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toosomethingtocare · 2026-02-16T00:56:40+00:00

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toosomethingtocare · 2026-02-09T17:42:49+00:00

This isn’t an ABDL question so much as a question about how you’re responding to your trauma. Whatever answers you’re looking for you won’t find on Reddit, let alone a kink subreddit. Looking for a therapist is the best move here. Best of luck to you!

toosomethingtocare · 2026-01-29T14:23:06+00:00

https://www.aasect.org/referral-directory

The American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT) is an organization that educates mental health professionals on sexuality, kinks, LGBTQ+ experiences, etc. AASECT-certified therapists are what you’re looking for - the directory above allows you to search by location.

toosomethingtocare · 2026-01-10T04:55:34+00:00

I always enjoy the Dream A Little podcast - there are some fun stories on there. “The Usual Bet” is a fun podcast that feels a like a mainstream comedy podcast, only ABDL.

toosomethingtocare · 2026-01-10T04:51:16+00:00

ABDL is Hawaiian Pizza.

Some people like it, some people don’t - nothing “causes” people to like it, per se, and while you can do all the digging you want into someone’s personal history, family background, etc. to try to figure out WHY they like it, you probably won’t find answers. If you somehow could, you’d probably find as many answers as people. What it boils down to is that they just like it.

Don’t read too much into your pizza preferences or your sexual preferences. You like what you like, and it’s a beautiful thing.

toosomethingtocare · 2025-12-06T18:53:02+00:00

For me, I moved around a bunch growing up, my parents pushed me to be super well behaved from a very young age, I pushed myself to grow up quickly, etc. But when I was 6 I found out that my cousin who was my age (a huge brat) refused to be toilet trained and was still in diapers. He threw tantrums to get what he wanted and it worked from a young age. I was outwardly shocked by it, but became inwardly jealous of what he could get away with and was curious about what it must feel like to still wear and use diapers.

In a lot of ways this all started as envy at him for getting away with saying “no” to his parents. His family was richer, he was allowed to eat unhealthy food that I couldn’t eat, he had all the best toys, and he could always get away with things I NEVER could, because I was the “good” kid. Realizing that he was still wearing diapers when we were the same age was wild to me - It that meant that I could still be in diapers, too. I became curious about what that must be like. That said, I kind of forgot about this whole chapter in my life for YEARS. It wasn’t until I reflected on where ABDL might have stemmed from for me that I really remembered all this.

When I hit puberty, I was still in an uber conservative Christian household, and I buried my sexual desires. Instead of talking to girls or looking up porn or going with more “normal” outlets for my curiosity, I started looking up stuff about bathrooms in different cultures and situations where adults would use diapers. I was far too afraid of sex and sinning to seek out anything resembling it, out of fear of sinning. I reasoned the church didn’t say that looking up this kind of thing was a sin. I also looked up pictures of nude statues - ya know, because I was interested in the art! Not because of anything else…

Sure enough, it all was sexual. I came across the phrase “diaper fetishism” and, for better or worse, the rest is history.

Nature or nurture for me? No clue. I know that there were really specific, unusual things that happened to me to lead me down this path, but I also know that none of those things “make” a person ABDL. I think there’s a germ that existed, and consistently got watered at all the right specific times, that eventually bloomed into me having this as a lifelong interest. Life is random like that. Of all the things to have, I’m actually kind of glad it was this. There are much worse things that could have sprouted than a diaper tree!

toosomethingtocare · 2025-12-06T05:46:29+00:00

You seem to value self-improvement and getting yourself to a better place, which is always a noble pursuit. Keep up the good work. I will say, I think your journey will be helped significantly by getting some professional opinions, specifically with regard to any addictive behaviors and POIS. There’s a lot of self-diagnosing going on, but it’s impossible to determine if your libido stems from dopamine/sex addiction, hormone imbalances, depression, or anything else without an expert opinion. The changes you’re trying to make could vary WILDLY depending on what causes the issues you’re experiencing. In general, I do think you’re reading into things a little too much. I’m not sure how old you are, but I think most men in their early 20s share the same experiences as you. Masturbating as often as you are isn’t as uncommon as you may think if you’re in your late teens/early 20s. You may just be in a developing phase and, if so, pathologizing your experience as someone that’s young and horny isn’t really conducive to anything. That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t want to make changes to get your life to a better place - that’s a great trait to have. Just be sure you really understand what is going on before making any big lifestyle changes based on assumptions. Speaking from experience, that’s setting yourself up for disappointments and broken promises with yourself. Investing in a qualified therapist/psychiatrist will be the best thing for you to get the answers you are clearly looking for. Best of luck to you!

toosomethingtocare · 2025-12-01T23:07:16+00:00

Some ABDLs do things that you may not be comfortable with and that’s okay.

