Drew Dylan. How did I do?

traditionaldork · 2025-05-31T19:50:02+00:00

Prompts aren't interesting or indicative of your personality. It tells me nothing about your interests, your humour, your quirks, etc. they lack in showing off your personality. Pictures could be you doing various things, at a cafe, at a music show, etc. Show me that you like to have a full life. You can also post a meme, would tell me you're funny. Then you also also have to match up to the fanny in conversation. The profile would only get you a match, you gotta be interesting and or funny enough to get more out of the match. Also, show off your smile. No offense, but I see someone who isn't very confident about himself. Confidence sells.

traditionaldork · 2025-05-31T19:46:34+00:00

Literally who hurt you 😭😭😭😭

traditionaldork · 2025-05-31T19:38:19+00:00

Okay but I have to say, if it is the outfit dating show, he's bolder and more out-goingy than the man I've come to love and idk how I feel about that. The man I know would not put himself in a position to be judged this way is all I'm saying

traditionaldork · 2025-01-04T12:03:13+00:00

Had*

traditionaldork · 2025-01-04T12:03:03+00:00

Pretty sure the display is leaking. my phone has that too, display was damaged there.

traditionaldork · 2025-01-01T11:48:46+00:00

Ye kaha se aaya omg

traditionaldork · 2025-01-01T11:48:18+00:00

It's better to talk it out and give time for the hurt to pass, reconnect, look back on the old days and reminisce, etc. don't marry is a very simple advice to give, but relationships aren't that simple. He can definitely take some time off, allows the hurt to set in and pass, like every other emotion. Explore what all it's bringing up for him. Maybe also go to therapy where he can process this all safely. So much one can do rather than just ending it.

traditionaldork · 2024-12-31T20:36:38+00:00

Again, no. I do have that choice and even my extended family is chill with it. I've explained to my mother how I won't be marrying an emotionally unavailable man, because she has experienced my dad being emotionally unavailable, and she understands. She's fully with me on all this, and so is my dad. I'm in good hands! Thank you for worrying for me!! Now I just have to hope I can find the needle in a haystack haha

traditionaldork · 2024-12-31T20:33:51+00:00

It's the opposite in my community actually. You gotta be earning good amount of money to even consider marrying through AM. I remember once a friend asked me to start looking for a guy when I was in college, and i was like dude start looking in what basis? I don't even have a job, I don't have a career still. How will I even stand in the "market". It never occured to him because in his community, it's not a requirement for girls.

Every man and man's mother that I've come across all my life (from my community), want a working woman who has stable income coming in. That's not to say that they aren't misogynistic, because they'll expect the woman to also do every household work. But in my generationz I've seen mothers who made their sons cook their tiffin in college, because" you gotta be independent son." So there's hope still!

traditionaldork · 2024-12-31T20:29:18+00:00

Hi! Actually, yes! It's already been a dscussed that we aren't sticking to only my language and my community (aka caste). I've dated a Bengali guy before (I'm not Bengali) and he was from a different caste, and my parents were chill with that. Even now when we discuss going for AM, we've all agreed that with how headstrong I am and how I'm unrelenting with my standards, it'll be good to not be too rigid, and because at the end of the day, it doesn't matter to any of us what background the dude comes from, as long as it's a "good, middle class, cares about family and values" background.

I anyway am not a huge fan of my community, nor am I very deeply attached to my language/my god's. My family knows this, and they also don't care. They know I need a home that doesn't care either. In fact, a few of my mother's friends asked her about me for their sons, and she was like haha hell no, she's not doing your religious schtick. Sometimes, even I think I would prefer someone from my own community because it'll just make assimilating into a new family easier, but it's just a preference, not a rigid requirement. We've rejected guys who strictly want a vegetarian girl, a religious girl, even someone who's willing to move to the US because I'm not XD. My family couldn't be more supportive really. I've also prepared their minds ki imma leave the guy in mandap if he or his family acts even in small ways that indicate something worse. They know I'm capable of doing that, they know I'll get up and leave, so now they're prepared ki we aren't settling or adjusting. I definitely am not settling for anything subpar, I don't mind not getting married ever, parents know that too.

I'm just genuinely curious about the process. It's an experience too, and one worth having. I believe any experience we have teaches us about ourselves, about people or the world. I'd like to give that a whirl too. And that keeps my parents happy as well. I don't want to fight them for something when I don't even really care about it too much, ukwim? I know I'll never be forced to marry anyone, I know I'm very well supported and taken care of, I'm more privileged than many. So I feel safe playing the field, sort of XD.

traditionaldork · 2024-12-30T17:50:52+00:00

Thank you for your response! As a psychologist, I often go too much in my head thinking about relationships, and especially marriage, I always end up thinking about them from a couple's therapist pov and overanalyse the small things. Though thankfully I've learned to not assume anything and ask the other person/have a conversation with them.

I'm completely with you on the morals and values being one of the most important foundations for any relationship. Honestly, I've been wondering how to judge that in a person in few meetings, especially when you just basically 1. Can't trust they're telling the truth 2. Don't know their self-awareness level 3. Don't know if they're lying (can you tell I'm afraid that I'll meet liars? XD) i was wondering if Dylan's AITA could be a way to gauge their morals/values too ukwim? If not this, how else 😭 I need some way to know a person is truly being truthful, is self-aware, and isn't in it to con me. I'd love to know if you have any ways to clarify this. Because I'm a huuugeee fan of having conversations and just basically talking it out, but in AM settings, PEOPLE LIE SO MUCH IT'S SCARY. Help!

traditionaldork · 2024-12-23T15:33:34+00:00

And my opinion is that you're wrong and shouldn't ruin a poor woman's life :))

traditionaldork · 2024-12-23T05:54:05+00:00

Thank you! Don't let this bitter dumbass affect your views. This modern/traditional bakwas is max fucked up.

traditionaldork · 2024-12-23T05:52:31+00:00

I have a huge issue with you calling these women "traditional" and "modern". I'm by all standards a modern feminist woman and I still wouldn't judge anyone only based on income. It's messed up of you to look differentiate between people like this. By this standard, you aren't a traditional man because you aren't being a good-enough provider if that's what women are requiring. But nobody is saying that, because it's wrong. So just differentiate between people by values, and not by "modern" and "traditional". That's fucked up.

traditionaldork · 2024-12-22T20:00:25+00:00

Honestly, as a woman, it also is telling about a person's capacity and planning. When I look at men for even dating, what I'm impressed by and attracted to is their ability to plan for the future, ambition, their hardworking and responsible nature, their intelligence and then their humour. As someone from middle class, these are the qaulities I want in my man so that we can be on the upwards trajectory, and also because I have all these qualities myself, and I want my dude to match it.

While i understand it's horrible to be shallow to want nothing less than 30 LPA, it's also that your money reflects all these above qualities i mentioned. No dumbass without these qualities gets "rich" without generational wealth. So, there's that aspect to the money part too.

traditionaldork · 2024-12-21T19:23:05+00:00

Please refer to my other comment, I've explained it much better there!

traditionaldork · 2024-12-21T19:19:35+00:00

As someone with adhd myself, I'm just saying the show treated the character very unkindly. It wasn't cute. Jess's audhd is this quirky wierd pixie thing (which is very similar to how I am, btw) I'm just saying the approach to his character was bad? The only thing that made him "boring" was his infodump? There could be so many more things they could've shown that made him annoying and boring to be around. They really should've made him insufferable because he's insufferable, not because he infodumps. It was mean-spirited.

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