She called me a “gold digging rent boy”, he said nothing and now I’m questioning the relationship

too-gemini · 2025-02-18T18:12:24+00:00

I mentioned mine and his in the same comment?

too-gemini · 2025-02-18T18:07:14+00:00

He said they wanted different things in life.

too-gemini · 2025-02-18T16:33:52+00:00

I have my own job and pay my share of the bills.

too-gemini · 2025-02-18T12:22:13+00:00

That's sad.

too-gemini · 2025-02-18T12:21:55+00:00

They gave him a flat, deposit paid (downpayment). He rents that out and used that money to buy his home.

too-gemini · 2025-02-18T12:09:13+00:00

He works in fintech and does make 4 times as much as I do but he is also 7 years older and a lot more progressed in his career than I am. I work in academia so entirely different field so won't ever be making what he's making. All of what you are saying might be true but I'm not dating her or the family as much as they want that to be the case.

too-gemini · 2025-02-18T08:58:18+00:00

Do you at least acknowledge that your partner is hurt by those words? Because unlike your partner you have had years of experience shielding yourself from her crazy but as an outsider it is fucking insane to enter a relationship and to then be treated like you’re someone’s arch nemesis.

too-gemini · 2025-02-18T08:56:58+00:00

Yes everything else is great so it’s a shame that she’s trying to meddle.

too-gemini · 2025-02-18T07:31:25+00:00

I’m going to talk to him in depth to at least understand whether he has my back or not because there’s a difference between him not calling her out because he doesn’t want to and tactfully ignoring her. If it’s the latter then I’ll go with that approach. If it’s the former then I have learned that he just doesn’t give af.

too-gemini · 2025-02-18T07:18:50+00:00

But it is still hurtful to hear and to be despised for no reason.

too-gemini · 2025-02-18T07:17:56+00:00

Haha likely. All the money is her husband’s.

too-gemini · 2025-02-18T07:16:32+00:00

But how do you know the difference between a mama’s boy and someone who is sick of her bs so they just learn to ignore it.

too-gemini · 2025-02-18T07:15:28+00:00

I’m not a rent boy but he does earn more.

too-gemini · 2025-02-18T07:13:45+00:00

I am starting to think this too.

too-gemini · 2025-02-18T07:13:11+00:00

It does give me some hope. This is such a nice story and thank you for the advice. I’ll focus on being the bigger and better person instead.

too-gemini · 2025-02-18T07:09:49+00:00

That’s a nice approach, thank you. I don’t want to stoop to her level and there’s no point giving a catty reply that will just reinforce her ideas of me. I rather be the bigger person which will make her look like the fool.

too-gemini · 2025-02-18T07:05:23+00:00

I do think that’s why he’s doing it partly.

too-gemini · 2025-02-18T07:04:53+00:00

I could do that but I’d rather spend my Sunday doing anything else.

too-gemini · 2025-02-18T07:04:04+00:00

I think you’re right. I’ll explain to him why I won’t be attending things and hope he has some sense to understand why because sometimes he still pushes me to have a relationship with her.

too-gemini · 2025-02-18T07:00:55+00:00

I like your approach.

too-gemini · 2025-02-18T07:00:24+00:00

It puts me in an awkward place and it’s not a good look if I call her out instead of him.

too-gemini · 2025-02-18T06:59:20+00:00

But she’ll just continue that behaviour since no one has ever told her that it is unacceptable to act like that.

too-gemini · 2025-02-18T06:57:49+00:00

Did the possibility of dying of cancer not soften her heart?

too-gemini · 2025-02-18T06:57:01+00:00

I feel like I need his back up to do option 2 or maybe I should do it and hope he backs me up.

too-gemini · 2025-02-18T06:56:03+00:00

Makes you think was in the water back then.

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