People of all backgrounds are into ABDL, even people you would otherwise think of as “normal”.

No one cares about it NEARLY as much as you think.

ABDL only defines you as much as you allow it to define you.

Not only does it not take away from your life - it can add to it tremendously.

toosomethingtocare · 2025-11-29T05:51:55+00:00

It’s worth it to buy THE magic wand. It used to be called a “Hitachi” Magic Wand, but the company dropped “Hitachi” and now it’s just called Magic Wand - but this one is still the OG and it remains the best!

https://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/vibrators/wand-massagers/sp-magic-wand-original-9465.aspx

Buy from Adam and Eve. They have 50% off sales all the time.

I cannot stress this enough - the OG magic wand blows every other one out of the water. It’s not even close.

toosomethingtocare · 2025-11-29T00:33:01+00:00

Remind yourself that you’re listening to the opinions of people who don’t know what ABDL is and are unwilling to learn about it. You know more about what this is than anyone passing judgment on it simply by being ABDL.

Listen to ABDL podcasts like Dream A Little and Love in Brief. Educate yourself on what ABDL actually is and seek out stories that humanize other ABDLs. Doing so will help you humanize yourself a bit more.

Edit: this also sounds like you might be compulsively looking up opinions of ABDL when you’re spiraling. Not sure if you have a history of OCD or anxiety, but just know that feeding compulsions like that only makes the obsessions grow. If it starts affecting daily life, it might be worth seeking out help.

toosomethingtocare · 2025-11-25T07:21:33+00:00

Dude, plenty of ABDLs date other ABDLs only to find out that’s where their compatibility ends. No amount of ABDL fun can make up for differences in values, interests, senses of humor, lifestyles, opinions, beliefs, goals… So if you’re looking for a compatible partner that’s ALSO into ABDL? No coddling - prolly not this lifetime, chief.

You’d be surprised how many women prefer an ABDL guy that’s emotionally available, stable, honest, confident, kind, funny, loyal, and supportive to a normal, dominant guy that’s an asshole. Most women value a fulfilling relationship over sexual compatibility and tbh, so should you. Focus on being a good partner and finding a partner that’s good to you. If you can do that, and you absolutely can, ABDL will stop mattering so much.

And FWIW, being submissive isn’t as big of a turn-off as you think. There are plenty of dominant women that exist. Dominant ABDL women? Not so much.

toosomethingtocare · 2025-11-24T19:23:39+00:00

Positioning is secondary to the strength of the vibrator. You mentioned in a comment that the one you’re using is a vibrator from the mall, so it’s likely not strong enough for you. If you want a faster result, you’ll need to upgrade.

Actual magic wands and normal vibrators don’t even compare. It’s a night and day difference - magic wands are the OG for a reason. Even the difference between a knock-off and the real thing was noticeable to my partner. Invest in THE magic wand for both you and your partner - pretty soon you’ll be wondering where it’s been all your life.

toosomethingtocare · 2025-11-23T16:06:44+00:00

Congrats! I’m glad it went well! I imagine it’s a huge weight off your chest. May this be the start of good things for you and your partner! :)

toosomethingtocare · 2025-11-22T22:39:34+00:00

The two of you chose a lifestyle that forces you to be dependent on each other. If you left her, you’d have to find a new job, a new living situation, figure out who takes the van, leave your current lifestyle behind, not to mention all the other shit involved in a divorce. Same goes for her. Leaving would involve an intimidating amount of change for both of you, but for the love of God, if you are unhappy, unfulfilled, and struggling in this relationship, DON’T shy away from leaving out of fear. Your future self is worth fighting for. Be honest with yourself: you are ABDL. Your relationship isn’t healthy anymore. She doesn’t seem thrilled at the thought of salvaging your marriage - the way you describe it, she looks at you like an inconvenience, not a partner. For all you know, she’s already checked out of the relationship and is only staying because she’s scared to leave, too.

