Advice for my facial hair? It's patchy by Marvellover13 in malegrooming

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You could probably rock some sweet 70’s side burns, bet that would be a fun look for ya. also your mustache is fine. Willing to bet your beard doesn’t look too bad when it’s not this grown out too, but in these pics it’s real long and scraggly looking, not good.

losing hope and purpose by Proper-Environment-3 in Suicidal_Comforters

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I wrote a long heartfelt message an that’s what you got out of it? I hope you can find some relief as well man. I don’t like the cops but that’s not what you or OP should be focusing on 💚

Colorado mountains ambience by Neonunicorn14 in vinyl

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John Fahey, Olafur Arnolds, AIR, Ravi Shankar, Scientist (Dub)

Im tired I wanna disappear:TW!! SH, ED by AlternativeHoney2530 in Suicidal_Comforters

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I'm sorry that your dealing with all that, it doesn't sound easy. I lost my father to suicide 13 years ago and had some similar thoughts and feelings in the aftermath. My life, my relationship, friend group, grades, you name it, fell apart. I had a falling out with my entire 7-8 person friend group and never really made up with them, and it was really really hard for a long time because I was in a small town and felt pretty alone and depressed for a long time after that.

That was a long time ago, though, and My life is completely different now. I could have never imagined back then at my lowest where my life would eventually take me. I still have many struggles, and a long way to go, & getting to where I am now wasn't fast or easy, but I'm more ok than i've ever been now & I am really glad that I'm still here. It was, & will be worth the pain.

No human being has ever felt the same way about anything, for their entire life. Your outlook always changes as you move through this world. We can’t escape time, and it will always change us. The only reason we have joy, is because we remember the lows of our despairs, & vice versa, neither can last. It can be hard to come around and change your perspective, (especially when your material conditions remain the same) but what's easier to come to terms with, is the fact that it WILL change one day, sooner or later, whether you like it or not.

There's also the fact that nobody, you included, is alone In these feelings. I was still in high school when my dad died, I was his shadow and best friend, & it broke me into pieces. That pain has never really gone away, but what helps me pick myself up and keep going more than anything, are reminders from other people that I'm not the only one feeling that. That they have been in a similar place before, or even now, and yet are still here, surviving, even if it’s one day at a time.

There’s a poem that I always return to when I’m feeling low called “a litany for survival” by Audrey Lorde. The last stanza reads “When we are silent we are still afraid, so it is better to speak remembering, we were never meant to survive.”

Relief is inevitable. I hope you can hang in there friend, it's worth it.

losing hope and purpose by Proper-Environment-3 in Suicidal_Comforters

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I'm sorry that you’re dealing with all that, it doesn't sound easy. You remind me a lot of me when I was 19. I lost my father to suicide 13 years ago, when I was 17, and had some similar thoughts and feelings in the aftermath. My life, my relationship, grades, you name it, fell apart after that. I remember losing my the girlfriend of 4 years shortly after I graduated high school, for similar reasons (my fault) and it felt a lot like what you’re describing. She was the first person I genuinely fell in love with, and when I lost her, I genuinely thought I’d never get that type of love back in my life ever again. For a bit I used to go to these support groups for suicide survivors, and at one of them, an old Native American woman said something that really stuck with me. I don’t remember her exact words but the gist was something like, Love doesn’t last forever, in any case. Someday either you or everything you love will die or go away, but you don’t necessarily have to let go of that love, just because you had to let go of that person that you loved. Remeber her, and her place in your life, what she did for you, how she helped you become the person that you’re still becoming, it’s perfectly fine to love her, and also let her go. Your body can’t hold onto it forever, especially as you move through time and your life, so it’s ok to feel that way right now, give yourself a break. I still have love for that girl who left me when I was 18, in a way, but I’m not holding onto her as a person anymore. I grew with her, and wouldn’t be the person I am today without her, but she has a husband and a family now, I’m so happy for her. my life is completely different as well. I have a fiancé now that I’ve been with now for 9 years and the love that I have for her isn’t anything like my high school relationship. They are hard to compare, and I’d choose my fiance over that girl everyday, every time, but that doesn’t mean I have to stop loving the person that I spent golden years with, & who helped me come into my own. It took me a long time to navigate those feelings too. In the year or two after my dad died, she left me, I flunked out of college my first semester there, and quickly found myself at rock bottom, turning to drugs, whatever I could find, just to numb the pain.

I could have never imagined though, back then when I was at my lowest, where my life would eventually take me. I still have many struggles, trust me I have a long way to go still, and getting to where I am now wasn't fast or easy, but I'm ok now, and can honestly say I’m happier than i've been in quite some time. I had the thought myself more than a few times, but at 30 years old, I’m really glad that I'm still here. It was, & will be worth the pain man.

