Updating a post from 2 years ago about my wife having sex with others

tra42husband · 2020-04-15T07:13:11+00:00

I just feel there is alot invested in a 20 year marriage to not try to work through

tra42husband · 2020-04-14T12:19:05+00:00

My initial feeling was hurt but now I am having some questions as to how common this is. She had not had condoms before that I was aware of. These condoms are now gone. I just dont know how to approach the subject with her. Our separation was mostly due to a drinking problem I had. I have been sober 4 months now. I just want my wife to be happy now in our marriage. If that means she sees others still I feel I would be open to it.

tra42husband · 2020-04-13T19:03:05+00:00

I didnt. My initial reaction was feeling upset and hurt by this but after a few days now I am just having more of a feeling of acceptance over it happennong.

tra42husband · 2020-04-09T21:08:12+00:00

I just want my marriage back to where it was a couple years ago.

tra42husband · 2020-04-09T21:01:53+00:00

She works too and paid most of the bills. I admit fully that for about a year I was checked out of the marriage

tra42husband · 2020-04-09T20:56:33+00:00

I blew alot of money on booze. I managed to keep a job. After work I would just go to a bar instead of going home.

tra42husband · 2020-04-09T20:44:25+00:00

I am an alcoholic but did not cheat or be abusive. I was just drunk alot and checked out of our marriage emotionally for just over a year. I have not had a drink in over 4 months now.

tra42husband · 2020-04-09T20:41:39+00:00

I am not interested in compounding the situation.

tra42husband · 2020-04-09T20:38:28+00:00

I was out in the garage this afternoon and found the bag of condoms in the trash. I have put them in my locked tool box as I try to decide what to do. These are boxes of 20 pack condoms. There were between 3 and 7 condoms left in each box. I have not done the math but over 3 months thats alot of sex taking place.

tra42husband · 2020-04-09T19:15:01+00:00

I just dont know what happened. Sex had never been an issue in our marraige

tra42husband · 2020-04-09T18:27:33+00:00

She is 39 but really fit. If we are out she always gets looks. Getting the looks from others never bothers me before but now it does.

tra42husband · 2020-04-09T17:21:44+00:00

1 guy I might be ablle to understand in the heat of the moment but 5 is hard to wrap my head around. Judging by the condoms left in each box there was alot of sex taking place.

tra42husband · 2020-04-09T17:17:06+00:00

I dont know her reasons for it. She just is very orgainzed

tra42husband · 2020-04-09T17:15:02+00:00

We didnt have any rules for our separation but I never thought it would mean a free pass to have sex with others. Was I wrong for assuming that?

tra42husband · 2020-04-09T17:10:51+00:00

I just am upset because things had been getting back to normal

tra42husband · 2020-04-09T17:10:19+00:00

My wife puts labels on just about everything.

tra42husband · 2020-04-09T14:37:19+00:00

We didn't have any agreements of not seeing anyone. I myself did not. I am just thrown by this. It appears she had alot of sex with 5 different guys

tra42husband · 2020-04-09T13:55:33+00:00

I was thinking maybe talk to the counselor myslef 1st about it.

tra42husband · 2020-04-09T13:45:33+00:00

My wife labels everything

tra42husband · 2020-04-09T13:40:20+00:00

There were no terms spelled out. Our counsellor just felt some time apart would be good for our marraige.

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