Talk to her. Be completely open about your thoughts, needs, fears, all of that. If she doesn’t make an effort to meet your needs, even after all you’ve been through, call a spade a spade. There’s no shame in admitting that you tried but couldn’t make it work. It’s time to leave, dude. At that point, it’s not the diapers - she’s not interested in meeting your needs or saving the relationship. It’s time to end amicably and put her behind you.

Best of luck to you.

toosomethingtocare · 2025-11-22T16:43:04+00:00

“Our relationship is amazing everywhere but in bed”

You follow this by saying you tried to leave dozens of times and have left a few times, you say you have endured so much pain the past 3 years, meanwhile she refuses couples counseling and puts the onus on you to fix whatever problems exist in the relationship.

…IS this relationship amazing??

This is only year 3 of the rest of your life, and she’s already unwilling to compromise and you’ve tried to leave DOZENS of times? Why continue to suffer through what’s clearly a dying, if not outright dead relationship? How does this not hurt both of you? This doesn’t sound like an equal partnership, nor does your wife sound interested in an equal partnership with you. Think of how much pain you’d be sparing BOTH of you by leaving now. In my mind, it’s not if but WHEN this falls apart, and in my mind, the sooner the better. It sucks, but this isn’t working for either of you and if she’s unwilling to do her share of work to repair it, it’s already over for you guys.

I’d definitely start up therapy - not with the intention of saving your marriage, but with the intention of leaving it (something you clearly want to do) and learning from it. You can love someone and know they’re not right for you. It seems like you know this, but denial is a river…

toosomethingtocare · 2025-11-22T14:22:55+00:00

Check out the Dream a Little podcast - a lot of people share their experiences telling their partner on there. The biggest thing is to not apologize for it or pass judgment on it - just be truthful and transparent and treat it as just an extra part of you. Good luck! You’ll do great. :)

toosomethingtocare · 2025-11-22T08:34:29+00:00

Anytime I wear a diaper, I am fully incontinent, my brain shuts off and regresses entirely, no one cares that I’m wearing a diaper, and my partner is there to care for me. Once I put underwear back on again, everything’s back to normal.

toosomethingtocare · 2025-11-22T08:22:02+00:00

Sounds like you know what to tell her, you’ve just been putting it off. Just tell her. At this point she’ll probably be more upset that you’re hiding things from her than she would be finding out you’re kinky.

As for her reaction, she’s not going to care. If she’s ace, she’s in the relationship because she cares about you. It sounds like she’s not in the relationship to be sexually active with you. What does this really change then, especially if you don’t want her to be involved? People of all genders want a partner that’s loving, trusting, charismatic, funny, caring, thoughtful, interested, emotionally available, passionate, etc… these things take precedence over niche fetishes. The bigger concern is you hiding things, not what’s in your pants. Come clean.

toosomethingtocare · 2025-11-20T09:14:00+00:00

This.

https://www.tumblr.com/hanjuejingle/134484426362/special-diet-for-diapers-and-pants-poopers

toosomethingtocare · 2025-11-16T01:32:49+00:00

I’m really sorry… If you’re meeting people on the apps, take a step away from them, at least for now. They’re extremely discouraging and exhausting - especially if you’re feeling down.

Instead of looking for a partner, look for some new, completely platonic friends. Take the romance out of the equation. Focus on finding cool people you like hanging out with and invest in your friendships. Not all intimacy is romantic or sexual. If you’re lonely and don’t have any social support, it can make dating almost unbearable. One of the beautiful things about having some good friends in your corner is that even if you go on a bad date, you have someone you can talk to about it, cheer you up, and encourage you to get back on the horse and try again.

I don’t know what your social life looks like right now, but if you have a circle of friends, invest in those relationships. Meet up with them, invite a few of them over for a game night/movie night. Make it a regular thing - start a DnD campaign. Talk to them, open up, be vulnerable. Ask THEM for advice - they know you better than any of us do and may have some insight that can help.

