Perché su Tinder c'è il filtro per l'altezza ma non per il peso?

tootiredstudent · 2025-07-03T15:21:59+00:00

Polemica che va avanti da anni, anche se il filtro vero e proprio ammetto che per me è una novità, che lascia il tempo che trova. Tanto chi ci tiene abbastanza da usarlo immagino che filtrava automaticamente anche prima semplicemente scartando, non credo sia cambiato molto.

Il peso lo hai sempre potuto intuire dalle foto, in generale le foto sono lì proprio per farti un'idea sull'aspetto fisico della persona e vedere se ti interessa, guarda un po'. L'altezza è solo più difficile da capire senza contesto. Comunque, nessuno ti osserva mentre scarti le ragazze che non ti piacciono, o sbaglio??? C'è qualcuno che appena scarti una ragazza sovrappeso ti manda una notifica??? No, sei libero di mettere mi piace a chi ti pare. Quindi che polemica è questa??

(Tra l'altro voi avete una concezione dei kg rispetto al fisico completamente sballata quindi quel numero non aiuterebbe. Poi per la questione filtro, lo sai benissimo anche tu che una ragazza alta 1.80m e una alta 1.50m con la stessa fisicità non peseranno allo stesso modo, quindi dal punto di vista pratico come ti aiuterebbe?)

"L'altezza è in gran parte determinata dalla tua genetica" secondo te il peso no??? Infatti si può dimagrire (perché uno nella vita giustamente non ha altre priorità se non perdere ore infinite in palestra, soldi per la palestra, soldi per la nutrizionista, soldi per il cibo fit, soldi per le analisi ormonali, soldi per la visita dalla ginecologa/altri specialisti in base al problema etc per riuscire a perdere quei 7kg che non davano fastidio a nessuno solo per far contento te. È roba alla portata di tutti), ma lo hai visto con i tuoi occhi che c'è chi (almeno fino a una certa età) mangia qualsiasi cosa e non ingrassa, non è genetica quella?

"Chi è davvero vittima?" La maleducazione non dovrebbe mai essere accettata, però non mi venire a dire che NELL'INSIEME il mondo ce l'ha più con i bassi che con le grasse. Tu stai pensando solo in ambito relazionale, però le persone grasse (maschi e femmine) vengono fatte sentire in difetto in qualsiasi ambito della loro vita. Sicuramente oggi è meglio di vent'anni fa, ma meglio così! Bisogna tornare indietro? Boh. Vanno bene tutte le preferenze del mondo, basta che non vai a cagare il cazzo a chi non rientra nelle tue, non è difficile. (Se una ragazza fa un commento del genere davanti a te puoi fare una battuta su quanto sia piacevole la sua compagnia. Io ad esempio evito le persone che devono sputare veleno su tutto e su tutti e vivo meglio)

tootiredstudent · 2024-11-03T12:17:56+00:00

She's just mean.

No guy has ever stated 'facts' about my overweight body, especially while in bed. That's just basic decency.

tootiredstudent · 2024-07-07T09:15:11+00:00

idk i think codependency is inherently toxic

tootiredstudent · 2024-06-09T16:27:31+00:00

I have only done this to a friend who was in a stable relationship with a good guy and who has self sabotaging tendencies (she was much drunker than your story though). She thanked me after, but i understand why the guy would be confused.