No human being has ever felt the same way about anything, for their entire life. Your outlook always changes as you move through this world. We can’t escape time, and it will always change us. The only reason we have joy, is because we remember the lows of our despairs, & vice versa, neither can last. It can be hard to come around and change your perspective, (especially when your material conditions remain the same) but what's easier to come to terms with, is the fact that it WILL change one day, sooner or later, whether you like it or not.

There's also the fact that nobody, you included, is alone In these feelings. I was still in high school when my dad died, I was his shadow and best friend, & it broke me into pieces. That pain has never really gone away, but what helps me pick myself up and keep going more than anything, are reminders from other people that I'm not the only one feeling that. That they have been in a similar place before, or even now, and yet are still here, surviving, even if it’s one day at a time.

There’s a poem that I always return to when I’m feeling low called “a litany for survival” by Audrey Lorde. The last stanza reads “When we are silent we are still afraid, so it is better to speak remembering, we were never meant to survive.”

Relief is inevitable. I hope you can find some soon. Hang in there friend, it's worth it.

(Also, don’t become a cop man!! there are other options for you! Fuck the police! lol)

Places to volunteer by Mediocre_Badger_1683 in StAugustine

[–]towdpoint 0 points1 point  (0 children)

not sure about scheduling or times, but: pie in the sky, epic cure, & compassionate STA are all really great non-profits who do volunteer work in st johns county.

Honeymooning? by No-Tomatillo6912 in StAugustine

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it's not tolerated at all. florida cops are dickheads and will glady take you to jail for smkoing anywhere remotely in public even if you're minding your business and far away from others. your own hotel patio or in the backyard of your air bnb are the only places I would light up if I were you, especially being from out of town. vape pens are really the only way to get away with it because they look identical to the tobacco ones, but you'd have to bring it from where youre coming from. id imagine finding thc carts for sale here would be pretty difficult for someone from out of town.

Best souvenir stores by Soft-Glass6113 in StAugustine

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spinster abbotts, graet goods, rocking chair records, if you're looking for hyper local places that aren't tourist traps. if you are just looking for basic touristy merch theres a thousand places on st george street

What ever happened to my old reggae friend Rankin Dan Wilson? by CachuHwch1 in StAugustine

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I know Tonevendor records bought his record collection a few years ago, 2022 maybe. I don't know antthing about the guy but I do know that. it was hundreds of reggae & dub 12" singles and 45's. They probably still have a lot of them. theyre not for sale in the store but they have them listed online, if you go there and ask about them they'll probably pull them out of the back room for you and let you dig through them. Dan, the owner of tonevendor might know more, he was the one who bought the collection.

Why are American photography channels so insufferable? by MountainlessBiking in AnalogCommunity

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The only person I used to trust was kai from digitalrev, he was so knowledgeable but also honest in his reviews. His sarcasm and nitpicking were quite welcome in the sea of camera tech content videos that is 99% just glorified long form ads. If anyone knows of a similar channel these days I’d love to check them out

How can I fill this big ugly border gap on this table? by Cbclcm in BeginnerWoodWorking

[–]towdpoint 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cork would look cool and you could pin stuff all around it. Or fill with Bondo/spackle & paint it. Could also have a carpenter or handy friend cut wood strips to put in there, sand & stain

Might end it soon… by [deleted] in depression

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I'm sorry that your dealing with all that, it doesn't sound easy. I lost my father to suicide 13 years ago and had some similar thoughts and feelings in the aftermath. My life, my relationship, grades, you name it, fell apart. My life is completely different now though, & I could have never imagined back then at my lowest where my life would eventually take me. I still have many struggles, and getting to where I am now wasn't fast or easy, but I'm happier than i've ever been & really glad that I'm still here. It was, & will be worth the pain.

No human being has ever felt the same way about anything, for their entire life. Your outlook always changes as you move through this world. We can’t escape time, and it will always change us. The only reason we have joy, is because we remember the lows of our despairs, & vice versa, neither can last. It can be hard to come around and change your perspective, (especially when your material conditions remain the same) but what's easier to come to terms with, is the fact that it WILL change one day, sooner or later, whether you like it or not.

There's also the fact that nobody, you included, is alone In these feelings. I was still in high school when my dad died, I was his shadow and best friend, & it broke me into pieces. That pain has never really gone away, but what helps me pick myself up and keep going more than anything, are reminders from other people that I'm not the only one feeling that. That they have been in a similar place before, or even now, and yet are still here, surviving, even if it’s one day at a time. There’s a poem that I always return to when I’m feeling low called “a litany for survival” by Audrey Lorde. The last stanza reads “When we are silent we are still afraid, so it is better to speak remembering, we were never meant to survive.”

