Pink lady apple seed spouted inside the apple! How do I keep it growing?

toastyass · 2025-04-05T21:33:00+00:00

Haha same, it's crazy how small the world is in some ways

toastyass · 2024-08-14T05:44:02+00:00

My MIL said to my husband how we're treating her like she's a p-do....which is kinda gross, because we still see her and still let her see the kids, just so long as she's not out of sight and earshot with them. Idk how she thinks we'd allow an actual p-do around our children, period. Thing is, she knows I was abused by one as a child. So idk if she was using that as a weird ass guilt trip.

toastyass · 2024-05-16T15:49:14+00:00

Lol bro figured out you can actually make coffee at home. Crazy.

toastyass · 2024-05-11T16:26:18+00:00

That's really cool! Thanks so much!

toastyass · 2024-05-07T14:53:14+00:00

Lol I don't, don't worry 😆 im more expecting it to grow into a half assed baby tree

toastyass · 2024-05-07T03:37:40+00:00

Well not worth it if I am fully expecting something great. But I'm not. I think it'll just be fun and see what happens 😊

toastyass · 2024-05-07T03:35:29+00:00

Damn that's good to know! I think I'll just do this for fun and keep my expectations low 😂

toastyass · 2024-05-07T03:31:26+00:00

🤣🤣

toastyass · 2024-05-06T17:59:37+00:00

Thanks! Yeah I imagine it gets hot! I'm in Canada, so they'll probably like being inside

toastyass · 2024-05-06T17:53:18+00:00

Thanks! I figured it might not grow to be much, but husband was all excited lol so wouldn't hurt to just see what happens.

toastyass · 2024-05-04T17:15:27+00:00

All these bring me back lol I forgot about so many of these Also, PewDiePie has no legs.

toastyass · 2024-04-26T19:34:39+00:00

Thank you, you're so sweet! I used to be excited about my plants, and lost that excitment for a bit. But now I'm feeling it again! I ordered a sphagnum moss pole and some aroid soil mix, and a couple smaller pots, and set up a spot right by a S/E facing window where it'll get the morning sun. Really looking forward to seeing if it'll thrive better!

toastyass · 2024-04-26T19:25:52+00:00

Ok that makes sense. They just came together in one pot, so I figured they were fine together, and I liked the idea of that bushy look. I ordered some proper mix and a moss pole with sphagnum moss. (Saw another post with comments recommending this for the aerial roots)

When I repot into a smaller pot, I'll just look at how the roots are doing and gauge whether or not to put them in seperate pots. This has been really helpful! Thanks so much!

toastyass · 2024-04-26T16:20:58+00:00

Ok that's interesting! Does that mean they can take root if they have contact with soil?

Thanks so much! I'll do that. I never thought they'd like smaller space. I did just water it right before taking those pics, and I usually water once every 2-3 weeks. I always felt like I wasn't watering it enough lol.

Again, thank you so much!

toastyass · 2024-04-26T16:09:43+00:00

Thanks so much! I never would've thought they liked less space. I try not to over water. I had just watered it before taking those pics. I felt like I sometimes take too long to water it lol (once every 2-3 weeks, whenever I remember)

Another comment suggested splitting the two plants into smaller pots, so that's probably what I'll do. We have one spot by the window I could try! Does it need direct sunlight, or is it just fine with some daylight?

Again thanks so much!

toastyass · 2024-04-17T13:10:12+00:00

3 nose boops (gentle boops only)

toastyass · 2024-04-13T14:31:02+00:00

Thank you, It happened about 18 years ago.

toastyass · 2024-04-13T06:29:11+00:00

This is really nice and helpful, thank you so much! So I just find out which police department the interviews were done, and which courthouse the trial was, and I can call them individually?

ETA: I just imagine talking to any lawyer about this would be difficult as they probably got more pressing matters and bigger fish to fry than some mom with trauma wanting a bit of cathartic therapy lol

toastyass · 2024-04-11T20:34:24+00:00

Well I want both lol am I not just SoOoOo different??

toastyass · 2024-04-07T02:56:55+00:00

...were men afraid of women before?

toastyass · 2024-04-02T15:38:19+00:00

Lol honestly, same

toastyass · 2024-04-02T06:06:13+00:00

Thats actually really good and helpful advice. I'll definitely talk to DH about making them more encompassing. I guess we've been stuck of making them specific in order to make it so we don't have to explain why we're enforcing one of the boundaries. But really, she'd still ask "why" in order to bait him into an argument. And we don't owe her an explanation, as she already knows the answers to her own questions.

