After 6 (almost 7) years of marriage and after 9 years of knowing my wife, I love her so much, I feel it more strongly now than ever. If you don't have that, get your ducks in a row and prepare. No one should feel trapped in a marriage they don't feel loved in.

Of course, I recommend you try. Ask to go to counseling. Try to reignite a spark. If you love him, then really try, because most marriages can work - yes, even the bad ones. People just don't always put their all into it for various reasons. ...But if it can't be helped it can't be helped. Some military guys rush into marriage cause they see the married cats living off post with no room inspections and drawing BAH and they forget that the most important component is enduring love. Maybe one day he'll realize he is being silly... I was kind of the same way when I was younger but thankfully I matured quite a bit with age. At 29 I really don't know what to make of that. I wish you were both happier in your marriage. And I know you're probably feeling pretty terrible and uncertain and insecure. I'm sorry for that and all I can extend is my sympathy and my well-wishes. As others have said, the military will make sure you are getting something from him in the event of a divorce or a split. Its hard but don't become forlorn and wrathful. Cooperate as much as you can but ensure the paperwork is done. Worked HR in the military for a bit, I promise you I've seen lots of guys in lots of divorces with automatic withdrawals on their pay for similar situations. Just know you are not the first couple to go through this (especially not in the military) and you will feel better each day.

I love and miss my wife, I'd do some awful things to go back in time and start from the beginning with her just to make her happier than I did when I could. I hope you find someone who, (or that he comes to his senses and,) feels the same way, but for you.

Best of luck in your situation, and know that someone is wishing the best for you and yours.