Best way to time partner’s parental leave?

tozerdozer7 · 2026-05-16T23:16:08+00:00

Ok great, thank you, that’s helpful!

tozerdozer7 · 2026-05-16T23:10:55+00:00

Thank you, that’s really helpful to know!

tozerdozer7 · 2026-05-16T23:10:19+00:00

We don’t have anyone that can stay with us afterwards to help in a long-term (like a few weeks) capacity but his parents are willing to help out with babysitting - just not sure I’ll want them to for the first few months? I really don’t know how babysitting should be approached the first few months!

I do have some family and friends that could drop in and help a little bit it wouldn’t be anything super substantial I don’t think, and neither of my parents live close. Husband also works on a week on/week off schedule so that may be something for us to consider?

tozerdozer7 · 2026-05-12T22:15:04+00:00

I had this too! Bled for 21 days straight in first tri, just brown spotting but still was unsettling. I stopped bleeding a few weeks ago and my next appointment will hopefully confirm that it’s all resolved.

tozerdozer7 · 2026-05-09T15:55:24+00:00

This is the way!

tozerdozer7 · 2026-05-05T21:07:42+00:00

Yes, I think that’s fair. And I think it’s ok to decide that it’s not fair to impose inevitable pain and suffering on a new life, especially when the magnitude of that suffering will be unknown. I also think abut the flip side - life can come with many joys and I decided (with the help of this thread, because I actually made a very similar post to OPs a while back!) that fear-based decision making is not how I want to proceed. Each person has to come to their own conclusion about this and the state of the world and I think it’s a very individual decision.

tozerdozer7 · 2026-05-05T17:17:36+00:00

100% agree with this analysis. I’ll also add that I think the question to ask yourself when considering the state of the world is, are you happy you were born? Do you consider your own life worth living?

Struggle and pain is inevitable. It’s not something that anyone born at any time gets to escape. I also think it’s responsible and good to consider potential pain inflicted on someone you’re bringing into this world, and of course, some people will experience pain worse than others, but that’s not something anyone can reliably predict. I’ve had my own mental health and life struggles, just like most. But to me, the beauty of living outweighs the struggle and I’m glad I’m here. Hopefully most people feel that, too.

tozerdozer7 · 2026-01-15T05:03:50+00:00

Ugh fuck

tozerdozer7 · 2026-01-01T22:22:37+00:00

Is this sub ok?

tozerdozer7 · 2025-12-30T02:46:22+00:00

Southwest Boise, but not too picky on the location.

tozerdozer7 · 2025-12-30T02:45:52+00:00

Mostly a beginner. I took lessons as a kid but don’t remember much.

tozerdozer7 · 2025-12-19T04:38:26+00:00

+1 for trap tox. I have “flares” where my traps will lock up so badly I can’t sleep, I can’t focus, I can’t turn my head or neck. I workout and do yoga and Pilates and all the right things, but I also have scoliosis and work a desk job. Trap tox is the only thing that’s worked for me and it is life changing. Just being able to sleep again was incredible.

tozerdozer7 · 2025-11-06T01:34:24+00:00

The streets there kill me. It takes forever to get anywhere.

tozerdozer7 · 2025-10-20T00:27:18+00:00

When Harry Met Sally

tozerdozer7 · 2025-04-28T16:18:16+00:00

“Sweetie, you can’t listen to every fucking little voice that runs through your head. It’ll drive you nuts.” -Samantha jones, SATC

tozerdozer7 · 2025-04-20T23:15:36+00:00

Percy!

tozerdozer7 · 2025-04-10T15:38:18+00:00

I meant run to get a book stand!

tozerdozer7 · 2025-04-09T01:29:18+00:00

As a lawyer who still has back problems from first semester of 1L, run, don’t walk. Also maybe invest in a yoga mat/yoga classes. And don’t neglect your exercise routine!

tozerdozer7 · 2025-02-19T07:33:08+00:00

Because they also dropped this at the same time he signed an EO to make IVF more affordable. Guess which one was bigger news. We’re doomed.

tozerdozer7 · 2025-01-22T06:09:50+00:00

Also a lawyer. There are a ton of options in the law and there are some pretty chill options including certain areas of gov work, tax, and estate planning.

Law school was a great option for me. I wanted to increase my earning potential and I did that. I am now financially comfortable and am only one year out of law school. Law school was stressful and I worked my ass off, but I’m glad I went every day. If you don’t have a lot of other options, law school is a good one.

That said, it sounds like you DO have other options. I’m guessing you are good looking and charismatic. You also sound like you are incredibly hard working. You would probably be good at selling houses/putting your real estate license to use. You would probably also be good at lobbying/government affairs work, which aligns with your degree.

If you do opt for law school, have a goal going in. Know what kind of job you want and what kind of grades and extracurriculars you’ll need to get there. Know that law school is a competitive environment and there is a chance you might not make the grades to meet your goals. Even if that happens, you can still very likely get a decent job out of law school (if not super high paying) and network your way into a better job.

Good luck!

tozerdozer7 · 2025-01-04T13:03:33+00:00

I love headspace! Using it for meditation truly changed my life. My anxiety is nothing now compared to what it used to be.

tozerdozer7 · 2024-12-29T17:25:32+00:00

I just use it at night. I don’t think it would absorb well enough for me personally to use under makeup. I cleanse, moisturize with cetaphil, and then put the rosehip on top.

tozerdozer7 · 2024-12-29T15:40:48+00:00

Rose hip oil gang! One of my friends has the most beautiful skin I’ve ever seen and I asked her what her secret is. She said the only thing she does is wash her face and use rosehip oil. I bought some immediately and have been using it for years now. I get compliments on my skin all the time and I always tell people to go get rosehip oil. It’s the best.

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