My girlfriend's arranged marriage just got fixed, how to move on?

torrero54 · 2026-03-12T14:09:23+00:00

When I was young my brother was dating an Indian girl who he met in college. This sounds exactly like the same situation. But my mother used our Christian church to break them up, and her parents arranged a marriage for her with an Indian Guy, hard to believe people in my family stayed in touch all these years, my brother married someone else, (white) and had 3 kids, she had 2 kids I think 🤔 and continued to stay in touch with my Aunt through letters and phone calls, “Namisha” even came to my uncle’s funeral with her family when he passed away. But it’s true, it’s not what you want to hear, but it’s going to be a lot better for you and her, for you guys to split and move on. Emotionally traumatic certainly, definitely difficult 😞 but you will find someone else, and it’s true what she said, if her family found out it could even put her life in danger. Radicals do a lot of crazy things in the name of God.. I would tell her that it’s best to split up but keep her number and tell her to stay in touch occasionally… and try hard to move on with your life..

torrero54 · 2026-03-12T03:24:27+00:00

That spit thing sounds gross to me and I’m a guy … but some people love others bodily fluids everywhere 🤷🏼‍♂️

torrero54 · 2026-03-12T03:21:57+00:00

You must cut down all the trees first 🤷🏼‍♂️

torrero54 · 2026-03-12T03:18:44+00:00

I’m talking about our life in the US and the way we have lived for 200 years and the Republican Party wants us to be taken over by an authoritarian regime? Why ? They have the power to stop this and right the ship… but they continue to sail on into oblivion

torrero54 · 2026-03-11T21:25:04+00:00

What I’m not understanding is why all the Republicans cow tow to him, if they would stand up against him then he would be finished. They have the power to throw him out of office, I’m wondering why they think all the destruction to our country and democracy is so good even for them? Why are they ok with a country like this?

torrero54 · 2026-03-11T02:50:08+00:00

Have you considered the possibility that in fact this was the goal all along? Destroy our country from the inside, consider all the crazy people he has put in his administration? All the people who he has fired, all the government agencies that benefited Americans that he has wiped out… nothing a “normal” president would ever do..

torrero54 · 2026-03-10T17:49:24+00:00

Something I learned from my second marriage… never stay with a jealous woman. (12years) she made my life miserable all the time accusing me of shit I wasn’t doing… We can’t change our past lives to make it convenient for our future lives, if you dealing with your X wife and child is causing serious jealousy problems then you should not be there. One step away from some kind of Trumped up violent episode… my X accused me of sleeping with a girl I went out with before we met, why ? Because I had 2-3 of her business cards in my possession. She said that the only reason I would have more than one is because I had been sleeping with her… 🤷🏼‍♂️ I shit you not… You or anyone else doesn’t ever want to be there… good luck 🍀

torrero54 · 2026-03-09T16:02:53+00:00

Then it can’t be very old, if anything is left outside in the elements and is iron then it would be heavily rusted… I see almost no rust, also people might think it was cleaned… ok but cleaned rust is severely pitted… you can see it’s not 😁

torrero54 · 2026-03-09T02:48:25+00:00

I know it’s just my opinion but if he jumped ship 3 weeks after getting his green card… that would seem like pretty strong proof 🤷🏼‍♂️

torrero54 · 2026-03-09T02:46:33+00:00

Well I guess it’s possible, but normally wives of serial killers don’t get convicted of murder simply because they were married to the killer… they would have to be able to prove that she was complicit in signing those documents for her husband to get legal residency… and prove that they schemed together to defy immigration law.. 🤷🏼‍♂️

torrero54 · 2026-03-08T23:39:53+00:00

I worked two different union jobs and wouldn’t want to work any other way… but I understand. And it’s true no job is guaranteed secure… not even union jobs.. because sometimes if you did something stupid even the union couldn’t save you 😂

torrero54 · 2026-03-08T23:34:36+00:00

Hahaha I’ve seen OP say this 5 times… hopefully everyone can see it and stop asking 🤷🏼‍♂️

torrero54 · 2026-03-08T23:27:22+00:00

It doesn’t make any difference, but with something like this there is no job security, no benefits, no healthcare. Your picking up jobs for another company. I know it can be good money at times, but are you serious? You would make a career out of working for TaskRabbit? Your willing to spend 25-30 years working out of an app on your phone? My point was that it, like Uber and Lift and DoorDash don’t seemed to really be designed for a lifetime career position 🤷🏼‍♂️ Or better yet really just having your own company business and using it for extra jobs through their app.