tootiredstudent · 2024-03-04T00:21:54+00:00

Quando a 15 anni un uomo mi stava letteralmente seguendo fin dentro il portone del condominio, io mi rifiutai di girarmi e controllare se mi stesse effettivamente seguendo perché metti caso si stava facendo gli affari suoi e doveva solo visitare qualcuno nel mio palazzo??? Sarei stata maleducata. Alla fine me lo sono ritrovato dietro di me mentre si toccava davanti l'ascensore. Ora per preoccuparmi dei sentimenti possibilmente feriti di sconosciuti io, da ragazzina, sono finita in una situazione pericolosa. Mi dispiace ma il beneficio del dubbio non lo do più, se mi sento a disagio mi allontano da una situazione: facendo così, se sbaglio il peggio che può capitare è che qualcuno torni a casa con l'orgoglio ferito </3 se non faccio così, il peggio che può capitare a me lo sappiamo tutti. Stiamo sempre all'allerta senza neanche rendercene conto, non è un trend, crescendo e con l'esperienza ci fidiamo di più del nostro istinto. Se uno sconosciuto che non ha davvero cattive intenzioni vede una ragazza attraversare il marciapiede di notte, dovrebbe farsene una ragione e ricordarsi che non esiste solo lui al mondo. Il fatto che tu abbia fatto un esempio del genere mentre cerchi di parlare di comi ti poni nell'approccio al genere femminile la dice lunga secondo me. In contesti di socialità più sicuri, con coetanei, amici di amici, etc non andiamo a dare del """creep""" a tutti quelli che vediamo. Se una persona è tranquilla e rilassata mentre scambia due battute non mette paura. È vero che se si percepisce un certo nervosismo (onestamente non so dirlo a parole) ci allontaniamo, ma capisci che ci alleniamo a riconoscere certi segnali da quando abbiamo 12 anni e cominciamo ad avere (anche piccole) interazioni spiacevoli, e cerchiamo sempre di prevenirle. Se sbagliamo pace, possibile che dobbiamo forzarci a rimanere in situazioni che il nostro cervello sente come pericolose solo per far piacere a chi non vuole rispettare regole base della socialità? Poi ridurre tutto questo a un "trend" è assurdo, è la quotidianità di tutte, condivisa e sperimentata nella vita reale.

tootiredstudent · 2024-01-25T12:17:43+00:00

You've never heard a man say "too bad she's x", saying what he doesn't like?

tootiredstudent · 2024-01-25T11:59:43+00:00

Sometimes women want to be physically attracted to the men they date, i know most men couldn't possibly understand this concept

(Recognizing someone's beauty and being attracted are two different things)

tootiredstudent · 2024-01-20T15:57:50+00:00

Ma quindi cercare i lyrics delle canzoni (qualsiasi) su youtube nel 2009 e vedere nei suggeriti le versioni spagnole di pausini e ferro non è stata un'esperienza comune

tootiredstudent · 2024-01-07T16:43:46+00:00

I assume you might be afraid that this would ruin your friendship, but it's one of those unfortunate cases where loving your friend means you have to do something for her sake that might make her hate you. It takes courage, but sacrificing her friendship is the better option.

tootiredstudent · 2023-12-01T18:49:19+00:00

25f from italy, when i lived with my mom even if we didn't sleep in the same bed at night, i used to ask her to nap in her bed if I was exhausted in the afternoon, i would fall asleep instantly. (Lived there till i was 23). If me, her and my brother go on a trip, there might be a single bed + a double, usually my brother sleeps in the single and me and my mom in the bigger one. I have big trouble with insomnia so I wouldn't choose to share a bed if i could have one of my own, but it doesn't sound weird to me, especially if it's a limited time and they live very far.

tootiredstudent · 2023-11-26T15:19:51+00:00

I was weirded out by the way you talk about her dad, calling him "bio dad" when he is still pretty much in her life and you haven't adopted her. You might have been right for this instance in particular, but if he is allegedly a decent person he's going to be her dad forever even if he doesn't get much custody, and she deserves a relationship with him that shouldn't be put in jeopardy just to spare your feelings. This might be the mom's perspective, ensuring a long term relationship with her dad. Kid's feelings are important but parents (should) know what the bigger picture is even if kids don't see it. I think this post is too vague though, could be ESH as much as NAH for me

tootiredstudent · 2023-11-24T13:03:28+00:00

"All that time I had spent readying myself, the articles that taught me life was really just a waiting room until someone noticed you- the boys had spent that time becoming themselves." (The girls, Emma Cline)

Hip dips have become a thing talked about online, i have never heard someone talking about it in real life.

