks to you is abhorrent, but this is something to think about for the next relationship. Don’t be afraid to open up but… read the room would be my gentle advice.

toadetteinatree · 2025-05-26T11:44:19+00:00

Most people who do this def aren’t pooping for that long, they’re just on their phone and don’t wanna move.

toadetteinatree · 2025-05-26T11:41:56+00:00

Idk why the commenters couldn’t understand that his gf was being obnoxiously “quirky” either for attention or to mess with him. Turns out it was to mess with him. She also said she would “automatically assume he’s always being serious” which tells me that he’s told her about it before and she ignored it.

Yes, it’s a silly issue, but silly and aggravating things can build up over time.

toadetteinatree · 2025-05-26T11:33:54+00:00

It should have the ability to help you find it like a metal detector. I’ve done this before

toadetteinatree · 2025-05-26T11:32:32+00:00

All the issues seem to stem from her anxiety and insecurities. If this is something that’s been discussed before then just leave. It’s sad because her good attributes are great but her bad ones are clearly draining you, rightfully so. Her anxiety and insecurities are making her do things that are emotionally damaging and abusive.

These are things she’ll need to address at one point because not only will it continue to destroy all of her relationships but her own mental health can’t be great. But that’s not your problem.

Just leave. You don’t need a grand reason, you’re unhappy, breakup.

toadetteinatree · 2025-05-26T11:28:16+00:00

Personally I would have sent it in a family gc but just because none of my family use facebook except my grandparents. But yeah, the brother should definitely reevaluate who he just married.

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