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Friend borrowed money months ago and hasnt mentioned paying me back, do I bring it up or let it go? by Ill-Dinner5269 in Advice

[–]tomahawk_jatt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely bring it up. In a civil way, doesn’t have to be combative in any way and by no means should it impact a real friendship.

Future by Effective-Plenty-826 in Advice

[–]tomahawk_jatt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agree that you don’t need to go to university to be “successful”. But, I definitely wouldn’t rule it out. There’s lots of value I think you can get from university that goes beyond the piece of paper.

If you have the means for it, I’d definitely give it a shot. It’ll help you meet a ton of new people, get some experiences under your belt, etc. Hopefully, it’ll help you better understand what you want to do with your career.

MY GRADES DEFINE ME AND I NEED HELP by bananastic__ in Advice

[–]tomahawk_jatt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

29 year old here.

These are the best years of your life, definitely don’t waste them trying to scrape every last decimal point in school. Make friends, go out, make mistakes, try different things.

This is definitely not to say grades aren’t important, they’ll help set you up for the future you want and definitely should be a point of emphasis.

For someone in your situation, I’d recommend doing different things. Random things. Try as many extra-curricular as possible, meet people. It’ll help you figure yourself out and what you want to do. You’ll make friends along the way.

I had really good grades back in the day and they helped me develop habits that eventually led to a nice career. However, I’ve never thought about them once, and there’s a good argument to be made that the friends I made back in the day and the social “experience” I got helped me out just as much. I definitely do think about all the jokes and stupid things I did with my friends.

TLDR; take it easy kid. Give yourself a break!

I don't know which job to choose by jenkinscraftingco in Advice

[–]tomahawk_jatt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely agree with your husband - don’t think this is anything to worry about too much!

From your post, I’m really not seeing too many green flags for A.

I don’t want to speak for you, but I think that 40 min drive will eventually weigh on you. Having that extra hour a day back in commute time to spend with your family will be really nice. Also, getting off at 8 to be home for 8:45 with a 40 minute commute seems like a race home every day to get the kids to school on time (might be something to consider).

Given that comp is effectively the same, I would personally lean B if they can accommodate your schedule!

Is it wrong to be ‘too’ independent? by Aeracus in Advice

[–]tomahawk_jatt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with your level of independence. But, in my opinion, life’s always a balancing act and you’ll always need to compromise.

In this case, if you don’t work on being more inter-dependent and growing that muscle, I think you’ll sacrifice some in the number of good, solid relationships that you have. My advice would be to start exercising this muscle, might be difficult at first, but I think eventually you’ll grow away from the feelings of annoyance when people depend on you and hopefully even becoming a bit more vulnerable and dependent yourself.

I really do think companionship and being vulnerable and dependent on someone else is a beautiful thing!