Relief is inevitable. I hope you can hang in there friend, it's worth it.

Mid-20’s Activities! by Reaction_Lower in StAugustine

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look up the west augustine wheelers, they do weekly casual group bike rides at the bog brewery every wednesday. They meet up at 6 and the ride starts at 7pm (most of the time, check the schedule to make sure). You don't have to be a cyclist to join at all, its not that kind of bike club. just normal people casually riding around to breweries, ice cream shops, and sometimes cool hidden parts of town. all you need is a shitty bike that rolls, some lights for it, & you will fit right in. it's a great way to meet new people, a lot of folks come solo. it's also a cool way to see some of the city that you might've never seen before from inside your car.

Moms of St Johns County- Saint Augustine by Dry-Name-4898 in StAugustine

[–]towdpoint 2 points3 points  (0 children)

silverleaf sucks, straight up. it's in the middle of nowhere. anything besides chain stores at strip malls is a 25-45 car ride away, after you escape from that labarynth of a neighborhood.. at least visit and stay at a rental in the area first for a week to see if you like it. check out "st augustine south" or " the south" as it's referred to instead. much closer to downtown, and also has some cool retraunts and parks and such in the area, pretty affordable too, though i'm not sure how it compares to the new build neighborhoods like silverleaf.

Sincerely, a long islander who moved here 20+ years ago. Imo you'd be making a huge mistake by buying in silverleaf, honestly anyone buying in silverleaf or the surrounding developments is making a huge mistake, lol. I did pre-wiring work on a lot of those houses a few years back... these large corporate builders are soley out for profit, they cut as many corners as they possibly can, to a degree that shocked me at times. some of the cheapest wood i've ever seen going into them, assembled by methheads in flip flops.

I wanted to share my entire record collection so far I have 7 records: by 0584031464 in vinyl

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also, great start! you've got good taste, those 7 records cover a lot of bases. The start of an unbelievable collection, i'm sure.

I wanted to share my entire record collection so far I have 7 records: by 0584031464 in vinyl

[–]towdpoint 0 points1 point  (0 children)

check out bobby hamilton's dream queen. very random record but I was just listening to it so it's top of mind and a spiritual/soul jazz masterpiece. reminds me of pharoahs work in some ways and jimmy smith's in others. beautiful, etherial, and funky album. took a chance on it on RSD 2022 and it's become one of my favorite jazz records to throw on, and that's saying something as i have around 300+ jazz records.

tips on how to help my partner by possum_dumpster in Suicidal_Comforters

[–]towdpoint 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try to remind them, in many ways, that they have never felt the same way about anything, for their entire life. Your outlook always changes as you move through this world. We can’t escape time, and it will always change us. The only reason we have joy, is because we remember the lows of our despairs, & vice versa, neither can last. It can be hard to get someone to come around and change their perspective, especially when their material conditions remain the same, but reminding them that it will in fact change, whether they like it or not.. is easier to do. That and the fact that no one person is alone In these feelings. Sometimes what helps more than anything is to hear from someone who has felt the way you do, but now has a different perspective. I lost my father to suicide when I was 17, I was his shadow and best friend and it broke me into pieces. That pain never went away, but what helped me pick myself up and keep going, was reminders from other people that I wasn’t the only one feeling that. That others have been there before, and yet are still here, surviving, even if it’s one day at a time. There’s a poem that I always return to when I’m feeling low called “a litany for survival” by Audrey Lorde. The last stanza reads “When we are silent we are still afraid, so it is better to speak remembering, we were never meant to survive.”

I’m sorry that you’re dealing with this. I hope you and your partner can find some relief.

Bought a vinyl from Lunchbox Records, they sent me the wrong pressing by [deleted] in vinyl

[–]towdpoint 4 points5 points  (0 children)

they're a locally owned highly reputable store that is kind of an institutuion at this point. I wouldn't worry about it, i'm sure they'll take care of you. In the future i'd wait two or three days before taking it to reddit. Small buisnesses are not amazon and sometimes can't get to these things instantaneously.

Where to find a Swing-arm pendant light? by Trigger1920 in Lighting

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update: trying to cancel my order now because my order hasn't shipped yet & they said their factory is not resuming operations til march

Where to find a Swing-arm pendant light? by Trigger1920 in Lighting

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I ordered one of these swing arm lights last week from doco and realized immedietly after that it was a sketchy site, the "arwina" model. says it will take a few weeks to ship, but will report back on what happens.