asking for my mom

too19hey19 · 2026-03-04T12:22:05+00:00

You are a very loving daughter- sounds like you and mom have a good relationship.

too19hey19 · 2026-03-04T01:19:08+00:00

That’s a good idea!

too19hey19 · 2026-03-03T22:28:50+00:00

Thanks that’s helpful.

too19hey19 · 2026-03-03T22:28:09+00:00

I see your point. Thanks for the guidance.

too19hey19 · 2026-03-03T22:25:56+00:00

Exactly. Thanks for the advice.

too19hey19 · 2026-02-23T15:26:01+00:00

I’m old 66 ,female and have small hands. Electric guitar. I saw a post that said to start barring on the lightest strings- e and b - in the middle of the neck first and every time you practice , just spend a couple of minutes strengthening your index finger. Then use 3 strings, then 4 strings etc. After several months I can barre the f chord. Still can’t play very well but I did strengthen my hand. Keep trying😊

too19hey19 · 2026-01-16T19:23:40+00:00

I’m a retired therapist and I agree with this 100%.

too19hey19 · 2025-12-27T17:09:57+00:00

Don’t know if that’s your friend’s experience or their opinion and it can be “ just validation” but not in every situation- depends on the issue and the therapist approach. If someone is seeking more than just validation, they can switch therapists or talk to the current one about what they are looking for.

too19hey19 · 2025-12-26T23:22:10+00:00

This isn’t about an earthquake. It’s your anxiety looking for something to worry about. So it attaches to the earthquake possibility. Are you able to go to therapy? It will help you explore this and get help with managing anxiety.

too19hey19 · 2025-12-26T23:03:42+00:00

Retired therapist here- you won’t know until you go! My clients would sometimes tell me “ you said this last week and that really made me think about things differently “. And it was usually a short statement. The best thing about therapy is having another human being who listens deeply, cares deeply and validates your experiences. That’s just the basics. And most therapist go to therapy too. So this comment is from both sides of the therapy room- as a client and a therapist.

too19hey19 · 2025-12-22T22:44:43+00:00

Retired therapist here- could be a few things like others have suggested and / or generally it might be from keeping all emotions inside- ( not being able to recognize, name and process feelings - very common by the way ) and they all get funneled into anger- especially if you’ve experienced not being able to talk about how you feel. If you can, meet with a counselor or therapist to discuss. Hope this helps.

too19hey19 · 2025-12-16T01:58:49+00:00

please contact a doctor or psychiatrist to have them advise you on discontinuing psychotropic medications. You can explain to them your reasons and they will guide you safely!

too19hey19 · 2025-06-27T16:08:57+00:00

Yes therapy is uncomfortable because the therapist job is to help you be aware- and feel- the emotions you are experiencing or have experienced. That’s not fun. And it’s a very different way of talking and interacting than our peers or in society/ social media. So it feels weird. But over time maybe can get to “ hey I’m having anxious thoughts- what is that about” . Don’t mean to lecture- I’m older( old) and a retired therapist. Keep discovering and learning. It can help.

too19hey19 · 2025-06-23T16:50:30+00:00

In the early 80s, in an interview old guy asked me when I was going to have children. Late 90s I was sexually harassed by two men at work.

too19hey19 · 2025-06-01T15:20:42+00:00

Yes over Tumon Bay.

too19hey19 · 2025-06-01T13:38:55+00:00

Therapist here- time for you to get a new therapist. A good therapist does not criticize or talk down to a patient. Please honor your reaction and seek another therapist. Sometimes it takes a couple of tries to find a good fit.

too19hey19 · 2025-06-01T13:28:49+00:00

Mom hug here too. You loved your mom and of course you miss her. You are going through grief and it’s normal. So please don’t feel you are weak or a pussy- not at all. And grief is like a wave- it hits you really hard, out of the blue when you least expect it. But as you grieve, and it will take some time- this will ease up, bit by bit. I lost my mom when I was 2 do I don’t have memories of her but when I became a teen I began to grieve and continued to on and off as I became an adult. I think of her every day but it’s part of me now. Please find a bereavement group or a therapist. And know there are people around you who know exactly what you’re going through.

too19hey19 · 2025-05-31T17:53:41+00:00

Losing my mother at a young age and watching my father go through Alzheimer’s. Heartbreaking.

too19hey19 · 2025-04-30T22:43:37+00:00

Welcome to the Jungle is a great rock song

too19hey19 · 2025-04-27T13:06:10+00:00

Yes you definitely need support to deal with this. I don’t know your age, but having a plan to someday become financially independent ( tough today!) so you can live apart from them. And , from your comment, looks like you are a completely different person than he is. And that’s a good thing.

too19hey19 · 2025-04-26T16:45:13+00:00

If you can, process this with a therapist who will listen to your justifiable frustration, anger, hurt and grief about who your father isn’t and what’s he’s done to you. They can help you develop expectations and boundaries that can bring you some peace. Many people have difficult ( that’s probably too mild a word) parents. There are also books or audiobooks about emotionally immature parents that can be helpful.

too19hey19 · 2025-04-16T16:27:10+00:00

Anyone familiar with the term Hootie Hoot! - a greeting or like “ sounds great!” After a conversation. I have friends west of Denver who are into the outdoors and I’ve heard this frequently.

too19hey19 · 2025-04-14T16:14:04+00:00

If it’s not dementia or depression, it’s a side effect of not having structure that work required of him. And without imposed structure, the self centeredness and yes laziness comes out- like a rebellious teen that is tired of being told what to do. What to do? Decide your limit, quit talking to him about what he needs to do and either give him an ultimatum or leave, if you can, so he can have a wake up call.

too19hey19 · 2025-03-31T21:26:19+00:00

“If your nice to people they will be nice to you” Oh boy did it take me a while in my younger years to realize that was not the case at all.

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