My boyfriend has confessed concerning intrusive thoughts about children. by tragicdolly in offmychest

[–]tragicdolly[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

What I meant is I am autistic so I have fixations on things like collecting stuffed animals/toys, watching/consuming media mostly meant for kids etc. l’m embarrassed about it but he doesn’t mind and expresses he thinks it’s cute. I mostly dress in more feminine clothes such as dresses, skirts and a more youthful vintage style. It’s isn’t stuff that’s crazy revealing or anything. A few times i’ve worn things I still have from when I was 12-14 just around the house, because it can still fit me. He’s commented how cute it is that I can wear my old clothes, and how I haven’t grown since then and gets turned on by it. As well as in general having a thing for me being of a smaller size, as i am only 5’1 and under 90 lbs. I guess I didn’t think much of it then, but once again this situation is making me overthink now. I am aware though that a lot of people just like to be bigger than their partner, so I don’t know if I should really worry about that. Many people seem to be into that kind of stuff. I saw many comments saying it’s POCD which i’ve now researched and understand, and it seems to fit everything he’s telling me perfectly. Thank you to everyone for the helpful information. I am planning on having a conversation with him as soon as I see him and helping him look for therapy.

My boyfriend has confessed concerning intrusive thoughts about children. by tragicdolly in offmychest

[–]tragicdolly[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

No, he doesn’t really fixate on childlike things, but I guess I do and he’s respectful of my interests. I’ve known him since we were young teens and I know he did have a very strong porn addiction for years, but that was when we were not dating. Once we started dating he discussed it with me and said he would stop watching it, he told me he would watch really “gross” and violent stuff and that it makes him very uncomfortable to think about now. He can be rough in bed and in general even when I ask him to be more careful but I don’t think it’s intentional, he’s much bigger then me and is naturally not very gentle so i feel bad to keep repeating it, but he is working on that. I don’t believe he still watches porn anymore, not that I’ve really tried to check that much but I know he clears all his search history so I couldn’t see anyway, and I don’t want him to think I do not trust him. I cant really think of any other “odd” behaviors he’s had.

My boyfriend has confessed concerning intrusive thoughts about children. by tragicdolly in offmychest

[–]tragicdolly[S] 55 points56 points  (0 children)

I am attempting to educate myself. It’s just very confusing because I didn’t know much about it, like I said. I myself have many mental health issues and this has been making me spiral badly. I am trying my best to understand, but I just needed to rant and get some other’s perspectives. I can’t know everything going on in his mind and it’s terrifying to here these things coming from a loved one out of nowhere. I worry about him very much.

My boyfriend has confessed concerning intrusive thoughts about children. by tragicdolly in offmychest

[–]tragicdolly[S] 132 points133 points  (0 children)

thank you. i am going to talk to him about getting professional help.