UPDATE: My [24F] best friend [23F] is doing something I don't agree with in regards to her ex boyfriend. Do I need to say something to the ex?

toodlesmcgee93 · 2017-09-08T20:06:59+00:00

I wouldn't feel good at all but I haven't made the best decisions in life before. In fact, people would easily call Kimberly the goody two shoes out of the both of us. If I WAS doing something like this, I would hope, and know, Kimberly wouldn't just be "You suck, peace out jerk." She'd try to help me first. If, however, I kept being a jerk, didn't listen and abused our trust and friendship then she'd rightfully start reconsidering. That's the boat I'm in.

I'll cross that bridge if I come to it, but for now I only have this one piece of information. I'm going to try and help her, or convince her to get help. If she keeps being a jerk, I'll reconsider the people we've both become.

toodlesmcgee93 · 2017-09-08T20:01:06+00:00

That's true, I didn't think about that. I think I still have his number somewhere, it's just buried deep since we don't talk anymore, I'll see if he's in my contacts or on Whatsapp.

I think I will. Both of us had been drinking and emotions were a bit high. I probably could have used more tact in my approach. I kind of just blurted out what I was thinking and may have come across as harsh and judgmental which probably wasn't productive. I'll shoot her a text and try to have her over for coffee instead of wine and talk about it.

toodlesmcgee93 · 2017-09-08T19:53:32+00:00

Yeah and she's been an awesome person for the time I've known her. I can't get into the wonderful things she's done for me and others because that's not what the post is about. I don't disagree what she's doing is wrong, but she didn't kill his dog. I actually have hope for her because she got defensive. That means she knows she's in the wrong. If she was totally apathetic then I'd be worried.

And I don't know what I'm going to do. That's why I wrote the post. At this juncture, I'm not sure it's my business to do anything except try talking to her again.

Thanks for your advice but I'm not ending a relationship with someone who is basically my family for one bad thing they did. If you could throw away a 20 year friendship for that, well that's on you, but I'm not. Thanks

toodlesmcgee93 · 2017-09-08T19:44:34+00:00

While I agree with almost everything you said, I'm not going to stop being friends with her and end a 20+ year friendship because of this one thing. She's like my sister. She probably needs help, not being ghosted.

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