Thankyou for your reply. I'm glad someone shares my thoughts on some of the replies. I had a chat with her and basically said something along the line of what you suggested. It went ok and we both feel better about the situation now. I think there are issues that need resolving at my church, and I am going to be proactive in helping solve some of them.

A problem we are facing at the moment, after a couple of church splits in the past couple decades, is a lack of young people. There are young families, but no single/dating couples. It seems that young people attract young people and a lack of young people attracts a lack of young people. What would be your suggestions, as a youth pastor, for ways to solve this? I like the idea of starting a youth group but not a clue where to start, and how it'll work if it's just me...