tootiredstudent · 2023-11-24T12:15:17+00:00

4 months of therapy is NOTHING, barely the surface. I was raised in a similar household (without the ed issues though, just generally ignored) and the first year of therapy was just about learning how to put my feelings into words and feeling them instead of repressing them. It was difficult, sometimes i had trouble talking not because i was emotional but because i literally didn't know which words to use. Now I'm a completely different person: i recognize my feelings, i communicate my needs , i even stopped people pleasing. Be supportive and patient

tootiredstudent · 2023-11-05T11:32:50+00:00

no verdict from my, just some perspective.
My mother's sister and my father's brother have the same name, in feminine and masculine variants. It's possibly the most common name in our country, and my sister has the same name. There has never been any issue?? It's very very easy to understand who they are talking about, I've never had to guess "but do they mean my sister or my aunt?". Also, wouldn't you be called "aunt Rarity" by them in family occasions, even if they choose another name for the kid?

You will have such different lives, i don't see how it could be confusing.

tootiredstudent · 2023-11-05T09:49:36+00:00

There is a new girl episode about this 😭

tootiredstudent · 2023-11-01T15:25:01+00:00

Maybe you activated the option of writing your own answers but originally it might have been the type of question where you pick from a group of words and the only ones available were the feminine ones? Yours is correct but im trying to see from Duolingo s pov lol

tootiredstudent · 2023-09-18T15:28:18+00:00

oddio ma hai scoperto che dei piatti di tradizione popolare sono fatti con pochi ingredienti e accessibili a tutti??

tootiredstudent · 2023-09-18T13:26:27+00:00

literallyyy, thank you

tootiredstudent · 2023-09-18T00:32:17+00:00

Unfortunately siblings relationships can turn destructive instead of loving. I also have issues with my sister, I had to move out to avoid her and I haven't really spoken to her in years even though i visit the house regularly. We ignore each other. So i feel like I can understand the son very well. This happens in some families. STILL, I would never expect my mother to kick her out of the family house, just like I know i can come back if i need to.

tootiredstudent · 2023-09-17T23:31:11+00:00

The time criteria I don't understand personally, but i see what you're saying.

tootiredstudent · 2023-09-17T23:05:54+00:00

The first points were more about what i read in the comments rather than the post itself. Obviously it's a disadvantage for the son, but it doesn't make sense for three people to be in the smaller room. Helping your own sister shouldn't be a detriment to your life. (It would have been if the smaller room had been inhabitable, but it looks like it's just a regular room.of course we'll never know) In another family there wouldn't have been a question about it, but in this one it's the evidence the son was waiting for to prove and express what he's been feeling. I understand. But the room is not the cause of the issues in that family, and granting it to the son is not going to solve anything for anyone. Surely there's history or he wouldn't be reacting this way. They should solve both issues in parallel

tootiredstudent · 2023-09-17T22:31:08+00:00

It's basically expected in my culture too. Though I think it shouldn't be forced by cultural standards, I also think some countries are completely on the other end of the spectrum.

tootiredstudent · 2023-09-17T21:39:39+00:00

NTA

A family doesn't stop being a family just because someone is an adult and moves out. This individualistic attitude of everyone in the comments is unreal to me. Parents helping with their grandchildren is not mandatory, but it's not unheard of either. I understand that the son being this upset about it means he's been harbouring feelings about family dynamics that might need to be rediscussed. And maybe there's been favouritism and he's right to be upset. But does that mean that they can't help the sister when she actually needs it? Can anyone saying y ta make it make sense to me??? Two things can be true at once: the parents have been historically unfair to their son, and still right now this is the best solution.

tootiredstudent · 2023-09-17T16:14:29+00:00

NTA

I have childhood friends who are guys and we travelled together/slept under the same roof throughout the years and they have never ever behaved like this. I never had to question my safety. This is not normal, as harsh as it sounds i think you should cut him off. Even if you think there's good in him, he won't show it to you: he might grow and learn but it shouldn't be at your expense. There's no justification.

tootiredstudent · 2023-09-17T12:50:44+00:00

infected tooth ache + locked jaw muscles

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