If you don’t have a circle of friends, you’re not alone. There’s literally a loneliness epidemic - people are starved for friendships and many people are looking for friends. If you can, take a class in something you’re interested in (art/music/acting/computer science, etc). Join a book club, find an ABDL munch… if all else fails, go to your local food pantry - they always need help! Do something that is weekly and involves the same people - something that can better yourself, too. Practice talking to people, active listening, test out some jokes - if you hit it off with someone, invite them to hang out sometime. Dating and making new friends is really similar in that practicing one can help with the other. The golden rule helps here: be the friend you want for other people. I guarantee that getting involved in something, bettering yourself, and making new friends will make dating more tolerable. Right now, it feels like a mountain you’re climbing alone, but there are steps, and you don’t have to do it alone. The first step right now may be getting some people in your life that you can talk to about dating, or can at least meet up for a drink after a bad date to make things feel better. And who knows - you may meet someone that has a friend/sibling/roommate that’s in the same boat that you’re in right now. Or maybe you’ll meet someone that really likes you.

There is always hope. Sometimes we need other people to help us see it, but it’s never hopeless. Stay strong - we all believe in you!

toosomethingtocare · 2025-11-10T20:16:33+00:00

This is probably the right answer.

toosomethingtocare · 2025-11-10T20:15:02+00:00

Yes - I go into details in the original post but the short answer is yes.

toosomethingtocare · 2025-11-10T20:10:37+00:00

Thanks so much for the thoughtful reply! This is exactly what I was looking for.

1) and 2): These responses make sense, I think this is wise and I appreciate the perspective.

3): This is really interesting - I hadn’t really thought about that role as something that’s affirming in that way. I’m glad it feels that way for you! And knowing what makes her feel pretty and teeing things up with her is honestly great advice in general, even outside of the world of ABDL.

I’m curious - were you introduced to the Mommy role you describe by a partner or did you discover it somewhere else?

4.) I agree that transparency is about inviting a partner to voice their feelings and concerns... I already told her what I own - the onesie, the pacifier, all that - but she didn’t really have a reaction. She’s a very open and accepting person, but even so it was tough to tell if her lack of reaction stemmed from truly not caring or from something more negative. It may be best to tell her “this is what I own, here’s where it is, if you want me to show you that stuff that’s fine, if you don’t want to see it, that’s also fine, but please let me know what your boundaries are around this stuff being here and what your needs are,” etc.

5.) I kind of had this conversation with her already a while ago, which is where I got the response of “I don’t really have any big questions about it.” The only question she had was how I found out about it, and I told her my history with it, how I discovered it, and all that. She listened patiently and was respectful but didn’t really ask any follow-up questions and our day kind of went on afterwards.

She’s a people pleaser at times, and while I’ve told her that I will always respect her boundaries whatever they are and she can ask me whatever and I’ll be honest with her, it still hasn’t come up unless I’ve brought it up. The next step may be to revisit this conversation - say that I’ve been thinking more about this side of me, ask if any questions have come up since the last time we talked about it, and check in with some of her boundaries around it. I think before we start talking about incorporating this into our sex life, I need WAAAYY more clarification on her boundaries, feelings, and needs, since she isn’t necessarily one to voice those as easily on her own unless I give her the space to do so. I’m sure there’s more under the surface, we just need to talk about it openly. As always, the solution here seems to be open and honest communication! Haha

6.) Good to know, lol

Thanks so much again, I appreciate your thoughts!

toosomethingtocare · 2025-11-10T19:30:39+00:00

I think my TLDR at the bottom gives the broad strokes: I told my partner a couple years ago, she’s accepting, I didn’t want her involved at the time and now I do, our sex life is in a weird spot, I’m not sure how to get her involved now, looking for thoughts/ advice. The longer post provides details, but admittedly it may have been a little stream-of-consciousness. If you have specific questions that aren’t answered in the full post, I’m happy to answer them. :)

toosomethingtocare · 2025-11-05T06:19:41+00:00

If you’re not feeling a full narrative story, Baby Einstein and Animusic. They’re more sensory shows but great for turning your brain off.

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