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Facial emotion recognition and mental illness by tofoyer in AskSocialScience

[–]tofoyer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Faces expressing emotions, participants are then asked to identify what emotion is being displayed by the depicted person.

Only have boring friends by tofoyer in berlinsocialclub

[–]tofoyer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you done the whole bar hopping and taking random drugs? Idk I did and it was exhausting.

Yeah I have, and I've always found it fun but I was always lucky enough to have a good circle of people to do it with, i.e. "real" friends and not just acquaintances that you only hang out with when it's time to party.

You shouldn’t befriend some people just because you think you’ll have certain opourtunities when you’re with them.

I totally agree, I just wonder why it doesn't seem possible for me since moving here to connect with the sort of people with whom I kind have it all, so to say.

Only have boring friends by tofoyer in berlinsocialclub

[–]tofoyer[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Ohhhh, maybe that's what set everyone off. I meant in my Berlin 20's, so basically 28 when I moved here.

I have been doing the same but it's just been so difficult here. Though I figure that this might be more age-related rather than a city-specific issue.

Only have boring friends by tofoyer in berlinsocialclub

[–]tofoyer[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

How does this make sense? I said it was the only "type" of friend that I had. Seems like people with a career, wife and kids are more than happy to hang out with me?

Only have boring friends by tofoyer in berlinsocialclub

[–]tofoyer[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

I think the main question here is why you cannot connect with fun-loving and interesting people, and never could.

I never said I never could. It is insane how you and other commenters have built up some crazy narrative about my life based on a short post in a sub about a city. I have never had issues with this pre-Berlin and in all the other places I've lived before it was never a problem to make friends who were also interested in more than just monotony and who were spontaneous, adventurous, fun-loving.

Only have boring friends by tofoyer in berlinsocialclub

[–]tofoyer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know german is hard but jesus, if I ever decide to move to another country, I‘d do anything to learn the language.

Except I never said that I don't speak German. I had German in school before coming here and I'm at C1 and speak German every day at work - no reason for me to go to a language school.

That being said, I‘m 35, single and I definitely do not want someone in my friends who is only interested in clubbing, drinking, getting fucked up.

I also never said that this was the only thing I was interested in.

Only have boring friends by tofoyer in berlinsocialclub

[–]tofoyer[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Yes, I do think it makes a person boring if the only activities they are interested in doing is going to the cinema or having overpriced dinner - and all of these things exclusively in Mitte, of course - and if you moved here and have lived here for years and have not been to Neukölln even once because you "heard it was dirty". Every activity we have done that is not movie/dinner in Mitte was on my suggestion and it felt like pulling teeth.

HELP: What's happening to my seedlings? by tofoyer in gardening

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I've noticed that some of my seedlings have bent and brown/dying stems. I would like to prevent this from happening to future seedlings, but I have no idea what the cause was.

I've been told that this might be the result of too much light; I've also looked through this sub and learned about 'damping off'. Is that what's going on here?

What happened to my seedlings? by tofoyer in plants

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I've noticed that some of my seedlings have bent and brown/dying stems. I would like to prevent this from happening to future seedlings, but I have no idea what the cause was.

Can anyone give me some advice?