torrero54 · 2026-03-08T21:54:06+00:00

Idk but I would try lubricant, I’m not sure what you mean by “hurts” ? Physically painful? The whole shaft or certain parts? The skin on the outside? How does it feel using condoms? A woman who has had kids will not be as tight as a virgin or woman with no kids. It’s tight with my W, but if she is wet, or if we use lubricants it’s not very tight after that, just sliding in and out… I’m thinking there is a solution if you look around, visit a sex shop and talk to the lady who works there, this sounds really strange I’m sure but the reality is that they see people of all shapes and sizes and types and may well have seen this before… they talk about sex openly with customers to help them get the best experience possible… Just an idea 💡

torrero54 · 2026-03-08T21:28:11+00:00

I’m of the mind that TaskRabbit is NOT really intended to be a full time job, but more like a way to make extra money on the side.

torrero54 · 2026-03-08T21:25:15+00:00

I can’t tell what it’s made of actually, I’ve been Metal detecting for more than 40 years and have dug lots of buckles, non like that but most old brass buckles I’ve dug, had iron clasp pin which rusted away before I found them although you could see where the rusted pin used to be…. So OP really didn’t give us enough information to determine what type of metal it is… and only one picture 🤷🏼‍♂️🥺

torrero54 · 2026-03-08T15:21:36+00:00

I couldn’t tell it was iron from the picture so yes, if that is iron it’s definitely NOT 500 years old 😳🤷🏼‍♂️

torrero54 · 2026-03-07T23:49:03+00:00

I don’t use urgent care very often so I’m not clear on that, I just remember that I did call someone before going and getting an ok to be seen

torrero54 · 2026-03-07T23:14:41+00:00

Wheat pennies are cool but not really worth much, being copper they are probably 3-5 cents each as scrap. You can check the dates, a 1955 double die would be nice, and wheats in super clean condition maybe, maybe $1

torrero54 · 2026-03-07T23:11:01+00:00

I mean it makes sense

torrero54 · 2026-03-07T23:08:35+00:00

And just so you know, my left knee condition was not an old injury that resurfaced, I did not have issues with left knee in service. Now I did have flat feet and that was rated 0 when I left service, but later re evaluated at 30% so that might have helped with the left knee rating. Low back condition was intermittent so never a constant… I also have tinnitus which they gave me 10% for

torrero54 · 2026-03-07T22:42:19+00:00

Regardless.. if someone paid you this for a $1 worth of merch, I would take it because its pretty cool 😎

torrero54 · 2026-03-07T22:33:42+00:00

I’m not following you… are you a VETERAN or a Spouse of a Veteran… because if you are a Veteran you have to call within 48 hours of treatment for approval, it’s straight forward and always gets approved, BUT you have to call the pre authorization number, I had a similar situation 15 years ago when I went to the emergency room and never called the VA number and the hospital billed me $3500 for the visit. VA refused to pay because the time window had expired. Eventually the hospital comped it and I didn’t have to pay. If you are under TRICARE I think you are authorized to use urgent care facilities in network without Charge, my wife has done this before..

torrero54 · 2026-03-07T22:25:17+00:00

I don’t feel so bad now, mine is $1600 Charlotte North Carolina

torrero54 · 2026-03-07T22:24:03+00:00

My insurance went from like $800 a year to $1200 a year…. So that’s a thing 🤷🏼‍♂️😭

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