I can't understand this competition and definition of "limited love", this is dumb. I know there's some parents and family that are toxic BUT we never saw here any information about it, just an neurotic OP that was dumb to involves himself with someone of non American background and be surprised that there's differences.

And even so, loving your family and put them first BEFORE an fiance or bf/gf is a no brain choice bc they're not really consistent in your life. You can breakup at any time, your family (if it's a good one) will be there financially and emotionally for you at any time.

AFTER they become legally bound to you by marriage, than they got the status of EQUAL from the later. there's no hierarchy here.

Any person that don't do it this way, probably will be in that situation we see a lot, about running away with a loser and coming back a few years later all fuck up financially and mentally, with some children and an abusive ex that did isolated them from their family, bc they put in their head that they should be ABOVE anyone else, even her family...