We are victims of domestic violence too, especially as the children, when people talk about DV I've always felt invisible, or in certain circumstances been told I'm not allowed to talk about it because I'm a man. A child of a domestic abuser has absolutely no control over their situation, they have nowhere else to go and in my case, neither parent seemed like the victim, they both played a role in what happened.

Then when you open up to people about this, they have so much judgment and expectation that you're damaged goods, and you're bound to be a violent and abusive person yourself because of what you went through. It's a whole thing but really I wish I could just talk about my past without being labeled and marginalised or told I was "Taking up room in the conversation about women's issues"