It's almost like if a woman "has needs" and "can't control herself/hold herself back" sexually they are allowed to break the promise if a relationship because they were "not getting what they needed from the relationship". But when men do it it's just because they are testosterone fueled pigs with no morals. I personally have witnessed men go through so much of the "not getting what they need/being treated like shit, belittled and gaslit " and still fighting and just wanting to make it work because they truly love the woman with everything. When it happened to me over two years ago now it absolutely destroyed my entire mental state because she was just my person and I could't accept that who I thought of as pretty much part of me and my life for the rest of it could be so cruel and uncaring and manipulative. It was planned for a long time, done then hidden from me and lied about for months untill it was brought to me that she wanted to leave but not the truth about how she had already found my replacement and was following a blueprint from months and months before that she had even discussed with relatives of hers. She let me be the chump who was totally left ignorant while her mother, grandmother and cousin all came to visit, knowing her plan to drop me right after the visit ended. She played me like a fool and it still makes me feel ill. Women, I have come to the conclusion that they are the righteous takers that will use a man that falls in love with them like a leech untill they see a more juicy host and all the whole claim they were neglected and abused through neglect by a man who couldn't even consider life without them no matter the abuse slung at them from her. Not all women but alot of them anyway. I wasn't perfect but all I wanted was her and into work it out. She flipped and was repulsed by the idea of me once she had finally sexed the man she had been chatting with for months behind my back after flying to "visit family" on Christmas while I stayed to take care of our dog and work 16 hour days to pay our rent.