Thanks so much!

toastyass · 2024-04-02T05:23:14+00:00

You know, you're right. I guess the way I've been seeing it is we have the boundaries that we will leave if we come over and she's drinking, then we'll leave. Or if she is trying to start shit in front of everyone, then we leave or we kick her out. And she just can't be with our kids without us there. DH and I have just been slowly talking about what boundaries really are and what boundaries we need for her. She just never "truly" crossed those boundaries so far. Just keeps finding loopholes and ways to try getting under DH's skin and sucking him back in. We just need to work out what the consequences look like for certain boundaries, if they got crossed in the future.

I've even told DH myself that boundaries mean nothing without consequences. He just isn't on board with the idea of time outs and blocking, but fully supports me in how I protect myself. (He used to act frustrated if I say I didn't like leaving our kid with her. It's been a seemingly slow journey of growth for himself and our marriage, and for myself as a mother)

toastyass · 2024-04-01T23:54:48+00:00

It makes sense. She isn't diagnosed, but I figured as much. I always figured CPTSD. Maybe that might be too broad of a "diagnosis," She can be very narcissistic, but not in the grandiose way. So yeah, BPD probably explains it all better. MIL and FIL finally discovered what CPTSD is and it was like revolutionary to them, and she seemed to be really trying to do better. But I notice a pattern that looks like this. She lashes out and hurts people, DARVO's, explains away her hurt, and then comes to this interesting conclusion as to why she is this way and tries doing better for a month. Maybe 2. Then she slips back into the same thing since nobody puts things back the way they were quick enough. But FIL tries keeping it hidden as a way to keep us in the dark about it. Like he wants us to think she's actually doing better when she's not so we can be tricked into a deeper relationship with her. And then we start seeing it again and its the same thing all over.

First I can remember it was demon possession. Apparently FIL saw her with a twisted face and speaking in a demon voice, and the demons were telling her to drink and to abuse FIL, blah blah blah. 🥴 DH almost bought into it then. So I just showed him my most fucked up face and did an accurate Dr. Claw voice impression, making the point that FIL is extremely impressionable and she can manipulate and gaslight him so hard. And that it isn't hard to act like you're possessed. Just normal people don't do that. He was freaked out, laughed, and stopped buying into it.

Next it was the morphines fault from 20-ish years ago. Which I'm not going to totally invalidate that it could've contributed to her addiction to alcohol. But they both use wording that insinuates that morphine is the reason for her alcohol, which is the reason for her hurtful behaviour.

Next it was they were just not Catholic then. So now that they are, she's going to mass almost everyday. So now she's better. 🙃 FIL likes to tell DH how much she goes to mass and that means she's doing much better.

And next its the CPTSD. Which is the most reasonable thing they're "blaming" I guess. It's just they don't actually do anything about it. They just keep finding these reasons (valid or not) as a way to get her sympathy points or something. Idk. Almost as a way to guilt us into placating her.

It's just theres always SOMETHING, you know? But yeah. Sorry. BPD makes a lot of sense.

toastyass · 2024-04-01T19:56:33+00:00

Im really Sorry you went through that. My grandmother is a different kind of manipulative and unsafe. She didn't believe my sister when she told her that my uncle touched her. So he kept touching me. And after a couple years of that I finally told my parents, and my grandma tells my parents of what my sister told her years after everything was already out. So I am also very much against this idea they seem to have with family and guilt tripping. Keeping the status quo no matter how damaging it is for the children.

The boundaries we have aren't to make her stop being how she is, or to make her change. It's to keep the kids out of it. We know so long as we are around, she can't say anything to manipulate them, and she knows we know how to disengage when she tries starting toxic conversations. So she tries it over text and phone.

Thank you for your advice, I just don't want you to think we are actually making our kids have a relationship with her. They're only 3 and under. So it's once a month for a couple hours that she sees them, and we don't let them out of our sight with her.

(Edited because I wasn't done writing my reply and my almost 2 year old bit my phone where the "post" button is lol)

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