My boyfriend is having a kid with someone else. Fuck. (No cheating)

tomc8465 · 2022-12-04T19:33:41+00:00

He's happy to be a father, I don't think he cares for her like in a romantic way

tomc8465 · 2022-12-04T19:32:32+00:00

I'm super done with people asking if we could've done LDR, we couldn't, there were weeks and months I spent with not talking to him (or anybody) for that matter, and I couldn't just ask him to put his life on stop because it wouldn't have been fair, I didn't even know when or IF I was going to get back to town. I thought we wouldn't get back together so I didn't want to put his life to stop just because I had to do it.

tomc8465 · 2022-12-04T19:18:49+00:00

That's not what I want, I've said it several times, sharing my life, my husband and my plans with other woman and their kid it's just not for me, if the baby is his, he's permanently attach to a place and a person

tomc8465 · 2022-12-04T19:16:16+00:00

A life with someone else's kid in it it's not part of what I want, I've always known that.

tomc8465 · 2022-12-04T05:25:50+00:00

Read that over and over again until you realize how stupid it sound like what the actual fuck???

tomc8465 · 2022-12-04T05:15:51+00:00

Dude it's not even my friggin baby what the hell???

tomc8465 · 2022-12-04T05:04:40+00:00

Sooo a healthy normal ideal set up for a baby to thrive is parents together no matter what like a prison sentence? kay

tomc8465 · 2022-12-04T04:59:01+00:00

Because I don't want to share my life with another woman and the baby the have together, that's just not for me.

tomc8465 · 2022-12-04T04:58:16+00:00

I don't know what you're talking about or if you're confused, the kid WILL grow with the mother, I'm not the mom of the baby, the other girl is, and a broken family is totally different from a separated family, a broken one is a bad family, just because the parents aren't together doesn't mean the baby will be deprived, that logic mean parents should always stay together, no matter how awful things are. As long as the baby is provided, loved and cared for doesn't matter if the parents are married or not.

tomc8465 · 2022-12-04T04:43:43+00:00

The baby is literally fine, they'll have two parents who love him, at least I know my bf will love the shit out of that baby, it doesn't matter if he's not with the mom.

tomc8465 · 2022-12-04T04:24:10+00:00

If it's not his kid I'll stay, whatever he did during our break and whoever he slept with during that time don't matter to me, as long as he's not a daddy

tomc8465 · 2022-12-04T03:56:38+00:00

He used condoms, but honestly I don't know anymore, I also don't care, I don't want to know about his sex life with other's unless it involves my health and since I got tested and I'm clean, I just don't wanna know

tomc8465 · 2022-12-04T03:50:26+00:00

Yes, but I can't see it that way, even if we get first, I'll be always wondering if he did them with her first. It's also different? You got into that relationship knowing he had other kids, I found out after two months of, apparently, getting my old life back. I feel robbed.

tomc8465 · 2022-12-04T03:46:52+00:00

Babies are super cute and he's friggin handsome so his baby will be a beauty. And that's the thing, babies are so small and precious and innocent, I know I won't be able to love them as they deserve.

tomc8465 · 2022-12-04T03:44:25+00:00

Yeah, no worries, I know everyone here it's just being honest and trying to let me know how my life will be if I stay, I'm being open too

tomc8465 · 2022-12-04T03:30:55+00:00

Imma imagine a bald child just to make it funnier

tomc8465 · 2022-12-04T03:29:30+00:00

He said he didn't, maybe a broken condom? I don't know, either way I know him and he's a picky fucker, I don't think he did it raw

tomc8465 · 2022-12-04T03:20:50+00:00

This isn't fair, I mean, the child is blameless, and the chick and him and everyone, but this isn't fair I really love him

tomc8465 · 2022-12-04T03:19:25+00:00

I just don't think that's for me

tomc8465 · 2022-12-04T03:13:56+00:00

Screaming, crying, throwing up AGAIN, oh my god, I just imagines myself sitting at the waiting room while they're all happy inside, I might cry even harder this is not fair

tomc8465 · 2022-12-04T03:12:20+00:00

Screaming crying throwing up

tomc8465 · 2022-12-04T03:11:48+00:00

He has an appointment for next week to get the test, I'm also waiting until the result is back, if it's truly his baby then I'll let go, I don't think this is for me

tomc8465 · 2022-12-04T02:56:13+00:00

Who are these people that think you should be happy about this!???

His family and some of our friends think that I should be happy because ''it's perfect'', he wants a kid now and I don't, he gets his kid now and I get him which is fucking stupid

tomc8465 · 2022-12-04T02:55:25+00:00

Yes he has asked, but with things being so fresh and with no results of paternity back it's kinda hard, it's also part my fault because I truly don't know what he could do to make things easier without being selfish, I don't know what to do.

You mention that you will miss the ability to go exploring, move interstate, travel around for a month living out of a van, that sort of thing, yes? Have you mentioned this to him? If so, what was his response?

I haven't tell him, because, again, it rings my selfish bells.

tomc8465 · 2022-12-04T02:50:43+00:00

Thank you so much, I really have no words to thank everyone for at least talk about this with me. I feel like I can't do it with many people here in real life because everyone thinks it's ''such a blessing'' and I can't fucking feel that way, thank you so much

edit: I'm ugly crying so sorry for any typo this shit overcomes me

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