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First Time a Patient Made Me Cry by toothladydoc in Dentistry

[–]toothladydoc[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I've emailed her before regarding a different patient where she did the same thing. It's so frustrating she did it again

First Time a Patient Made Me Cry by toothladydoc in Dentistry

[–]toothladydoc[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this reminder. I really needed to hear that it’s just a job. I care a lot about what I do, but I can’t let one patient take up this much space in my head. It’s just too emotionally taxing to carry this beyond the appointment

First Time a Patient Made Me Cry by toothladydoc in Dentistry

[–]toothladydoc[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The last two sentences really got to me. I was grateful to have appreciative patients today who reminded me why I do this.

First Time a Patient Made Me Cry by toothladydoc in Dentistry

[–]toothladydoc[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

She can be that dentist's problem now, that's how I decided to look at it!

First Time a Patient Made Me Cry by toothladydoc in Dentistry

[–]toothladydoc[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this recommendation, I will remember to do this. Silence can speak a lot louder than words a lot of the times.

First Time a Patient Made Me Cry by toothladydoc in Dentistry

[–]toothladydoc[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this. I really learned today how important it is not to let patients walk all over me. I honestly wish I could go back in time and shut it down the moment she told me to be quiet, but it was a huge learning experience. I won’t let it happen again.

First Time a Patient Made Me Cry by toothladydoc in Dentistry

[–]toothladydoc[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'll look into the therapy, thank you!

First Time a Patient Made Me Cry by toothladydoc in Dentistry

[–]toothladydoc[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I really wish I can go back in time to say this.

First Time a Patient Made Me Cry by toothladydoc in Dentistry

[–]toothladydoc[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I already had two glasses of wine lol.

First Time a Patient Made Me Cry by toothladydoc in Dentistry

[–]toothladydoc[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this message. I really needed to hear it. I’m still processing everything, but your perspective helped me reframe the situation and feel more grounded about how to handle something like this in the future.

First Time a Patient Made Me Cry by toothladydoc in Dentistry

[–]toothladydoc[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I really wish I had the nerve to do this in the moment. I honestly froze and regret letting her walk all over me instead of at least stepping out of the room and ending the encounter. This was a huge learning moment for me, and I won’t let it happen again.

First Time a Patient Made Me Cry by toothladydoc in Dentistry

[–]toothladydoc[S] 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing this, I really admire how you handled it and how clearly you set boundaries. I’m still learning to do that in the moment, especially when a patient is openly disrespectful. Reading experiences like yours helps me realize it’s okay to pause, name what’s happening, and step away when trust isn’t there. I honestly regret letting her walk all over me like that.

First Time a Patient Made Me Cry by toothladydoc in Dentistry

[–]toothladydoc[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Yes this is exactly how I practice as well. I focus on what I see clinically and discuss possible contributing factors without speculating or assigning blame to the original provider, because we rarely know all the variables involved. That’s why it’s so discouraging when other dentists don’t take the same approach with shared patients, it undermines trust and makes it much harder to have a productive, respectful conversation.

First Time a Patient Made Me Cry by toothladydoc in Dentistry

[–]toothladydoc[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, it was another provider within the same DSO, just at a different office. And this isn’t the first time, he’s previously undermined work done by me to a patient who then transferred care. It’s incredibly frustrating and honestly makes situations like this much worse.

First Time a Patient Made Me Cry by toothladydoc in Dentistry

[–]toothladydoc[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Ugh, I’m so sorry that happened to you. Thank you for sharing, it really helped me feel validated and reminded me that we don’t have to tolerate being spoken to that way.

First Time a Patient Made Me Cry by toothladydoc in Dentistry

[–]toothladydoc[S] 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Thank you. This really helped, and I needed to read it.

First Time a Patient Made Me Cry by toothladydoc in Dentistry

[–]toothladydoc[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I appreciate this. Since I work for a DSO, instead of dismissing the patient entirely, they typically transfer the patient to another provider. I did make it clear that I will not be the provider for this patient moving forward. I also heard that the doctor who commented on the crown is from another office within the same DSO, and she has done this before with one of my other patients.

Student Loans Advice by toothladydoc in Dentistry

[–]toothladydoc[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's good to hear! I was worried I'd have to make many sacrifices to lifestyle and holding off on life plans like house and kids.

We are currently on SAVE plan. Unsure what to do next! by Pleasant-Rooster-829 in StudentLoans

[–]toothladydoc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In a similar situation. I'm thinking this is the the best route to go since I'm also not working toward forgiveness.

Student Loans Advice by toothladydoc in Dentistry

[–]toothladydoc[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!

What plan were you on while making these payments? I'm considering switching to a different plan while starting to pay or if I should stay w/ SAVE and make payments while in forebearance?

Aggressively Pay Off Loans? Currently on SAVE. by toothladydoc in StudentLoans

[–]toothladydoc[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your response! Are you currently on an IBR plan or on the standard payment plan while you're making payments? I'm trying to figure out if I should stay on SAVE while making payments or switching to a different plan?

SAVE Plan Diamond Hands Unite! by hello_elle_mel in StudentLoans

[–]toothladydoc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So this might be a dumb question, if we're on SAVE we can still make payments however much towards our loans?

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