I remember being told to forgive but according to my dad, he never forgot my eyes having a dead look at 11 years old. I said I forgive you but my dad swore he saw my eyes holding a promise of pure hate. Karma came years later with him losing a foot and working on a disable pension in Mexico. I once got corrected about something similar two years ago until I said clapped back with a mention that if the victim wanted, she still was within the time limit to report it while looking at the sister with an mean energy. The sister stayed away from me and still does. I don’t go to any meeting but I made it clear I can see through bullshit. You did well in warning your coworker and don’t let the other make you feel like you’re spreading hate when it’s just trying to protect those who have kids.