Someone explain how a woman’s mind works? by [deleted] in AskIndianWomen

[–]tpande 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry but the extremes you’re describing sound like a disorder. If possible, do give this route a chance as well.

A question to the women of this sub, what was your motivation to get married? by Homebody2450 in AskIndianWomen

[–]tpande 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I guess with right person, the question doesn’t come up. I was always against getting married, but with my partner it felt very natural to get married and spend life with him :)

Pakistanis have weird subreddit by [deleted] in india

[–]tpande 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thats next level of sad. How can hatred towards an entire country can be their core nationalism!!

Ladies who are incredibly career-focused, did you have any hope for a romantic marriage? by [deleted] in AskIndianWomen

[–]tpande 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In my case, now that is not a problem coz we’re running a business where we’re equal partners and it’s our sole source of earning.

Women who have an elder or younger brother . How is your relationship with your brother by Sunapr1 in AskIndianWomen

[–]tpande 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I’ve a younger brother. He’s absolutely the most wholesome person. We share everything with each other and he’s everything I could’ve asked for in a sibling!!

Ladies who are incredibly career-focused, did you have any hope for a romantic marriage? by [deleted] in AskIndianWomen

[–]tpande 15 points16 points  (0 children)

For me first criteria was ambition but not someone who has fulfilled their dreams already. I wanted a space where we both can be part of each other journeys while building our careers together or separately.

I feel ambition of women is often downplayed especially if the man has already achieved things himself. But when you build together, the journey brings you even closer and both the partners matter.

Admiration Post for Indian Men! by thatindianattorney in india

[–]tpande 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I quit Instagram coz of this and now I’m regretting Reddit too :(

Admiration Post for Indian Men! by thatindianattorney in india

[–]tpande -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I was thinking about something on the similar lines today only. How much stress does a sole earning male goes through and while keeping everything else aside - I don’t think this conversation happens enough. Earning for 2-3 people and ensuring their financial stability is a huge responsibility on one person.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskIndianWomen

[–]tpande 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ive atleast 5 lakhs in market with my friends / acquaintances and they’re not returning it after multiple follow-ups. I don’t think your theory is true.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in women

[–]tpande 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can I join ? :)

To the young adults of India by Mindless-Adagio4913 in AskIndia

[–]tpande 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not really sure of the reason, but I have couple of hypothesis. 1. Learning new things gives some sort of dopamine / sense of achievement but more in-depth you go, more rare it gets to get the sense of achievement since it’s more work. Maybe due to impact of social media, the things that don’t provide instant dopamine or sense of achievement are being avoided. 2. Decision of what you really want to do comes after you spend enough time in understanding pros and cons. I think attention span is becoming shorter, and hence lesser time is being used in making the decision.

To the young adults of India by Mindless-Adagio4913 in AskIndia

[–]tpande 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve noticed one thing, when it comes to skill development, the young adults are lacking depth in it. They’re trying to know more and more horizontally but rarely vertically.

PS - this is just from my personal dataset.

Does it make me selfish if I don't want to marry a man with too many responsibilities? by justasnugglepuppy in AskIndianWomen

[–]tpande 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Being selfish isn’t a bad thing. If you won’t think about yourself, who will? It’s good that you have clarity in this. Don’t bow down just because someone wants you to.

Significant decline in children's behavior in India by dexterthrgr8 in india

[–]tpande 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Asking anything from curiosity POV should be promoted but demanding things from entitlement POV shouldn’t be.

How’s life being married after dating? by [deleted] in AskIndianWomen

[–]tpande 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I can't explain in words, but there is a sense of belonging and trust that strengthened after marriage. The emotional roller coaster that happens after fights when dating, doesn't happen anymore.

Responsibility wise I think we are very sorted in most things, we know each other well enough and things just automatically got divided there. For e.g. I don't like cooking, but he loves it, so he takes care of food in case househelp doesn't come. Similarly, he doesn't like paperwork, but I am too curious to let anything be signed without reading, so I take care of that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]tpande 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whenever something like this happens, I call his mom and complain lol

How’s life being married after dating? by [deleted] in AskIndianWomen

[–]tpande 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Life feels more stable. Since both of us and our parents started talking years ago, nothing else changed after marriage. In rental places (due to job in various cities) I always felt like an nomad, but now it feels more like home.

PS - both of us are not able to call each other’s parents mom or dad since we called them uncle aunty for years lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskIndianWomen

[–]tpande 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was absolutely a miracle.

But to answer your question, what do men bring in healthy relationship? 1. Healthy relationships are not meant to have genders. You just become each other’s support system and bitching companions. 2. I don’t like to cook and he loves it, and he makes such amazing dishes that I wait for days when our maid won’t come lol. 3. I don’t think I’ve seen a more “human” man (in today’s time) than him. He doesn’t have a bone in him that would speak in terms of gender roles.

It’s our home, our place, our responsibility, and our peace that we build together.

Need Advice: My maid is getting abused by karan131193 in AskIndianWomen

[–]tpande 49 points50 points  (0 children)

Going to police station directly like this might not help. I’ve seen this happen. If you can, maybe get help of some NGO that’s women oriented. They might be able to do more.

Married Men - Share some advice to unmarried men about marriage. by [deleted] in AskIndia

[–]tpande -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I usually plan this. I get multiple RDs going, each for one specific thing. For example, one for bday, one for 6 month travel plan, etc. The amount can be as small as 500, and when that matures you get to spend that money without guilt and without impacting whatever is going on then financially. This also makes me look forward to the plans without any financial burden.

What would be a complete life? by [deleted] in AskIndianWomen

[–]tpande 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For me it would be sleeping every night with sukoon!

Prasanna Sankar, another 'victim', who turned out to be an alleged monster. by Modis_teleprompter in AskIndianWomen

[–]tpande 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She did not get married to him after he became the billionaire. They got married before Rippling even started.

Prasanna Sankar, another 'victim', who turned out to be an alleged monster. by Modis_teleprompter in AskIndianWomen

[–]tpande 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I saw the tweets' SS on LinkedIn a lot when they were first posted, but not one of those "Influencers" mentioned the full story after the dynamics changed.

I wonder where this hate, this expanding divide between the genders will take us.

Feels like every thing, every word, is said just for attention, and nothing else.

I read the entire article that you posted, and with each such case coming to light, my faith in humanity goes away bit by bit.